i (17) f and my mom (38) f had a disagreement about money. my bother was supposed to pay me 50 dollars for driving him around. all of our accounts are connected to our moms so she can transfer money back and forth. she accidentally took 50 from mine and then added back the 50 from my brothers. i told her that her math isnt right and that if she took 50 from me and added 50 from my brother then i got nothing in the end. she said that i was wrong bc i spent around 8 dollars in between. I proceeded to say that thats not how money works if you take 50 away from 100 and add it back then youre back at 100. yet shes still screaming at me that im wrong and i dont know how to do math right. i tried to ask my dad but she wont allow me to talk to him alone. i kept trying to explain to her that if u take 50 and add the 50 back then i never got payed. she then started yelling and ended but saying “fine if you wanna bother me so much then ill give you 50 bucks.” so AITA?
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i (17) f and my mom (38) f had a disagreement about money. my bother was supposed to pay me 50 dollars for driving him around. all of our accounts are connected to our moms so she can transfer money back and forth. she accidentally took 50 from mine and then added back the 50 from my brothers. i told her that her math isnt right and that if she took 50 from me and added 50 from my brother then i got nothing in the end. she said that i was wrong bc i spent around 8 dollars in between. I proceeded to say that thats not how money works if you take 50 away from 100 and add it back then youre back at 100. yet shes still screaming at me that im wrong and i dont know how to do math right. i tried to ask my dad but she wont allow me to talk to him alone. i kept trying to explain to her that if u take 50 and add the 50 back then i never got payed. she then started yelling and ended but saying “fine if you wanna bother me so much then ill give you 50 bucks.” so AITA?
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NTA. Your mother is dumb.
Nta. She knows what she did that’s why she won’t let you talk to your dad.
NTA. I’d try one more time with a different explanation. Your balance was $300. Your brother owes you $50, so that would be $350 as a final balance. She took $50 FROM you, making your balance $250, then returned the same $50, so you are back to your original balance. And then talk to your dad.
NTA, but it sounds like there is a lot more going on here.
Why doesn’t your mother allow you to talk to your father alone?
Does she yell at you frequently?
There are some things you will need to tolerate until the time when you can become financially independent. One of the things you can do as soon as you turn 18, is open a new account at a different bank, that no one else needs to know about.
Until you can become independent, read up on gray-rocking and keep your eye on the objective
NTA
Maybe is she could understand basic math with the use of those plastic bear figures used for teaching counting in primary school. /s
NTA
Your brother no longer owes you $50, you got that.
Your mother owes you $50 that she took from you.
Anything you spent in between is irrelevant.
NTA. Its hard discovering your mother is as dumb as a box of rocks, at least as far as basic mathematics is concerned.
NTA. Your mother is interfering in something that should be none of her business. As soon as your are able to do so, get your own bank account in your own name. And next time, have your brother pay you in cold, hard cash.
BTW, since when can/does she control your ability to talk to your own father? Something’s not right here.
NTA – Time to look into getting an account without your mother on it. I’ve read that some banks will do it if you are over 16. If none of the banks in your area allow it, you will be 18 soon. You mom can venmo you money, and you her once you have separate accounts.