AITA for the way I responded to a man telling everybody we had sex?

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I (23f) recently went on a trip to Vanuatu to visit a girlfriend after a particularly horrible breakup. Whilst there I attended quite a few parties where I met T. T and I hit it off quite well and ended up at a lot of parties and group hangouts together so we ended up getting to know one another quite well.
After one too many drinks at the club after one of these hangouts we had decided to go back to his place, nothing really happened we just ended up showering together and going to sleep as he kept getting whiskey dick (fair enough these things happen) and he dropped me back to my friends house the next morning.
However that’s where the niceties ended, we kept hanging out and unbeknownst to me he was telling anyone we met, saw or knew that we were actively having sex with each other and he was describing me doing rather degrading/ wild acts, now I don’t kink shame but some of these things were really not my style and I felt quite disgusted by it all.
So how did I respond? By not only confirming the rumours but letting everyone know how terrible in the sack he was, telling people « oh he’s a really nice guy but he’s got a chode and doesn’t even know how to use anything else » or another one was « they say it’s not about the size of the wave but the motion of the ocean, unluckily for him he’s got neither… poor thing ». Now no one wants to sleep with him, I’ve been told by many of my girlfriends there that none of the locals are interested and they keep telling tourists that he flirts with all about what I have said. He sent me a message calling me the biggest asshole, a liar and it’s my fault no one wants to sleep with him. So did I take it too far and become the asshole?

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    Backup of the post’s body: I (23f) recently went on a trip to Vanuatu to visit a girlfriend after a particularly horrible breakup. Whilst there I attended quite a few parties where I met T. T and I hit it off quite well and ended up at a lot of parties and group hangouts together so we ended up getting to know one another quite well.
    After one too many drinks at the club after one of these hangouts we had decided to go back to his place, nothing really happened we just ended up showering together and going to sleep as he kept getting whiskey dick (fair enough these things happen) and he dropped me back to my friends house the next morning.
    However that’s where the niceties ended, we kept hanging out and unbeknownst to me he was telling anyone we met, saw or knew that we were actively having sex with each other and he was describing me doing rather degrading/ wild acts, now I don’t kink shame but some of these things were really not my style and I felt quite disgusted by it all.
    So how did I respond? By not only confirming the rumours but letting everyone know how terrible in the sack he was, telling people « oh he’s a really nice guy but he’s got a chode and doesn’t even know how to use anything else » or another one was « they say it’s not about the size of the wave but the motion of the ocean, unluckily for him he’s got neither… poor thing ». Now no one wants to sleep with him, I’ve been told by many of my girlfriends there that none of the locals are interested and they keep telling tourists that he flirts with all about what I have said. He sent me a message calling me the biggest asshole, a liar and it’s my fault no one wants to sleep with him. So did I take it too far and become the asshole?

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  3. tonydunk513 Avatar

    NTA. Boy fucked around and found out. I love this!

  4. [deleted] Avatar

    Not an Ashl, he FAFO.
    but you really were damn wild for that one, 😅.

  5. InadmissibleHug Avatar

    Nah, FAFO. He deserves it

  6. andronicuspark Avatar

    NTA, I’m wondering if he’s bragging so loud because you’re a tourist with a different ethnicity?

  7. puiulspartan Avatar

    Nah

    And he said that YOU ARE the liar? Damn

    Edit: grammar

  8. alancake Avatar

    NTA, this is the way to do it 😄 “he dry humped my thigh crease then called me Mummy when he ejaculated”

  9. strekkingur Avatar

    Instead of just waiting a day and trying again with you and being respectful, he shoots his own foot.

  10. BeautifulTerm3753 Avatar

    What did he expect though? That you would follow through with his lie and degradation of you. Nope 🙂‍↔️

  11. Murky_Translator2295 Avatar

    I did this when I was about 17. The most repulsive boy in school put the rumour out, so I said he had a baby dick, could only get hard if he called me mammy, and cried afterwards.

    He changed his fucking tune then, let me tell you. NTA. We do what we have to, to get assholes to shut the fuck up lying about us.

  12. Actual-Manager-4814 Avatar

    Am I the only one that wants to know what these sex acts were?

  13. Key_Condition_2878 Avatar

    Dudes lying abt having sex with someone is as old as time. Women fighting back is a relatively new concept and I’m in the front row with kernel free popcorn every damn time. I am a humanist. I am a pretty firm believer in certain inalienable rights. Beyond that ? FAFO is my favorite form of entertainment

  14. MorganFreemanCoPilot Avatar

    NTA. Anyone who feels the need to lie on their dick (or hoohah) deserves what they get in fair play.

  15. Salty-Specialist-828 Avatar

    He absolutely brought this on himself. If he’s going to lie and brag about things that never happened, he doesn’t get to play victim when someone calls him out, especially when you kept it factual and didn’t start the drama. Actions have consequences.

  16. P0WERHORSE Avatar

    ❤️ You fucking go!

  17. orpheushero Avatar

    I’m a guy. This is fantastic. What a piece of shit he is. Brava.

  18. Breasticale5 Avatar

    NTA.
    He lied about anything happening and also put you in compromising positions in said stories!!!!

    You just returned the favor.

    It sounds like you did the locals a favor considering they’re passing it on to tourists.

  19. HauntedBoo81 Avatar

    NTA. He was lying about you so he opened the door for what you gave back. Good for you!

  20. Maflevafle Avatar

    NTA he made his bed by not only kissing and telling but kissing and lying

  21. Free_Muffin8130 Avatar

    NTA, bro had it coming😂 even though he didn’t cum🫢😂

  22. ZaTen3 Avatar

    NTA,
    He lied and didn’t like his own medicine. Tough shit. Hope he moves.

  23. NoSummer1345 Avatar

    NTA. You wouldn’t have said anything but he had to open his fat fucking mouth.

  24. No_Arugula8915 Avatar

    Naw, you didn’t take it too far. You just cashed the check his mouth wrote. Karma slaps can be a painful lesson.

    The guy was doing his best to give you a slut reputation with a side helping of kink shaming. That’s a set-up for every guy you meet to expect you to “put out” on demand and be open to being degraded. A lot of guys don’t take it well when the “easy girl” turns them down. His mouth puts you in a dangerous position.

  25. Aromatic_Size7292 Avatar

    Punishment fit the crime, this was great