So basically I’ve been wanting to go see the demon slayer movie with my friends A, L and L’s younger brother for like a month now and we were going to go on Monday but A wasn’t back from his holiday so we wanted to go Tuesday, I was already going to go somewhere tuesday with my friend E so I asked E if we could swap days to Monday n she said sure until her mum made plans so then I said that I could ask to swap the day and we still go out Tuesday which is what I did but there’s no other days and E said that it was fine (I knew she was lying) and to go and i still felt really bad but said I would go with them if there were no other days and then the night E told the truth that it hurt her, I said sorry a lot honestly every time and that I’ll hang out with her but she said it was too late and that her mum made plans already so she can’t go anymore. So AITA
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So basically I’ve been wanting to go see the demon slayer movie with my friends A, L and L’s younger brother for like a month now and we were going to go on Monday but A wasn’t back from his holiday so we wanted to go Tuesday, I was already going to go somewhere tuesday with my friend E so I asked E if we could swap days to Monday n she said sure until her mum made plans so then I said that I could ask to swap the day and we still go out Tuesday which is what I did but there’s no other days and E said that it was fine (I knew she was lying) and to go and i still felt really bad but said I would go with them if there were no other days and then the night E told the truth that it hurt her, I said sorry a lot honestly every time and that I’ll hang out with her but she said it was too late and that her mum made plans already so she can’t go anymore. So AITA
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> I believe that I am the asshole because this incident may have hurt my friends feelings and she is also now ghosting me which I think makes me more of an asshole
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yta
Light YTA you should really try to prioritise plans you’ve already committed to over plans you havent made yet.
If you have plans with someone, you aren’t available during that time.
number one, don’t feel guilty. Apologizing over and over again proves you are carrying unnecessary guilt over a non-issue.
number 2, when were E’s mother’s plans made? If you knew about these plans before and still went ahead to change plans you had with E, then yes you are the AH.
number three, did E know how anxious you were to see the movie? If E knew how important it was for you to see this movie, E should be understanding. Otherwise, E is the AH for not being understanding
Stuff like this will happen all the time amongst good friends. E should have been honest about hurt feelings. You apologizing again and again translates that E wanted you to feel bad. If I’m wrong about this, then I apologize. I just want to know why you felt the need to keep apologizing