I’m a minor, and my dad (43M) has always had a short temper, especially with me. The other day, I was in the middle of an online summer school assignment when my 2-year-old brother needed something. I couldn’t figure out what he wanted — he was whining and crying, so it wasn’t clear. My dad, who was just lying on the couch scrolling through YouTube, told me to “stop being so dumb” and help him. I asked why he couldn’t just help since he wasn’t doing anything, and that set him off. He started yelling at me, calling me stupid and selfish. Then he kicked a pillow in my face, grabbed my brother, and stormed out of the room. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened. I’m starting to feel like I’m being treated unfairly, but I don’t know — am I the asshole for saying something?
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I’m a minor, and my dad (43M) has always had a short temper, especially with me. The other day, I was in the middle of an online summer school assignment when my 2-year-old brother needed something. I couldn’t figure out what he wanted — he was whining and crying, so it wasn’t clear. My dad, who was just lying on the couch scrolling through YouTube, told me to “stop being so dumb” and help him. I asked why he couldn’t just help since he wasn’t doing anything, and that set him off. He started yelling at me, calling me stupid and selfish. Then he kicked a pillow in my face, grabbed my brother, and stormed out of the room. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened. I’m starting to feel like I’m being treated unfairly, but I don’t know — am I the asshole for saying something?
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> I’m a minor, and my dad (43M) has always had a short temper, especially with me. The other day, I was in the middle of an online summer school assignment when my 2-year-old brother needed something. I couldn’t figure out what he wanted — he was whining and crying, so it wasn’t clear. My dad, who was just lying on the couch scrolling through YouTube, told me to “stop being so dumb” and help him. I asked why he couldn’t just help since he wasn’t doing anything, and that set him off. He started yelling at me, calling me stupid and selfish. Then he kicked a pillow in my face, grabbed my brother, and stormed out of the room. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened. I’m starting to feel like I’m being treated unfairly, but I don’t know — am I the asshole for saying something?
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I’m sorry he treats you this way! In my house, if a kid was working on homework, you DID NOT DISTURB them. Certainly if you were doing homework and he was scrolling Youtube, he could afford to take time away from his busy life to handle your brother.
NTA. He’s not being a good parent. He wants you to take care of his responsibility.
Next time, tell him you are doing an assignment and you don’t know what the toddler wants. If you can work in your room, do.
Your job is school. It’s just as important a job as being employed. You should not be disturbed barring a genuine emergency
Where is your mother? Is she ok with you being abused in this manner?