I’m 14F and I’ve been babysitting for our neighbors kids over the summer to save up for thr new switch 2. I had about $240 saved in a little lockbox I keep in my room. Last week, I went to add more money after a job and noticed that $160 was missing.
I freaked out and tore my room apart thinking I had maybe miscounted or misplaced it. My lockbox wasn’t broken into, but I realized I had stupidly left the key in my jewelry drawer (I know, I know, not smart).
I didn’t want to accuse anyone, but my sister (17F) has a bit of a history with taking things that aren’t hers—clothes, makeup, once my gift card for Starbucks. Nothing like this though.
I waited a day and then casually asked her if she’d seen any money around. She got really defensive and said, “What, are you accusing me of something?” I hadn’t even mentioned the amount yet.
Later that night, I overheard her on the phone telling her friend she “finally got her nails done and bought the concert tickets.” I checked her Instagram and sure enough, she posted a story showing the tickets. Guess how much they cost? $160.
I told my parents everything and showed them the post. My sister denied it and said it was “just a coincidence,” but my parents ended up grounding her and made her give me the money back.
Now she’s furious and says I’m a “snitch” and ruined her summer. She’s been giving me the silent treatment and my aunt (her godmother) even messaged me saying I should’ve handled it privately, and that “sisters don’t rat on each other.”
I feel kind of guilty now. I didn’t mean to ruin anything, I just wanted my money back.
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NTA, pretty clear cut she violated your space and took your property (a pretty substantial amount for your age). Playing stupid games wins stupid prizes. She played the game, lied about it and now she has to enjoy her prize of no summer.
Just ignore her she’s trying to guilt trip even though you’re the victim in this situation.
“… sisters don’t rat on each other.”
Yeah, and sisters don’t steal from each other.
Lol. A “sister” isn’t supposed to steal from and abuse another sibling. Nip this shitty abuse in the bud, good on you and good on your parents. Aunty can stfu if she wants to enable an abusive thief.
NTA – and if she does shit like that again, go tell yr parents.
Fake.
According to your comment history, you love giving golden showers and wearing butt plugs. But sure, you’re 14.
NTA. I’m honestly concerned that you even feel like you might be in the wrong here. You have every right to stand up for yourself — your sister stole from you. It would be one thing if you ‘snitched’ on your sister for breaking curfew or doing something unrelated to you personally, but in this case, you should not feel like you should just let her steal money from you, and be quiet about it. Your godmother was completely out of line for sending that message, and you’re well within your rights to continue defending yourself.
If anything, I’d respond directly and tell your godmother to stay out of it, and you equally don’t appreciate that your sister ‘snitched’ on you to her and I’d let your parents know what she said. As for your sister giving you the silent treatment? Let her. People treat us the way we allow them to, and you’re taking the first step in setting boundaries. You’re making it clear that if she can’t respect you, there will be consequences — and that’s exactly as it should be.
NTA, you didn’t snitch, hell, there is no such thing as snitching, that is something guilty people say to try and shut the wrong party. Your sister stole from you, you barely told your parents, when you should have called the police.
Nta sisters don’t steal money from each other
They do when one is thief. And honestly, who tf cares what thieves think anyway? Let pout all she wants. Nta.
NTAH. Sisters who steal deserve no loyalty. Especially when they’re dumb enough to post about spending money they don’t have. Your aunt is wrong. Ask her how she would feel to have money she needed missing from her wallet. I’m glad your parents had your back.
NTA You did try to handle it privately first when you asked her directly. Summer isn’t even half way over she can earn the money herself.
Nta ignore the godmother she must be a thief as well, sisters do not steal off each other
She has no right to pull out the “sisters” card when she STOLE YOUR HARD-EARNED MONEY!
NTA. I hope your parents open a savings account for you and make your sister buy you a combo lockbox.
NTA.
Your sister STOLE from you. She’s a thief, and is trying to gaslight you into believing it was wrong of you to reclaim what she stole. That’s narcissistic behavior. I’d put some distance between you and her.
Also, get a bank account. You’re old enough to get one. Your funds will be yours to access, and your sister won’t be able to steal from you anymore.
Tell your meddling family member you hope they gove her commisary money when your sister gets arrested for her crap.
