I apologize if this is all over the place. My husband and i(36) have 4 kids 14, 11,11, 5. They all have their own rooms. We also have a guest room in my attic. I am in no way rich, my father left me his property, and home when he passed. My younger sister struggled with drug addiction and did my father their wrong, many many times. She did all of us wrong, so she unfortunately didn’t inherit nothing from him. She still is not the most responsible but I love her to death.
She currently got herself in a funk, and she asked me if her and her 2 children could live with me for awhile. I discussed with my husband because we have a two bedroom mobile home on our property we don’t use at all that we have considered renting out in the past. When we decided yes she could, and that she could live out there and she has to pay rent. She got mad and said I could make my twins share a room, so hers could inside and she could take the guest room. I told her absolutely not rearranging my home for her convenience and that her kids would be sharing a room anywhere they stayed. She got upset and said I had more then enough room and I was being selfish. We also then got into an argument because I said she needed to pay rent, she said I was being greedy. I own the home and I’m doing well for myself. We are only asking her for $200 a month to go towards bills. I explained her that’s the cheapest she’s ever going to see rent, but she said it’s different we’re family and it was unnecessary.
Basically we were arguing for days about it and then finally I said if you don’t like it find somewhere else to live. I’m doing you a solid. Well she ended up agreeing to the deal, moved in two days ago and hasn’t spoken to me since. She made a comment to her oldest daughter infront of me yesterday while we were both in the driveway how “auntie ___ is selfish and that’s why they can’t sleep in the Main house.” Aita?
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I apologize if this is all over the place. My husband and i(36) have 4 kids 14, 11,11, 5. They all have their own rooms. We also have a guest room in my attic. I am in no way rich, my father left me his property, and home when he passed. My younger sister struggled with drug addiction and did my father their wrong, many many times. She did all of us wrong, so she unfortunately didn’t inherit nothing from him. She still is not the most responsible but I love her to death.
She currently got herself in a funk, and she asked me if her and her 2 children could live with me for awhile. I discussed with my husband because we have a two bedroom mobile home on our property we don’t use at all that we have considered renting out in the past. When we decided yes she could, and that she could live out there and she has to pay rent. She got mad and said I could make my twins share a room, so hers could inside and she could take the guest room. I told her absolutely not rearranging my home for her convenience and that her kids would be sharing a room anywhere they stayed. She got upset and said I had more then enough room and I was being selfish. We also then got into an argument because I said she needed to pay rent, she said I was being greedy. I own the home and I’m doing well for myself. We are only asking her for $200 a month to go towards bills. I explained her that’s the cheapest she’s ever going to see rent, but she said it’s different we’re family and it was unnecessary.
Basically we were arguing for days about it and then finally I said if you don’t like it find somewhere else to live. I’m doing you a solid. Well she ended up agreeing to the deal, moved in two days ago and hasn’t spoken to me since. She made a comment to her oldest daughter infront of me yesterday while we were both in the driveway how “auntie ___ is selfish and that’s why they can’t sleep in the Main house.” Aita?
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> I told my sister if she wanted to move in she had to stay in our mobile home in the yard. And pay rent. She didn’t like it we got into a huge argument and she called me selfish and greedy. We aren’t speaking now. Maybe I am the ah because I have the $ and the room.
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NTA.
> she said I was being greedy.
No. She’s being entitled.
…can you end the arrangement?
It might have been a mistake to let her move in.
NTA. I’m surprised she isn’t happy having her own space, as a family unit. Do you have a lease?
Hope you got a rental contract written because sounds like you won’t see a dime and she will trash the place
NTA. You are giving her a place to live for a token two hundred a month and keeping your kids settled in their own rooms. Family still costs money to house and utilities are not free. Calling you selfish in front of her kids is pure entitlement. Stand your ground and let her realize how generous the offer is.
You’re not the asshole. You’re helping her while setting fair boundaries, which is totally reasonable.
NTA. Your place. Your rules. Really simple.
NTA. She is the selfish entitled one. Make sure you draft a rental agreement and make her sign it. DO NOT trust she will uphold her end of the bargain now. If she protests, tell her it’s because “Auntie is selfish and wants to be sure to get her rental monies.”
NTA.
I’d have followed that crack with “and now you have 6 months to find somewhere else to live with somebody less selfish”.
You are absolutely NTA. Your sister should be grateful that she gets to live in a house for just $200 a month. She’ll have her own space for her family instead of having to crowd everyone into the main house. I can’t believe she doesn’t think that is a great deal!
NTA
Hope you got a contract or you’re gonna have a REAL problem on your hands ever getting rid of her. I’d play very nice to get one signed, and THEN address with her that comment to your kid. That’s beyond inappropriate, and yes she’s being entirely selfish and entitled