me (21f) and my coworker (29f) have a lot of overlapping shifts together (service desk at the grocery store.) in the 7ish months i’ve worked there i can not even begin to tell you the amount of shifts i’ve covered for her, came in early or stayed late, or anything in between because she loves to call out. every time i ask why she does it (i’m talking like weekly basis) she always just says how much she hates the job and every customer and the work and blah blah.
she refuses to cover anyones shifts but will just straight up not show up if she doesn’t want to work, leaves early randomly cause of “how much she hates it here” and is extremely unreliable. she’s always complaining about her car and how it needs a lot of money put into it and how the job doesn’t pay her enough. i have to hear this like on a daily basis at least. usually multiple times a day.
we worked together last friday and was pissed off cause the cooling something in her car went and now her ac is funky and she doesn’t have money to fix it. i can’t take the bitching anymore so i just told her maybe she’d have money if she wasn’t a shitty employee and actually worked her shifts. she got pissed at me obviously and said she’s the best employee the company has.
our boss called me in yesterday and said he gets why i’m annoyed with her but there’s a better way to say things like that. most of our coworkers are in the same boat ; she pisses everyone off but they’re basically like you could’ve been a little nicer. none of them work with her as much as i do and have had to put up with it the way i have. i really don’t care if she hates me now i just can’t fucking take how lazy she is. am i the asshole for this?
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me (21f) and my coworker (29f) have a lot of overlapping shifts together (service desk at the grocery store.) in the 7ish months i’ve worked there i can not even begin to tell you the amount of shifts i’ve covered for her, came in early or stayed late, or anything in between because she loves to call out. every time i ask why she does it (i’m talking like weekly basis) she always just says how much she hates the job and every customer and the work and blah blah.
she refuses to cover anyones shifts but will just straight up not show up if she doesn’t want to work, leaves early randomly cause of “how much she hates it here” and is extremely unreliable. she’s always complaining about her car and how it needs a lot of money put into it and how the job doesn’t pay her enough. i have to hear this like on a daily basis at least. usually multiple times a day.
we worked together last friday and was pissed off cause the cooling something in her car went and now her ac is funky and she doesn’t have money to fix it. i can’t take the bitching anymore so i just told her maybe she’d have money if she wasn’t a shitty employee and actually worked her shifts. she got pissed at me obviously and said she’s the best employee the company has.
our boss called me in yesterday and said he gets why i’m annoyed with her but there’s a better way to say things like that. most of our coworkers are in the same boat ; she pisses everyone off but they’re basically like you could’ve been a little nicer. none of them work with her as much as i do and have had to put up with it the way i have. i really don’t care if she hates me now i just can’t fucking take how lazy she is. am i the asshole for this?
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> when i said it to her i was super pissed and basically yelled it at her because i’m just so at my wits end. she seems more stressed than anything when it comes to money which like i get and i could’ve tried to gently suggest a second job or changing her hours instead of snapping
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You’re young. Learn to keep your opinions (no matter how correct they might be) to yourself….especially if you’re not actually good friends with that person. Your coworker will get fired eventually.
Nta if anything it shows you are more real to her then 90% of the people she must be around
NTA – Your Boss is the embodiment of the leadership adage “you get what you tolerate.”
YTA cant act like that at work. Be professional. Hating her is fine, expressing it on the clock is not
NTA.
This is a classic example of people being idiots, but one is at fault for pointing it out.
NTA. This person no call/no shows regularly and openly compains about hating the job and the manager reprimands to YOU about telling her to work harder? Her behavior is bad for morale, and management not doing anything about it is even worse for morale. She’s about to be 30 and should have by now gained the life skills to both find a job she at least doesn’t hate and act professionally at that job. Would it have been more professional of you to ask her to stop and then report to the manager when she continued? Sure. But it’s not on you to compensate for weak management.
Your boss is suggesting that you may have said it without the swearing. But NTA for feeling that way.
How is she working customer service and not having complaints from the customers? Nice to them?
NTA!
NTA – why is she still even employed there?
usually pretty ok with people? like they stop at the desk to talk to her sometimes. but she says its a facade and she hates everyone and that they’re sheep and stuff and they fall for her tricks and honestly i really do not care what sort of evil mastermind she thinks she is 😭