She clearly stole your money. Why is she calling you a snitch if she didnt steal it? Nta
Tell your aunt, sisters who don’t snitch also don’t steal from each other. The basis for not snitching is trust, and you don’t have any with her. Lock your shit up and ask for a lock.
Sisters don’t steal from eachother either..
Girl…YOU have nothing to feel guilty about. She literally stolen from you.
In truth, it’s your parents that owe you the apology for trying to gaslight you. While I appreciate the grounding and such, this whole “its a a coincidence” bit? Like, give me a small break.
Either way, no one will ever give you the respect that you dont demand of them. So NEVER feel guilty for stand your ground. And I’m sorry you’re Drew the short straw on sisters. You deserve much better. ♥️
Shes lucky you didn’t get the cops involved.
NTA. She stole and now has to pay the price.
NTA. Well you know who your aunt’s favorite is. You might want to point out to your aunt:
well maybe you don’t rat on your sisters (BS) but you also don’t steal money from them either. so in this case two wrongs do make a right. she shouldn’t have done it, that was my hard-earned money. If she wanted money she can go get herself a part-time job, she’s older than I am and more than capable of working. But one of these days she’s going to steal from the wrong person end up in jail, is that what you want for her?
I’d love to hear her answer to that.
NTA So sisters don’t rat on each other, but it’s okay for them to steal from each other. Your aunt has warped values. Don’t take life advice from thieves or people with warped values.
You are handling it privately, you told your parents instead of calling the cops on her. NTA. She’s a thief
Don’t you dare feel guilty. You’ve got nothing to feel guilty about. Your sister is a thief and stole allot of money from you. Did your aunt just forget about that part? Your sister obviously fed her her own version of events, where she looks the victim. They’re both assholes. You did the right thing reporting it to your parents. She needs to face the consequences of her wrongful actions. Your aunt can mind her own stupid business.
Steal from your aunt. She won’t rat on you.
Sisters don’t steal from each other, either. You are a minor, of course you should tell your parents. You did not ruin your sister’s summer, she did.
The godmother is an enabler and needs to re-examine her own values. Theft is a crime, whether or not the victim is a relative. If she doesn’t mend her ways, your sister is on the road to incarceration.
NTA.
She’s a thief. I’d ask her which is worse?
GUYS LOOK AT THE POST HISTORY, IT FAKE AS FUCK!!
NTA. Sisters don’t steal from each other. Ask auntie how this is any of her business.
Fake. Look at its post history.
Nta she’s a their who’s mad she got caught. You are right & shes deflecting etc Maybe ask your parents for a lock on your door (they & you have a copy of the key or code) Good luck
NTA. And, and for the record stealing your Starbucks gift card was exactly like stealing your cash.
Don’t feel guilty. Call your aunt back and tell her that sisters don’t steal from each other either. Tell her to stay out of it or you will let your parents know what she said. NEVER LET ANOTHER ADULT TELL YOU THAT YOU ARE WRONG!
Sisters who have thieving Siblings most definitely DO “rat them out” when they steal from them, especially when it’s more than HALF the money you’ve saved! I’d even tell your Parents that your Sister’s Godmother is harrassing you on Sister’s behalf since Godmother has ZERO issue listening to your “squealing Sister” RATTING YOU OUT! What a hypocrite!
Glad you got your money back. Sis wants money for Summer events? SHE can GET A JOB, not steal yours! NTA, so NTA!
NTA your sister is a thief. See if you can open up your own banking account.
NTA. your sis is a criminal.
NTA. You did try to handle it privately and she denied it. If she didn’t want to be ratted out then she shouldn’t have given you something to rat her out about.
Sounds like your sister ratted to your aunt about you ratting. NTA
Tell you aunt you did try to handle it privately and your sister lied. Your sister shouldn’t even be looking through your things. Theft is theft.
LOL your auntie was the sister stealing from her sisters when she was young, guarantee it. Only thieves defend thieves. You are totally NTA, and are incredibly lucky your parents were able to help you get your money back.
Pick a new hiding spot for your key AND the lock box. And hide that switch too once you purchase it.
Your sister is a thief and your aunt is an enabler. 100% she should be grounded and have her summer ruined.
