So I (24F) have this best friend “K.” We’ve been close since high school, but lately she’s basically turned my apartment into her second home.
At first it was chill, she’d come over after work, we’d watch Netflix, maybe order food. But now… she shows up unannounced, stays till 3AM, leaves empty energy drink cans everywhere, and once even brought a date without telling me. Like… excuse me?
She doesn’t help clean, eats my snacks (“they’re just chips, you’ll survive”), and uses my bathroom like it’s her personal spa. Last week I came home and she was literally napping in my bed with MY hoodie on.
I told her straight up that I need space, and she went off about how I’m “acting brand new” and that real friends don’t put rules on hanging out.
Now she’s giving me the silent treatment and some of our other friends think I was “too harsh.” and i kinda feel sad for this now..
So Reddit… AITA for putting boundaries with my bestie who treats my place like her Airbnb?
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So I (24F) have this best friend “K.” We’ve been close since high school, but lately she’s basically turned my apartment into her second home.
At first it was chill, she’d come over after work, we’d watch Netflix, maybe order food. But now… she shows up unannounced, stays till 3AM, leaves empty energy drink cans everywhere, and once even brought a date without telling me. Like… excuse me?
She doesn’t help clean, eats my snacks (“they’re just chips, you’ll survive”), and uses my bathroom like it’s her personal spa. Last week I came home and she was literally napping in my bed with MY hoodie on.
I told her straight up that I need space, and she went off about how I’m “acting brand new” and that real friends don’t put rules on hanging out.
Now she’s giving me the silent treatment and some of our other friends think I was “too harsh.” and i kinda feel sad for this now..
So Reddit… AITA for putting boundaries with my bestie who treats my place like her Airbnb?
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> i almost got in hands with my best friend cause she was abusing my house
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NTA, and she’s gaslighting you
Are you sure you’re not dating?
NTA. She isn’t your friend. Those who think that you’re “too harsh” can have her in their homes instead.
NTA, you finally stopped being a doormat, real friends respect boundaries
NTA. Change the locks
NTA and this person is not your friend. Also you say you came home and she was in your bed…how did she get in? She doesn’t have a key does she?
Two options:
1 – go to her place and act the same as she does in yours
2 – stop opening your door
I have a friend that is somewhat like that but he buys us food, leaves the leftovers in my fridge (if it’s in my fridge, I’m gonna eat it) and volunteers to drive whenever we go places so it doesn’t bother me as much as it did at first.
AI Slop… Read the OP, then read the comments. It’s so obvious just from the massive change in grammar style.
Then there’s the ubiquitous “half my friend say this and the other half blah, blah”, which is designed to increase engagement… this is bullshit.
Why is this even a question. If she’s taking advantage of you then don’t let her take advantage of you.
Had me until you said she was napping in your bed with your hoodie on… ok 🙄
You not the A. She is a parasite. Ask your other friends to accommodate her & her needs if they truly care. Tell them to report back in 1 month