Así que yo (14M) ya casi cumplo 15 y mi mamá dijo que iba a celebrar el Día del Niño conmigo, la cosa es que me siento demasiado grande para el Día del Niño y honestamente me siento un poco infantil celebrando ese día a mi edad, la gente que invité se sorprendió de que todavía lo celebrara, por todo eso decidí decirle a mi mamá que me sentía demasiado grande para celebrarlo.
Mi mamá no dudó y me entendió, pero noté un poco de tristeza en su cara, así que le pregunté qué pasaba y me dijo “no puedo creer lo rápido que creces” y no pude evitar sentir un poco de culpa porque ella quería celebrar conmigo.
¿Soy el malo?
EDIT:kids day is something that children in my country celebrate at 10 august,they get gifts and invite people.
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So i (14M) im almost turning 5 and mom said she will celebrate kids day with me,the thing is i feel too old for kids day and i honestly feel a bit childish celebrating that day at my age,people i invited were surprised im still celebrating,for all that i decided to tell my mom i feel too old for celebrating that.
My mom did not hesitate and understanded me,but i noticed a bit of sadness in her face,so i asked her what happened and she said “i can believe how fast you grow” and i could not help to get a bit of guilt because she wanted to celebrate with me.
AITA?
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> 1)i told my mom i feel too old for kids day and i feel like it would be something childish for my age and i don’t want to celebrate it
2)I hurt my mom feelings because she just wanted to celebrate with me and have a good day.
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INFO what is kids day?
NTA although there’s really no conflict here to adjudicate. Mom’s not really sad, it’s more wistful (google it). It’s all good. Ask her if you can go out to lunch or dinner together for kid’s day instead.
I mean NTA but what exactly is kids day?
I remember when my 18 year old said she was too old to keep pretending that Santa existed. I said to her, “Is that so? I guess that means Santa doesn’t have to fill up your stocking anymore.”
She changed her tune fast, lol. We all have a great time pretending together.
Do you think that maybe your mom can see that you’re growing up and is trying to hang on to some kind of tradition with you? She’s not blind you becoming an adult but do you have to throw everything special away? Maybe change it so it’s more fitting for your age.
NTA – you feel how you feel.
YTA one day you will have severe regrets about this
NAH. I’m more than twice your age and my mom still sends me stuff for kids day. You will always be her kid no matter how old you are. You’re also coming into your own and want to be seen as a young man, nothing wrong with that either.
Your mom wants to respect that but is also grieving the fact that you’re growing up. It’s something all parents will deal with, nothing you did.
NTA and it’s okay to grow up and change.
From your Mum’s point of view, she’s feeling a bit sad because she feels like you won’t have the same fun times together that you used to. Maybe you can show her that even though you don’t want to do kid things on kids day, you would still like to spend time with her. Suggest that you do something together, just the two of you, that’s more age appropriate – go out for lunch or something. No matter your age, you’re never too old to spend some quality time together.
NAH – But it’s always important to evaluate why you feel this way. Is it just because you’re afraid of what other people think? Because you’re ashamed at being associated with being a child?
It’s natural to grow up and grow out of things, just make sure you’re doing it because you feel ready to. And also remember that you have the whole rest of your life to be an adult, so don’t try to grow up too fast. It’s okay to like childish things right now and be treated like a child because you still are a child.
It’s hard to strike that balance, where you’re a child but growing up. Just try to be in-tune with your own wants and needs, not the peer pressure around you.
INFO: if you’re 14, how are you almost turning 5?
Lite YTA – you’re growing up and your mom wants you to stay a kid – is it frowned upon for teenagers to participate? Or do you feel you are too old? I like the suggestion of a mother/son day – keeps some of the nostalgia while giving you other more adult options
Are you turning 14 or 5? What are you even talking about?
Isn’t kids day just you and parents like the reverse of Mother’s day? Why would you invite people?
Your mum just wants to spend some time with you. I have literally no idea what kid’s day is or how you would usually acknowledge it. Can you just arrange to do something that you like doing that your mum could do with you? Go out for a meal, or to the cinema or something like that. Or if you are at the stage of being embarrassed to be seen in public with her, order pizza and watch a film at home.
NTA
But can you tell me how you’re able to turn from 14 to 5?
NAH. It’s sad when a tradition ends and it’s okay for your mom to feel that, and your description sounds like she didn’t intend to make you feel bad.
That said, this is a golden opportunity to propose a new tradition to start, like a mother/son movie day or something.
NAH, but I would recommend doing it anyways. Your mom is craving some time spent with you, and I think you’ll realize in a few years that you’ll wish you’d spent more time with her as well.
You’ll still be her kid when you’re fifty. Let her celebrate you. She’s not taking you to a soft play or face painting in the park presumably.
NAH. Go to your mum, and suggest that you and her make ‘Kids Day’ ‘Mum and Son’ day instead, just for the two of you.
NAH, this is part of growing up and it’s natural for your mom to be sad about it. When you get older, time moves a lot quicker and so for your mom it probably feels like you were a toddler barely a year ago. It’s okay if you don’t want to be considered a kid anymore, but make sure you make a point of spending time with your mom even as you get older.
Side note, I can’t believe how many people are thrown off by your typo lol
NTA for not wanting a childish celebration, but you should go give your mom hug and tell her you’d like to do something with her.
Is there something you can do together every month? Can you start a tradition that’s something you both enjoy? For example, the second Sunday of the month you hike up a hill or have coffee and cake in a cafe. Etc
NAH
But, you should do it!
And use it to indulge in all the things that people say you are too old for!
Water gun/balloon fights
Eating fun candy
Piñata, etc
All that things that you would enjoy and make it a fun thing for your friends like lean into it.
Get people to recreate an outfit from a childhood photo, and then take a photo of each to post or something.
It could be a really cool party, and content if you make tiktoks or whatever
NTA. If you’re old enough to be asking this question seriously then you’re old enough to tell her.