Never let a thief go
NTA. Your aunt is a thief enabler. Don’t ever trust your sister again and don’t initiate reconciliation. This is all on her.
Sisters don’t STEAL FROM EACH OTHER!! Period. NTA your aunt and sister are huge Aholes!!
“Snitch”
So, she just confessed.
“I should’ve handled it privately”
Yeah, tried that, she refused. So she gets to deal with public humiliation.
“Sisters don’t rat on each other.”
You know what else they don’t do? Steal from each other. Tell aunt if she prefers, next time you’ll call the cops. NTA.
Sisters also don’t steal from each other
NTA. She’s a their.
NTA
Sis is a thief and godmother enables her. You did the right thing.
Yeah, lot of nonsense. I saw someone else reply about your post history
LOOOOOL
Op you are SOOOOOO NTA it’s not even funny.
Anytime your sister calls you a “snitch” reply with “ya and you’re a thief”
Holy crap your aunt is a moron. Sisters dont steal large sums of cash from each other! At your age, i’d annihilate any sibling that dared steal from me. Telling your parents that your older sister is a stealing conniving bi*ch is not “snitching”. Snitching is when you know your sister did something wrong that didnt negatively affect you. In this case, no fing way should you be forced to endure a $160 loss in the honor of “not snitching “
Your parents need to tell your aunt to butt out.
NTA. Your sister learned a lesson. She ruined her own summer. Show your parents the message from your aunt. She’s a grown ass woman trying to guilt trip and shame you after her golden child niece & goddaughter stole. Hell no. Stand your ground.
She’s a thief … it’s that simple … being your sister is irrelevant, she’s a thief
Sisters don’t rat on each other???? What bullshit – that’s typical sibling behavior. And you 100% should have told on her for this – $160 is a lot of money for someone your age and you worked hard for it. NTA
You’re 14 yet your kink is golden showers. Move along.
NTA. Shes a thief. She got exactly what she deserved. Today she got grounded. If not corrected, tomorrow she will end up in jail. She should be thankful someone cares enough about her to give her consequences for her thieving ways.
Sisters don’t steal from each other. She got exactly what she deserved. Have your parents take you to open an account and only keep a small amount at home.
Concert tickets? Plural? With what was left over after getting nails done? I’m thinking she stole money from someone else/ other people as well.
You are NTA. Your sister STOLE from you.
If she weren’t a thief, you wouldn’t have had to “snitch.” NTA.
NTA-your sister is suffering the consequences to her own actions! You have every right to do whatever you had to do to get your money back and your Aunt was 100% wrong for getting involved in the first place and then choosing sides. Shame on her! Your parents were right in getting involved because they are responsible for trying to teach their children not to steal and do the right thing. Evidently, your sister hasn’t learned that lesson yet or just doesn’t care, so your parents needed to get involved. Ignore your sister right back, see how she likes it, and maybe you could open a savings account at a bank to keep your money safe?
You aunt thinks it is fine to condone stealing (I guess you can be as immoral as hell if it is ‘only’ to your own family)?? What planet does she live on? Do not feel guilty; your sister will never learn if she is not held accountable. And she just might end up arrested one day for shoplifting since her current outlook is that if she really wants something but can’t afford it, it is fine to steal to get it. Don’t condone this ever.
She’s a thief.
Get a lock box or a bank account and make sure this does not happen again, because now she’s going to be sneakier in her attempts to steal from you.
Handled it privately how? By beating the shit out of her until she paid it back?
You need to see if your parents will help you open a bank account at your local bank and you can put your babysitting money in that account. If you don’t do that, then you need to find a lock box that you can hide and put your money in that.
Actual rats (rodents) don’t snitch on each other. They do however, steal things without remorse.
NTA, but your sister and your aunt have a problem with ethics. You’re lucky your parents don’t. If you have your own house keys, keep your lockbox key on the ring, and don’t leave them where your sister can get them. Better still, open a bank account, once you have—and can keep it at—the minimum for it to be fee-free.
NTA. Text idiot aunt “Sisters don’t steal from each other. I worked hard for that money and I was saving for something I wanted. How is it ok for her to just betray me like that and still expect me to ‘have her back’ when she clearly doesn’t care about me?”
At least mom and dad are handling it correctly.
Fake. Fuck off with this shit.