We are currently on our honeymoon trip and my wife insisted we go to the mall. It is more than an hour away but she insisted for several days because
she wants to buy bedsheets and pillowcases to take home.
I finally caved and spent half an hour yesterday planning today’s trip, via Bus>Boat>Taxi in order to get there, and same story to get back.
I showed her that there probably isn’t alot to see there and that prices are probably not that good but she really wanted to.
Today we went, and it was just as I imagined, horrible, stressful and we didn’t find anything.
Now she is pissed at me that I wasted and ruined her entire day, because I should have checked online before we went (I totally did)
Since I was the wan who planned the trip, I’m now 100% at fault..
Feels like I can’t win, she always wants to go to the mall and if we don’t then she pouts about it for a long time, when we do she is annoyed when I don’t want to buy overpriced shit we don’t need or can buy at home…
AITA for going even though I knew it would end like this?
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We are currently on our honeymoon trip and my wife insisted we go to the mall. It is more than an hour away but she insisted for several days because
she wants to buy bedsheets and pillowcases to take home.
I finally caved and spent half an hour yesterday planning today’s trip, via Bus>Boat>Taxi in order to get there, and same story to get back.
I showed her that there probably isn’t alot to see there and that prices are probably not that good but she really wanted to.
Today we went, and it was just as I imagined, horrible, stressful and we didn’t find anything.
Now she is pissed at me that I wasted and ruined her entire day, because I should have checked online before we went (I totally did)
Since I was the wan who planned the trip, I’m now 100% at fault..
Feels like I can’t win, she always wants to go to the mall and if we don’t then she pouts about it for a long time, when we do she is annoyed when I don’t want to buy overpriced shit we don’t need or can buy at home…
AITA for going even though I knew it would end like this?
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> I might be the asshole because I kind of knew this was going to be a waste of time for both of us, but went anyway because I didn’t want to take a stand against it and I didn’t want to hear her complain about not going
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You have bigger problems than sheets if you are resorting to Reddit on your honeymoon
NTA but why didn’t you marry her if this is what she’s like
NTA but what a crappy way to start a marriage.
NTA on this, but it seems that both of you have different personalities also.
She is the TAH considering it was her own idea (going to the mall), and now she blamed you for it. I think you should first have a discussion with her of your expectations, but it seems that your marriage does have some issues which you need to sort out and discuss first.
NTA, but it seems like you have bigger problems.
As people love to say on here when the genders are reversed: you have a wife problem. NTA.
Erm why did you marry her is she is an entitled diva. Enjoy married live of if your lucky enjoy the divorce!
>I was the wan
Bro really?
Is it too late for an annulment?
NTA – Not your fault it didn’t go the way she hoped, she can’t blame you for it. Kinda sounds like she hasn’t fully realized that malls are not like what they were when we were younger; they are all dying now and hardly any good shops left.
NTA but like many have asked, if this is how she actually behaves, then why marry her
Congrats on the wedding! Hate to break it to you, this is your life now.
Get used to the lack of accountability buddy
You’re TA for marrying her. This is what your life will be like going forward. Enjoy!
NTA and good luck with the future because she seems horrible.
NTA
She insisted and now she’s pissed YOU ruined her day? B-tch please! She asked for this and you made it happen despite how out of the way it was.
NTA, what was so special about these linens that you were wasting this time on your honeymoon?
Didn’t she want to go to the mall allatime before you were married?
Welcome to marriage, rookie!
TA for complaining about your mall addicted wife on reddit while on your honeymoon.
NTA, you’ve done a great service by taking this woman out of the dating field
Oh boy. NTA, but you really need to let her plan whatever she wants to do from now on. Learn a lesson & move on. Hope this doesn’t turn into a pattern
NTA. She’s already acting like this during your honeymoon? I think you should consider an annulment cause what the heck is her problem..
Long road ahead, brother. Buckle up
NTA for going, but you will be if you allow it to happen again.
She’s your wife, not your teenager (hopefully), she’s old enough to do her own research, plan her own trips, and spend her own money. You’re equal partners now, it’s time for her to start taking responsibility too.
It’s a pattern
Either she owns it and takes responsibility, or your life is going to be hell
NTA
next time she has a brilliant idea like going to the mall, agree with her AND tell her you’re happy to go, she just needs to plan it, and figure out how.
She has a major brain disconnect: Idea = actuality
I think it, so it must be… you my friend, due to your marriage are learning how to become a magician, pull the near impossible out your ass on a moments notice…
And if it doesn’t exactly match her idea, yer wrong. Eventually you will shutdown and stop everything because you are wrong, so why put effort into being wrong
You’re on your honeymoon? Yikes. I suggest couples counseling because you 2 need to learn to communicate.