I haven’t seen my GF for the past week, and each time I’d offer to come over, she said she was too tired.
Anyway, my GF left to see a guy friend of hers for 3 days and 2 nights, and is going out to do things multiple times per day with him – way more stuff in a day then we do in an entire week.
I’ve asked to meet him in the past, she’s flatly told me no. She told me she’s never dated an Asian before, and then implied he was Asian – he’s so white he’d tan in the shade. She posts pictures of them going to events on social media, but when she posts events that she and I have gone to, doesn’t upload the pictures that include me.
AFAIK, she hasn’t told him about me and he doesn’t want to meet me.
She texted me this morning sunbathing from his porch, and I told her she’d probably be better off dating someone with a hot wife kink – and that sure as hell isn’t me.
She’s demanding an apology.
AITA?
The main thing that’s pissing me off, is she framed going to see him as a “might as well while I’m in the area” thing, whereas in reality it took her x2 as long to go drive to see him, than it would have done to just come home.
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Dude, move on. She’s testing the waters with this other guy and making you watch while she does it. Don’t be with someone who has no respect for you. It’s anybody’s guess what you meant by “hot wife kink,” but you don’t need to make an apology. Just walk away.
You don’t owe her anything. She has shown you who she is and what you mean to her. Believe her.
NTA. Sounds like she’s playing dirty and this other guy is probably her boyfriend. Delete her number and move on
NTA she’s weird
nta. she’s prioritizing another guy over you, hiding you from him, and refusing to let you even meet him that’s not a respectful relationship. you didn’t even insult her, you just pointed out that what she’s doing doesn’t work for you. if she’s demanding an apology for you being honest about your boundaries, that’s a red flag.
Call her a Stepfather factory then block her, NTA
NTA. Shes a weirdo and more than likely cheating. Please LEAVE HER.
No. And why are you still entertaining that bitch? She hates you bro, she’s just too much of a dick to tell you that. I don’t know why words are even necessary at this point. Pick up your balls and walk away, with your spine.
Sounds like you’re her blanket. Something to cuddle and keep her warm when she’s home, but not something she’d post online or brag about.
NTA. Don’t apologize and block her.
wtf? She is off her rocker. Toss that piece of trash out of your life. How the hell can you call her your gf?!
She seems way more into that other guy than she is into you.
Don’t apologize, but don’t date her anymore either. If she’s not already cheating on you, she will be soon.
And if you want to let the other guy know, just phrase it as something like, “I’ve been dating [girlfriend] for [time period], but I’ve recently broken up with her because it really seemed like she was dating you too. I don’t know whether that was my imagination or not, but I thought I’d let you know, in case you also wanted some clarity about your relationship with her.”
ESH
>She texted me this morning sunbathing from his porch, and I told her she’d probably be better off dating someone with a hot wife kink – and that sure as hell isn’t me.
She sucks for texting you from another guy’s place.
You? Who the hell makes up terms like “hot wife kink”. Wanting to have a hot wife is not a kink. It’s what most guys want. Nobody in a relationship makes up such silliness.
Ummm she’s not your gf bro.
If this is legit, Im glad you decided to not be a cuck any longer.
she’s pissed because cucking you was her kink.
YTA
Why are you still calling her your GF and you her BF, idiot. In no way does this sound like a relationship.
NTA she’s not worth the time move on
Move on or swallow your pride and continue to be a cuck.
She is showing you her true colours. She is cucking you and seeing if you stay to be truly cucked. Don’t apologize. She is totally throwing it in Your face
Ghost her.
Dude, run from her. This is not normal. They might even be laughing at you together.
Hotwife kink is subversive brain washing from years of desensitized porn watching ultimate goal tor reduce population.
Leave and have a big family 🙂
yes YATAH for putting up with this shit you beta cuck. Don’t apologize and mail her shit back to her. collection if possible.
Dude she’s actually cheating on you, posting it all on SM while also at the same time making you watch from the cheap seats or better yet from the bullpen as a relief pitcher with a losing record, who hopes to get in the game but never gets the call! Good luck UPDATE ME
NTA. It sounds like she has a bf, but it’s not you. You could have phrased this another way, but she doesn’t have enough respect for you or the relationship to make this work. You are right to move on.
