So idk if it’s like this everywhere but only juniors and seniors can go to prom by themselves, if a freshman and Junior want to go they have to have an upperclassman.
This year I’m a junior and so I can go by myself. A girl, who is a sophomore, I’m not exactly close with asked me multiple times throughout the year if she could go with me and I have said no every single time. Well the other day I was talking about it to my best friend (a Junior) and said that “we should get tickets together because it’ll be cheaper” and the girl buts in and goes “when are you getting your ticket”, I was like “I don’t know, why?”. Well she goes, “I have my money, when do you want me to give it to you?”.
Which I feel like is a kinda wtf thing cuz I’ve said I’m not taking you. And mind you she’s the type of girl who complains about everything then gloats about how good she is at everything, it’s exhausting. She does insults (at everyone but me, anything I say she has to agree and if I call her out on insults she’ll apologize). And last thing she knew me and my friend were gonna take two graduates that we’re close with to prom (that didn’t work out).
And the whole thing is her brother (who is an upper class man) cannot take her.
I don’t remember what I said to her but then she was like “well my mom is gonna make me go to prom”. I said, “what is she gonna do, come up to the school and go ‘My baby needs to go to prom!’, which no one would put past her.
it ended up with her saying “well, my mom already bought my flowers”, I told her “that’s not my problem when I, and others, have already told you no”, and in my mind it was like ‘that’s a shitty thing to say’ and then when I talked to my mom she was like “she could be lying” and I proceeded to be like “that’s still messed up??”. And she did it in a pouty, sulky way.
Well it ended with her being like “my mom will probably make my brother take me”, I thought the ENTIRE reason you’ve been asking is because he couldn’t take you???
Anyways, AITA?
Edit: idk how true it is, it could be my friends messing with me BUT if you get tickets with an underclass you have to show up together. That would put me and my friends on a weird schedule. My mom says it’s not that big of a deal but I don’t want to sit there and wait on her for anything. And my mom says I should just do it since she’s buying her own ticket.
Edit2: I know it’s not an excuse but she was also homeschooled until like 7th grade or something, so on the irl behalf it shows.
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So idk if it’s like this everywhere but only juniors and seniors can go to prom by themselves, if a freshman and Junior want to go they have to have an upperclassman.
This year I’m a junior and so I can go by myself. A girl, who is a sophomore, I’m not exactly close with asked me multiple times throughout the year if she could go with me and I have said no every single time. Well the other day I was talking about it to my best friend (a Junior) and said that “we should get tickets together because it’ll be cheaper” and the girl buts in and goes “when are you getting your ticket”, I was like “I don’t know, why?”. Well she goes, “I have my money, when do you want me to give it to you?”.
Which I feel like is a kinda wtf thing cuz I’ve said I’m not taking you. And mind you she’s the type of girl who complains about everything then gloats about how good she is at everything, it’s exhausting. She does insults (at everyone but me, anything I say she has to agree and if I call her out on insults she’ll apologize). And last thing she knew me and my friend were gonna take two graduates that we’re close with to prom (that didn’t work out).
And the whole thing is her brother (who is an upper class man) cannot take her.
I don’t remember what I said to her but then she was like “well my mom is gonna make me go to prom”. I said, “what is she gonna do, come up to the school and go ‘My baby needs to go to prom!’, which no one would put past her.
it ended up with her saying “well, my mom already bought my flowers”, I told her “that’s not my problem when I, and others, have already told you no”, and in my mind it was like ‘that’s a shitty thing to say’ and then when I talked to my mom she was like “she could be lying” and I proceeded to be like “that’s still messed up??”. And she did it in a pouty, sulky way.
Well it ended with her being like “my mom will probably make my brother take me”, I thought the ENTIRE reason you’ve been asking is because he couldn’t take you???
Anyways, AITA?
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NTA. You said no multiple times, and she just kept acting like ‘no’ was a suggestion. Her mom buying flowers before securing a date is a her problem, not a you problem. At this point, it sounds less like she wants to go with you and more like she’s on a mission to wear you down. Stand your ground—prom is supposed to be fun, not a hostage situation.
I vote NTA. If you don’t want to take the girl you don’t have to take her. She can go herself in a year or two. If you don’t like her period then you don’t have to hang out with her. I am sure she likes you but that’s no excuse for pestering someone.
No means no.
NTA. She doesnt get to force you to do what she wants. No is a compete sentence.
NTA. She doesnt get to force you to do what she wants. No is a compete sentence.
Nta. It’s always in your best interest to have these conversation privately, and in person when at all possible, and to be kind. But you absolutely are doing the right thing by not taking her. You are right to follow your instincts here, way too much drama.
Flowers… spoil. Who the F buys flowers in advance?
Also, she’s harassing you so you were justified in being blunt NTA
> She does insults (at everyone but me, anything I say she has to agree and if I call her out on insults she’ll apologize).
Sounds like she has a crush on you and this is part of a plan of strong-arming herself into dating you. But despite what she seems to think, you have to consent in order for that plan to work.
NTA and tell your mom plainly, “This girl is a bully and I don’t like her. I don’t want to be around her even just to show up to prom together.”
NTA. Sounds like she may have a crush on you and doesn’t have the best social skills/experience to express that healthily. She could also just be fake af and make jokes about you when she’s with other people, idk her.
But yeah NTA. It’s weird that people feel like TA for not putting themselves in a situation where they’d be uncomfortable.
NTA and don’t cave. You gain nothing by caving.
Do your own thing. None of this is your problem
Stick to your guns. There is no reason you should feel obligated to take her.
Nta. No is a complete sentence. If a guy did this to a girl he’d be labeled a creep. She needs therapy.
NTA. No means no.
NTA.
Keep it short and polite. Every time she asks, answer, “No, I am not taking you to prom. I’ve already told you this. Please stop harassing me. Thank you.”
At this point it is probably safer to do this where other people, especially adults, are listening. Be polite, be calm. Practice saying it politely and calmly. It’s okay to be annoyed or even angry, but it is safer when dealing with someone this manipulative to act polite, be clear, and be public so that there are witnesses.
You do not owe her an explanation. Don’t even go there. If she presses, remember: “No, I am not taking you to prom. I’ve already told you this. Please stop harassing me. Thank you.”
Repeat, repeat, repeat. Don’t engage beyond that for anything related to you taking her to prom.
Get an adult involved if you feel comfortable. I understand it’s difficult at your age and can potentially be awkward, but don’t rule it out. Remember that you are the one being harassed and that she does not have the right to force you to do anything.
“No, I am not taking you to prom. I’ve already told you this. Please stop harassing me. Thank you.”
NTA you’ve said no everytime she brought it up, if you take her now you only showing her that she can ignore peoples boundaries and eventually get her way, if she pushes enough times a “no” Will turn into a “yes”
Do not take her to the prom you’ll only be rewarding bad behavior sadly
No
NTA
No is a complete sentence.
No no no no NO is clear even to a cat
NTA. Why does she feel entitled to go to a prom that’s not hers? Weirdo.
NTA
My Prom had the same rules.
Plus wjen buying tickets you could only get 2 max.
They wwee not going to let some 11th gr. Buy 10 tix for his 10th grade buddies…
NTA – I hate to use it but if you were a girl and a boy was trying to force you to go to prom with him there’d be an uproar.
He’d be getting detention at least.
Tell a teacher.