I (19F) have a half sister (20F), we’ve been extremely close since childhood. A lot of people think that we’re twins because of how close we are.
But one thing I can’t stand about my sister is how bad her attitude is. It’s awful, especially when she doesn’t get her way. If I don’t go to the store with her, she gives me the silent treatment. If I don’t clean up spaces after her, she yells at me. She often makes mean comments about how I look and about my disability.
Currently, we’re on vacation. Whenever I wanted to go inside of a store, she would make snide remarks about the stuff I picked up. She would snap at me if I even suggested doing something she didn’t want to do. It makes vacation miserable because we have to stick together.
Today my sister blew up at me because I gave her the wrong bag (that I carried for her) then again because I didn’t help her put gas in the car. The last complaint was when my mom asked for suggestions about lunch. I suggested a place, my sister gets annoyed, rolls her eyes, and start giving me the silent treatment (because she didn’t like the suggestion).
She started talking to our mom about how she couldn’t find a boyfriend and that she hates being single. She went on about how she can never find a a decent guy. She then said “how can (my name) get a boyfriend but I can’t”. I snapped and told her that her shitty attitude is the reason why no guy wants to date her.
She’s currently upset, I don’t regret saying that at all. But our mom demanded that I apologize. She thinks I’m being a jerk towards my sister. AITA for telling my sister that her attitude is why she can’t get a boyfriend?
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I (19F) have a half sister (20F), we’ve been extremely close since childhood. A lot of people think that we’re twins because of how close we are.
But one thing I can’t stand about my sister is how bad her attitude is. It’s awful, especially when she doesn’t get her way. If I don’t go to the store with her, she gives me the silent treatment. If I don’t clean up spaces after her, she yells at me. She often makes mean comments about how I look and about my disability.
Currently, we’re on vacation. Whenever I wanted to go inside of a store, she would make snide remarks about the stuff I picked up. She would snap at me if I even suggested doing something she didn’t want to do. It makes vacation miserable because we have to stick together.
Today my sister blew up at me because I gave her the wrong bag (that I carried for her) then again because I didn’t help her put gas in the car. The last complaint was when my mom asked for suggestions about lunch. I suggested a place, my sister gets annoyed, rolls her eyes, and start giving me the silent treatment (because she didn’t like the suggestion).
She started talking to our mom about how she couldn’t find a boyfriend and that she hates being single. She went on about how she can never find a a decent guy. She then said “how can (my name) get a boyfriend but I can’t”. I snapped and told her that her shitty attitude is the reason why no guy wants to date her.
She’s currently upset, I don’t regret saying that at all. But our mom demanded that I apologize. She thinks I’m being a jerk towards my sister. AITA for telling my sister that her attitude is why she can’t get a boyfriend?
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> I made a rude remark towards my sister telling her that she can’t get a boyfriend because she has a bad attitude all the time.
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NTA. You were being a jerk but she started it. She should keep your name out of her mouth if she doesn’t want you to pontificate upon hers.
ESH she’s done a lot of really shitty things, you said a mean thing to her…you say you’re close but it sounds like you two actually very much dislike each other
So…she treats you like shit and she’s surprised you told her so?
You are NTA. Your sister…well, you aren’t wrong about her.
>But our mom demanded that I apologize. She thinks I’m being a jerk towards my sister.
Did she also demand your sister apologize to you? No? Not surprising.
Yta stop being Cinderella
The truth hurts. NTA.
NTA but you really need to start sticking up for yourself, why do you let her treat you like that? If she says to carry her bag, reply with carry your own bag and I’ll carry mine, if you want to go into a
Store and she doesn’t say: well I want to lake a look, I’ll see you later. Stuff like that.
NTA 😀 your sis is hilarious. She can be glad that you two are related and that she can treat you like her personal butler… In a shitty way.
This comment would have been even better when not coming out of anger.
Get a spine yourself. No it’s a complete sentence.
Have you told your mom how lousily your sister has treated you?
Nta and you need to put her in her place more often. Fucking bratty ass princess behavior. She needs to get over herself and your mom is part of the problem for not making an issue out of her comment. Does she always get her way with your parents?
This is exactly what siblings are for… to call each other out on our sh. Who else is going to tell you and you still are forced to face? Friends don’t do that for each other, in my experience. Except the ones that are worth keeping around.
NTA
I would aim to be a little less close with this sister, it doesn’t sound like she even enjoys your company.
Tell your mom that for the rest of the vacation she is now your sister’s travel buddy. Let’s see how long it take before mom tells her the same thing.
NTA.
“I’m sorry you can’t handle the truth about your attitude. Pretty is as pretty does, apparently.”
NTA I’m exhausted reading this, and would have snapped at her much earlier. You like her why?
who’d wanna be friends with someone like that much less date them?
Overall I’ma say yes YTA but it was justified and she’s not deserving of an apology. As you get older you’ll realize that sometimes you gotta be the asshole to either help others or help yourself.
NTA. you have been putting up with her attitude for years. you just answered her question, truth hurts sometimes and she should’ve taken that and reflect on her actions to improve.