my friend had a girlfriend and that girlfriend’s friend is also my friend, my friend and her girlfriend broke up because the girlfriend was INSANELY TOXIC. So, I was talking to my friend (who’s also the girlfriend’s friend) about the situation and she was so confused cause she thinks of her friend as the sweetest girl (the toxic girlfriend) and I was SO MAD cause that girlfriend was talking shit about her all along and at that time I had no right to tell her since I heard that shit from my friend. So since they broke up and we are all fed up with the girlfriend bullshit I told my friend what she was saying about her all along and she felt so betrayed that she had to cut her off (the toxic girlfriend). Everyone is telling me that I did the right thing and she deserves to know. But one of my friends told me that it was unnecessary and not right.
So what do you all think about it?
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my friend had a girlfriend and that girlfriend’s friend is also my friend, my friend and her girlfriend broke up because the girlfriend was INSANELY TOXIC. So, I was talking to my friend (who’s also the girlfriend’s friend) about the situation and she was so confused cause she thinks of her friend as the sweetest girl (the toxic girlfriend) and I was SO MAD cause that girlfriend was talking shit about her all along and at that time I had no right to tell her since I heard that shit from my friend. So since they broke up and we are all fed up with the girlfriend bullshit I told my friend what she was saying about her all along and she felt so betrayed that she had to cut her off (the toxic girlfriend). Everyone is telling me that I did the right thing and she deserves to know. But one of my friends told me that it was unnecessary and not right.
So what do you all think about it?
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> 1- I told my friend what her other friend said about her
2- I don’t see that I did something wrong but friend does, that’s why I need to hear someone’s else point of view
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NTA for telling her now but YTA for not telling her earlier when the gf was shit talking about her.
I completely lost track at about line 3, I would say try some fake names or something so we can work out what the hell is going on, except I can already vote YTA for getting involved with gossip/drama that sounds like it was really none of your business.
Honestly, you sound like the so-called friends who wait until after a couple breaks up to tell one that the other person had been cheating on them all along. YTA for waiting until after the break-up to tell your friend that girlfriend had been bad mouthing them all along.
ESH in my opinion. I can’t help but feel that the age range here is rather young and hopefully you’ll all grow out of this sort of behavior.
YTA for waiting until now. You had every opportunity to tell her that she was getting badmouthed and her name dragged in the dirt and you waited.
You’re in school aren’t you. This will pass. Useful lesson though is to not gossip – it creates more problems than just keeping your mouth shut and minding your OWN business.
Also, please learn some punctuation.
Edited to add NAH. Or possibly ESH. I’m not entirely sure as I struggled to follow the story. Seriously, punctuation!
And she was comfortable talking badly about your friend because??? Exactly; you didn’t intervene. You didn’t defend her. So why bother with your friend??? Your behavior is very ugly.
YTA just from the title. I tried to read, stopped on line 1 at about the 18th use of the word “friend”.