I (23m) have always had a close relationship with my grandma. After she lost her husband (he was over 80 and didn’t have a WILL…) and her house, her abusive mother also passed away. Her sister, who inherited their mother’s house, said “you can stay in the guest bedroom if you’re willing to pay rent”. I was furious hearing about this, especially since my grandma’s mom left her nothing in the will and she was a new widow. Her sister, who was the favorite, definitely got a large amount of the inheritance and in no way needed my grandma’s money. I said some very nasty things about said sister. I made my anger very known and made no effort hiding my frustration around my grandma’s other sisters, who definitely got inheritance while my grandma had nothing. AITO for telling my grandma I want nothing to do with her sisters?
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I (23m) have always had a close relationship with my grandma. After she lost her husband (he was over 80 and didn’t have a WILL…) and her house, her abusive mother also passed away. Her sister, who inherited their mother’s house, said “you can stay in the guest bedroom if you’re willing to pay rent”. I was furious hearing about this, especially since my grandma’s mom left her nothing in the will and she was a new widow. Her sister, who was the favorite, definitely got a large amount of the inheritance and in no way needed my grandma’s money. I said some very nasty things about said sister. I made my anger very known and made no effort hiding my frustration around my grandma’s other sisters, who definitely got inheritance while my grandma had nothing. AITO for telling my grandma I want nothing to do with her sisters?
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> I believe I might be the asshole since I purposely ignore my grandma’s sisters and scoff anytime she talks about them. I believe my grandma owes her sisters nothing and they owe her everything and I make that known to my family.
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NTA. You are not required to like or keep close contact with family you don’t like.
NTA for not wanting to associate with the great aunties, or anyone else. That’s your choice.
Very stinky for being involved in this at all. None of the stuff you talked about is actually your business. Your grandmother is a grown woman (with a LOT of history you probably don’t know about, so she may even be the villain in the story). If she wants to rent a room from her sister, she can choose to do that. It’s not your business.
Your feelings are valid. It’s tough to see family take advantage like that.
It does sound like the sister was the favourite and, while it’s unfair she got the inheritance, it’s not wrong for her to ask for a nominal contribution to the household. She’s at least willing to take your grandmother in. NTA because I’m sure id be annoyed too in your position but how does your grandmother feel about it?
NTA you have a right to avoid relations you don’t like.
Info: why isnt she getting Something from her husband ? Isnt there a Default for the wife with No will ?
INFO: Was your grandma okay with staying there and paying rent, or did she feel forced into it?
THIS IS A QUESTION FOR YOUR GRANDMOTHER. WE have no clue about her sibling relationships as they grew up. Or their individual relationships with your Grandma. OR YOU COULD TALK TO YOUR PARENT WHO IS HER CHILD. I‘LL BET they „just want everyone to get along and be happy!“. Good luck! Try to be a light to them! How old are your granny and your parents? My mom is 95, I’m 66 and my husband is 69, and my kids are 32, 28, and 26. We have gotten to the point that we just want people to be happy, comfortable, fulfilled, relaxed…. ya know. Good with life!
My nanna was my world and i would have gone to war with anyone and everyone for my nanna, you stuck up for your grandma and screw her sisters! I would let everyone know they were trying to take advantage of your grandma! I mean i wanted argue with an old lady over a bin i ordered to my nanna and she took it! I was going to realise the kraken on her and my nanna who was so caring and polite said don’t worry about it. No one upsets my nanna!
NTA you carry on the good work make them feel awkward and shitty
yeah, toxic family can take a hike honestly