I (17F) have been friends with maya (17F) since we were 12. it was a little competitive but we had alot of fun together sometimes . maya started dating this guy, sam, a few months ago I’ve never really liked him, but I kept it to myself because it wasn’t my business
Two weeks ago, people at school started acting weird around me and giving me looks, whispering, and even someone asking if I was okay being second choice. I was so confused until one girl told me maya said I had a thing for her boyfriend and that I was apparently secretly inlove and obsessed with him
I was so weirded out I talked to maya privately, and she said that she just told one girl I got weird around sam and she laughed it off and said she was joking.
I let it go for a few days, because i knew she just wanted the attention and some gossip. but the rumor kept spreading Someone even said I secretly text sam late at night, which never happened and other people kept adding other stuff ontop of the rumor. It started messing with my reputation people called me a snake and a boyfriend snatcher
A little backstory: back in October, maya hooked up with a guy from another school at a party while she and sam were already together she says its her biggest regret and i promised to never tell anyone ever and I never planned to tell anyone
,but when she kept letting a rumor spread that made me look desperate and creepy, I told the same girl that runs her mouth and spread my rumor.
And within a day, it got to sam. sam broke up woth maya and called her a quote disgusting cheater. Now maya is furious, saying I ruined her relationship and exposed something personal just to get revenge.
She texted me this long paragraph sayingthat we are no longer friends and that im a bad person and a bad friend.
I’m still getting side eyes from people who believe the rumor she started.
My mom says I was wrong for telling her secret, even if she lied.
so what do u think, AITA?
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I (17F) have been friends with maya (17F) since we were 12. it was a little competitive but we had alot of fun together sometimes . maya started dating this guy, sam, a few months ago I’ve never really liked him, but I kept it to myself because it wasn’t my business
Two weeks ago, people at school started acting weird around me and giving me looks, whispering, and even someone asking if I was okay being second choice. I was so confused until one girl told me maya said I had a thing for her boyfriend and that I was apparently secretly inlove and obsessed with him
I was so weirded out I talked to maya privately, and she said I was that she just told one person I got weird around sam and she laughed it off and said she was joking.
I let it go for a few days, because i knew she just wanted the attention and some gossip. but the rumor kept spreading Someone even I secretly text sam late at night, which never happened and people kept adding other stuff ontop of the rumor. It started messing with my reputation people called me a snake and a boyfriend snatcher
A little backstory: back in October, maya hooked up with a guy from another school at a party while she and sam were already together. i promised to never tell anyone ever and I never planned to tell anyone
,but when she kept letting a rumor spread that made me look desperate and creepy, I told the same girl that runs her mouth and spread my rumor.
And within a day, it got to sam. sam broke up woth maya and called her a quote disgusting cheater. Now maya is furious, saying I ruined her relationship and exposed something personal just to get revenge.
She texted me this long paragraph sayingthat we are no longer friends and that im a bad person and a bad friend.
I’m still getting side eyes from people who believe the rumor she started.
My mom says I was wrong for telling her secret, even if she lied.
so what do u think, AITA?
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NTA. She lied about you. You tried to ignore the consequences, but they kept on building. You went to her to solve the problem and she blew you off. So you tried Plan C. What else were you supposed to do?
I think if you roll around in the mud, you are going to get dirty.
And that’s exactly what happened.
You are young and now you both know.
Chose you friends carefully and think before you open your mouth.
NTA – just young people stuff.
NTA, honestly, badass revenge. I would do the same. If she’s spreading rumors about her SUPPOSED best friend, then honestly, she’s the asshole. That is some toxic behavior, and she shouldn’t’ve cheated on her boyfriend in the first place.
drama relationships. nta your mother is all for the girl code. we all make mistakes, it’s how we respond that shows ones character. be well stand well
NTA. Don’t start none, won’t be none.
Words to live by, Maya.
NTA. If you can’t take the heat, stay out of the kitchen!
NTA. I mean, you did promise not to tell BUT I totally understand why you did and it’s honestly fair.
Besides, Sam deserves to know his GF is a cheater – it could have real health complications for him.
“i let it go, knowing she just wanted some attention and gossip”
drop her immediately. she’s gaslighting you into thinking that that is an ok excuse for why to start a rumor about her friend of 5 years. you deserve better.
but also, WHY DIDNT YOU TELL THAT GUY SOONER!?!?!?!?!? that is NOT ok. she’s an AH for cheating you’re an AH for letting it happen.
ESH you kinda just proved her rumour right…
I am on your moms side. However, you are still young and getting experience and building character. But this is more of a lesson for the future, therefore learn from it. The things now happening will not matter in few months, so forget about it :))
YTA, and so is Maya. Anyone who starts rumors about you and lets them run wild without correcting it, is not your friend. Also, anyone who spills friends’ secrets is not their friend. You both ruined your friendship. I think Sam also had a right to know she cheated, and that Maya cannot be trusted, but still, it is a huge betrayal to out your friend like that. Also, you are all still in grade school. I doubt the relationship would’ve lasted anyways
She did the F Around and now she’s living the Find Out
She told lies about someone with dirt on her. This is what happens when you bite the hand that feeds you.
Nta
You’re graduating soon, right? Are you staying in your home town? This will pass. Use this as a learning experience to vet your friends and not let your emotions control your voice.
You didn’t ruin her relationship she ruined it by cheating on her boyfriend and then she started spreading rumours about you it was wrong to spread it but I don’t blame you tbf but it isn’t like you was lying about it