I don’t know why my ex feels so entitled to my life, literally he has opinions on everything I do, we’re not together anymore because of him but he’s mad at me. Its so confusing
Anyways, it might be a little confusing but I’m still married to my husband but were separated. I did sign the divorce papers but its taking a while for it to finalize, so we will call this man Tony. Tony and I have 3 kids, we knew each other since 12 grade, and go marries our sohpmore year of college. Our relationshipwas good, yes we would arguebut every couple does that. We got a house together whatever, I really did have faith in our relationship, and thought it would last but it didn’t.
So 9 months ago Tony got into a car accident with his friends, they were heading to their friends funrel. None of them had their seat belts o so it cause many injuries, Tony had broken bones in his legs, he gained a concussion since he was the one driving so now he talks very slow, needs help to think about certain things. It was a lot at that moment, he had to be in a wheelchair, I was the only one there for him no matter what.
Even when he would catch an attitude with me, sit in dark room alone, when his father passed, I still did everything for him. But while I was being the good wife, he was cheating on me with some woman online. But I also found out that she’s been to our house, like I was honestly over it because they’re both disgusting people. But mind you during that time I gave birth to our 3rd daughter, while I was taking care of him.
So I was still in denial, processing everything so it took me time to get in contact with a family lawyer. I already knew it would be hard on the kids, they noticed It all. Anyways, Tony stays with his mom but he does see the kids. I decided to drop them off because I was going in that direction to run errands, that was all. When I got to the house I told Tony I was outside, he came out, and helped the kids get settled inside.
That’s when he stayed outside to talk, I was ready to leave. He got straight to it, he said he doesn’t want to get this divorce so we should talk about it because the kids are going through it too. Who set that system up? Their going through this because of him. I was brutally honest, I told him after what he did we will never be together again so just be a father to the kids, and leave me alone.
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NtA…good for you…stick to your plan!
Momma, stay strong. Don’t let him manipulate you. I cannot believe that after everything you did for him, he cheated… what a POS. Please drop this loser. You deserve so much better. And you will have better. You are an inspiration
NTA and I wish you nothing but happiness
People think that they could control everything and that’s what your ex-husband thinks. You were 100% right to end it, he cheated on you after everything you’ve done for him and that’s his loss. I really do believe that once a cheater always a cheater. I also believe that if you were to forgive him that he wouldn’t think twice to doing it again because he thinks you’re gonna always forgive him.When someone like that cheats on another person it means they have absolutely no respect for the other person. I actually really respect you because not a lot of people have the guts to end it especially while married to someone who cheats and I like that you said enough is enough because it really shows that you are a strong, independent person who doesn’t take crap from others. He can whine all he wants but he messed up thats on him he needs to understand it will never happen. Focus on yourself and your kids and making sure that your kids are fully aware of the situation and realize that you need to move on with your lives.
Not the asshole. You’ve made it perfectly clear so any hope he holds out is on him.
NTA. Don’t let that man snow you. You took care of him when he was at his lowest and how does he repay you, by cheating and having his AP at your house. If he feels bad about the kids tell him to look in the mirror.
Good for you!! Stay strong because you deserve better. And don’t let he use the kids as an excuse to manipulate you. If your kids are old enough being upfront and telling them the truth is always the best policy. You can always get the kids in counseling/therapy to help them.
My father cheated on our mom, a lot actually, and we came to understand that he was a POS and our mom deserved better. I was 13yo at the time
NTA and I love your shiny spine! He is trying to use your children to manipulate you because he knows he’s a POS and has absolutely nothing positive to add to your life. I would just make sure that he’s not coaching the kids so you look like the bad guy. Otherwise, I hope the divorce goes smoothly and quickly. Best of luck!
I’m sorry but the part that stands out to me is NONE OF THEM WORE SEATBELTS in the wreck that he was in. Yeesh. All fools.
NTA
If he didn’t want a divorce he should have never of cheated. He FAFO. Do not let this man continue to manipulate you. Maybe AP can help him and take care of him.
“I did sign the divorce papers but its taking a while for it to finalize,”
Has your attorney confirmed both sides have submitted all the required signed paperwork to the court?
Op…you know your Ex is an entitled POS…do you really need to ask if you’re the bad guy for not getting back with him…?
No of course you’re NTA
Tell him he doesn’t want the divorce and you didn’t want a cheater for a husband. Looks like neither of you get what you wanted. So he can go cry to his affair partner and see if she’ll take care of him like you did when he was recovering. She won’t? Too damn bad he was willing to throw out a good woman for cheap ass. But you know you’re worth more than that.
NTA Don’t entertain any conversations that aren’t directly related to child care. You’re free to walk away from Tony.
NTA
You deserve to be happy and he’s not the one.
The kids will be fine. So many people are children of divorce. You count. You matter. If you’re happy, they’ll be ok
NTA. Quite frankly he PMO big time. I mean GD the nerve. 😡🤮
NTA for all the reasons others are saying already. Take care of you and the kids first and foremost. You might not get back your time spent taking care of his disgusting ass, but I hope you live a better life.
So what was you fault in this relationship? It takes two. Certainly you weren’t perfect
NTA
If you stay, you teach your children that it is OK to cheat and/or be cheated on. That people who give you their all are not deserving of basics fidelity and respect.
He wasn’t so worried about the kids while with his side piece.