People in this situation
Charlie(cousins boyfriend, 25M)
Vivian(Francys daughter, cousin, 24F)
Francy(Cousins mother, my aunt from my dads side, my legal guardian, 49F)
Me(16F)
I live with vivan and francy.
Little context: Charile and Vivan started dating around 2 years ago. In those 2 years, francy became so involved in their relationship. Constantly wanted to talk to the both of them, wanting to go out with them, stalking charlies social media platforms, and stalking all of his friends. And any little thing that seemed off to her, shed flip out over as if she was dating him. She’d tell her daughter what she saw and vivan would get so fed up with it. Francy would continue to stalk charlies reposts on tiktok, his likes on instagram, what she could see that he commented on, charlies friends reposts, charlies ex’s reposts and main posts, deep dive into who everyone was following and being follwed by. Mind you, this just got worse as the relationship time grew. Around a week ago, francy found a picture of charile holding another girls waist in a photo. Francy went crazy. She didnt eat, she didnt sleep, she started getting into old habits. She then proceeded to stalk this girls instagram, tiktok, and everything else, with fake accounts that she made so she wouldnt be found out…Like this is genuinley fucking crazy. She tells vivian and vivian already knew, vivian already talked to HER boyfriend about it.
Present(V+C break up) vivan tells francy that she shouldnt be texting charlie and that francy can actually delete charlies number. Does francy text charlie? No. But does she delete his number? Also, no. Francy is STILL stalking charlies social media, finding girls in his likes and stalking them, going through charlies follwing and follwers, going through the girls follwing and follwers. Shes genuinly f*cking crazy. and whiles shes doing this, vivian and charile are broken up and not talking to each other. Francy and I are talking about the situation, and shes telling me everything shes been doing and laughing about it. And im just standing there like…wtf youre mad weird dude. And i tell her that. I tell her that shes getting mad over what charlie does and stalking charlie constantly as if SHES his ex girlfriend. Like??
My cousin and i are talking through text, my cousin is talking to her mom through text, me and francy are together in the same house So I go to my cousin about it and i tell her. And then my cousin texts my aunt like “what the f*ck, youre being weird stop stalking my ex boyfriend(etc)”
So then my aunt busts through my door and says:
She said she hates me, and that she shoudlve left me in foster care to be badly treated and to get terrible things done to me, im worthless and that im just jealous of her and her daughter because my mom died when i was younger so im trying to ruin their relationship.
imagine this just like 10x worse.
AITAH?
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People in this situation
Charlie(cousins boyfriend, 25M)
Vivian(Francys daughter, cousin, 24F)
Francy(Cousins mother, my aunt from my dads side, my legal guardian, 49F)
Me(16F)
I live with vivan and francy.
Little context: Charile and Vivan started dating around 2 years ago. In those 2 years, francy became so involved in their relationship. Constantly wanted to talk to the both of them, wanting to go out with them, stalking charlies social media platforms, and stalking all of his friends. And any little thing that seemed off to her, shed flip out over as if she was dating him. She’d tell her daughter what she saw and vivan would get so fed up with it. Francy would continue to stalk charlies reposts on tiktok, his likes on instagram, what she could see that he commented on, charlies friends reposts, charlies ex’s reposts and main posts, deep dive into who everyone was following and being follwed by. Mind you, this just got worse as the relationship time grew. Around a week ago, francy found a picture of charile holding another girls waist in a photo. Francy went crazy. She didnt eat, she didnt sleep, she started getting into old habits. She then proceeded to stalk this girls instagram, tiktok, and everything else, with fake accounts that she made so she wouldnt be found out…Like this is genuinley fucking crazy. She tells vivian and vivian already knew, vivian already talked to HER boyfriend about it.
Present(V+C break up) vivan tells francy that she shouldnt be texting charlie and that francy can actually delete charlies number. Does francy text charlie? No. But does she delete his number? Also, no. Francy is STILL stalking charlies social media, finding girls in his likes and stalking them, going through charlies follwing and follwers, going through the girls follwing and follwers. Shes genuinly f*cking crazy. and whiles shes doing this, vivian and charile are broken up and not talking to each other. Francy and I are talking about the situation, and shes telling me everything shes been doing and laughing about it. And im just standing there like…wtf youre mad weird dude. And i tell her that. I tell her that shes getting mad over what charlie does and stalking charlie constantly as if SHES his ex girlfriend. Like??
My cousin and i are talking through text, my cousin is talking to her mom through text, me and francy are together in the same house So I go to my cousin about it and i tell her. And then my cousin texts my aunt like “what the f*ck, youre being weird stop stalking my ex boyfriend(etc)”
So then my aunt busts through my door and says:
She said she hates me, and that she shoudlve left me in foster care to be badly treated and to get terrible things done to me, im worthless and that im just jealous of her and her daughter because my mom died when i was younger so im trying to ruin their relationship.
imagine this just like 10x worse.
AITAH?
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NTA for telling your cousin. Also, this is as bad as you think it is, or maybe worse. I encourage you to:
– Avoid introducing any friend or romantic partner to Francy, ever. Also avoid ever mentioning one.
– If/when Francy tries to tell you about the weird/inappropriate things she is doing, say, “I can’t hear these things” and if she keeps going, walk away. Do not participate in these conversations.
– Get out as soon as you are old enough. You’ve had a hard enough life already, you don’t need your guardian dumping on you.
She’s living her life through her daughter. She needs outside interests.
Can you live elsewhere? Grandparents? Other aunts?
This will pass over, and she will feel bad about what she said to you, but I would want out now. Tell the person you want to live with what she said so they truly understand why you want to live with them.
Can you and your cousin get an apartment together with other roommates? You could get a part time job, but she would have to cover the rest of your expenses. She could become the foster mother and get the foster pay.