She does what she is doing and then has the arrogance to demand an apology from you? Good grief she is a piece of work. Move on OP. Like others have said, she has shown you who she is, believe her. Life is way too short to deal with crap like this.
She is dating the other guy. Get out
NTA
Are you sure you’re her bf and not her sidepiece?
NTA. Just ghost her and move on.
UpdateMe
Does she know she’s your gf?
NTA – You’re the side piece. Move on unless you like being shat on like that.
Literally being cheated on how on earth is it possible you’re the ah here? get help or admit u are ai ragebate
Move on!
NTA – she’s mad because you hit the nail exactly on the head and she probably doesn’t like to admit to herself that that’s the case.
Accountability is kryptonite to some women
You need to end it. You’re in a relationship with her, but she isn’t in one with you.
Anyone that puts that much effort into seeing and being with someone else while you’re dating them does not care about you
She is flaunting her relationship with another dude in front of your face and you’re wondering if she deserves an apology? What she deserves is to be kicked to the curb. She’s being so blatantly disrespectful you should drop her today.
NTA. But you’re not her boyfriend, you’re the sidepiece.
Move on. She is not someone for you. Break off and ghost her. The disrespect that she shown you is ridiculous
Bro c’mon…
NTA, she’s not your girlfriend. Dump her and tell her to F off. Have some self respect dude.
Buddy unfortunately YOU are the other woman in this relationship
Sounds like he’s the bf and you’re the side piece. Though you’re not benefiting much on the side….
Have you met all/any of her other friends? Her family? If you tagged her in photos on socials would she immediately untag herself?
I think you’re getting used. And not in any fun ways.
Don’t be naive. Just dump her.
You’re the side piece.
NTA-You’re trending towards finding out why there’s a single chair in hotel rooms.
You’re the side piece dog.
Lmao you’re not in a relationship
Consider it a notch in the belt and move on
This isn’t real, it HAS to and I mean HASSSS to be rage bait.
She’s clearly playing head games with you and you’re falling right into her game trap. Kick her ass to the curb.
Wtf did I just read? Are you sure this person is your gf?
you know they’ve most likely… nevermind
I’m pretty sure you’re the side dude.
NTA. Why apologize for calling it what it is? Just move on. She was never yours. It was just your turn.
Why are you still dating this person?
She refuses to let you meet this man.
She is comfortable posting photos with him at events on social media, but not with you.
She puts in effort and is willing to drive a long way to see him.
You don’t even know if this man knows you exist.
Let me change my initial question, does she know that you are dating her?
You are the side piece. Just start dating someone else…
You’re not the asshole. If that you’re saying is the story and the full story, Im sure this is a shitty feeling, this girl doesnt care about you at all and its likely she’s been fucking this guy for a while. Even if he’s gay lol. Time to move on man, there are lots of fishes in the sea, and there are lots of girls who will treat you better than this b is. And then she has the nerve to ask you for an apology, shake my mf head, bitches be trippin
NTA. She wasn’t yours, it was only your turn. Move on bub
What???
I’m so confused. Sounds like you don’t have girlfriend.
So she is banging other dude and hanging out with him over you.….
So your GF has a BF. You good with that?
Next! You don’t have a girlfriend dude
Updateme
lol NTA for what you said but soft y-t-a because you’re not her boyfriend
Loo bro, she is his gf and you are a side piece… Cut that off and find someone normal.
Why do I get the feeling you think you’re in a relationship with her but she sees you as a friend and you’re just a weirdo?
Why haven’t you broken up?
She’s not your girlfriend. You are the side piece. Probably because you pay for shit.
Dump her and find someone better then her
Dumbass, stop talking to her.
She’s dating him and gaslighting you. Just end contact. It’ll be better for your mental health
Fake rage bait story. There’s no way this is real.
You realize that he’s the boyfriend and you’re the side piece right?
Dude, where’s your pride and dignity?
Dump her skanky ass!