My husband was mowing the lawn on Sunday afternoon when he accidentally hit a pipe and burst it. There was water gushing out so he turned off the water.
He suggested getting a plumber out mid-morning on Monday (and had arranged one). This meant that the water would be turned off until then. We have two young kids 9 and 5). I said that we need to get someone out today as we couldn’t have no water overnight.
He swore at me and called me a number of names (bitch, pig) and that I should leave in response. I deliberately didn’t mention that it was his fault that it broke or was blaming or critical in any way – I understand that’s the last thing you need when you’ve accidentally done something that has negative consequences.
I feel that it was reasonable to get it fixed ASAP even at a higher cost (Sunday surcharge for fees).
AITA for having this opinion. My husband said that thanks to me it will now cost us several hundred dollars.
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My husband was mowing the lawn on Sunday afternoon when he accidentally hit a pipe and burst it. There was water gushing out so he turned off the water.
He suggested getting a plumber out mid-morning on Monday (and had arranged one). This meant that the water would be turned off until then. We have two young kids 9 and 5). I said that we need to get someone out today as we couldn’t have no water overnight.
He swore at me and called me a number of names (bitch, pig) and that I should leave in response. I deliberately didn’t mention that it was his fault that it broke or was blaming or critical in any way – I understand that’s the last thing you need when you’ve accidentally done something that has negative consequences.
I feel that it was reasonable to get it fixed ASAP even at a higher cost (Sunday surcharge for fees).
AITA for having this opinion. My husband said that thanks to me it will now cost us several hundred dollars.
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> I requested that we call an emergency plumber (which is more expensive as on a Sunday) rather than waiting to the next day when the fee would be smaller
The action might make me an asshole as I can’t wait overnight without water and it will cost extra money
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NTA. Paying extra for a Sunday plumber is way cheaper than dealing with no toilets, no cooking, no showers. Him calling you names over it is way out of line too.
He is trying to pass the blame 🤣
You do need water, however, you CAN cope without it for a short amount of time.
The question is, can you comfortably afford to call a plumber out at peak rates?
NTA. Water is essential, especially with young kids. Wanting to fix the burst pipe immediately is reasonable. Your husband’s reaction was uncalled for.
NTA.
NTA.
Definitely not good when you have kids. Also, if this is a typical reaction from him, you might want to look for a new husband too, cos this guy sucks.
Info: are you on a tight budget or do you have generous finances?
If you’re on a budget, YMBTA.
If money is unlimited, NTA.
NTA but your husband sounds abusive. Calling you disgusting names for having a difference of opinion is way beyond a normal reaction. If this is a regular reaction then that is definitely abuse and you would be better off without him
NTA
What the actual fuck?
OP, please understand that a husband reacting to you that way for something like that is way beyond disproportional. If he didn’t agree with what you wanted to do, that’s one thing, swearing at you and calling you names should not be acceptable behavior over something that is, in the grand scheme of things, fairly minor.
NTA
Your decision to call a plumber immediately was reasonable given the circumstances. With two young children in the house, having no water overnight poses practical and health concerns and addressing the issue promptly prioritizes safety and basic needs.
Your husband’s reaction, including swearing and name-calling, was disproportionate and inappropriate. While Sunday service fees are higher, the cost is secondary to ensuring the household remains functional and safe.
In situations like this, it can help to calmly explain the rationale for urgent action, focusing on safety and necessity rather than blame. Your approach of not criticizing him was appropriate and seeking immediate repair was the responsible choice.
You know you are being abused right?
There is NO excuse. NON for your HUSBAND, the man whos should be your pratner in life and love and protect you and your children and bare the hardships WITH you to curse you or abuse you in any way. And YES calling you names is abuse unless you like it? Tell me would you yell at your children if they broke something or burn down the house ? Maybe? Ok well would you call them disgusting pigs? Exactly. Think about a divorce and how to get recorded evidence and stuff cause nah dude this aint right. YOU ARE nTA
I think before being able to judge about the decision to call a plumber at peak rates, I would need to know what your financial situation is. If calling the plumber at peak versus standard rate would be the difference between paying your bills, eating etc, I can understand why your husband would want to wait. And whilst water is essential you can survive short term, especially if you’ll be asleep for a good chunk of the time.
In terms of the way your husband spoke to you, that is totally unacceptable and needs to be dealt with before the sun goes down again.
The cost of someone out on a Sunday is insane but you can’t stay in the house so the options are hotel overnight or stay with friends.
When you look at it that way the Sunday call out is probably cheaper so NTA.
So your issue is sunday or Monday rather than the abuse he sent your way?
Also, how do you hit a pipe while cutting grass?
have you asked on your local FB page? A while back my partner hit our water meter with the lawnmower. Posted on Facebook and $50 later it was fixed by a local plumber. It was also a Sunday when this happened.
NTA but you don’t sound nearly concerned enough about your husband’s behaviour – which makes me think he does this regularly and you no longer see it as strange. Just fyi, that is abuse.
Rather than getting a plumber out on a Sunday, take you and the kids elsewhere. Perhaps your parents or a friend with a spare room? And stay there. No spouse should be calling you names like that. Plus you’d have water because some fool didn’t mow over a pipe. NTA
You’re NTA. Water is essential, especially with young kids around. Wanting it fixed ASAP is reasonable, even if it costs more. Your husband’s reaction was way over the top.
Depending on your finances.
If money is short you can get by with a quick trip to the shop for a couple of 15l water bottles for drinking and cooking, ask your neighbours to throw a hose over the back fence so you can fill buckets for the toilet (or just turn the water on and fill a few buckets from the break)
That is of course a right pain in the ass. If you can afford the several hundred dollar extra charge for an emergency Sunday call out it is worth the expense.
Now about the abusive language, is this part of a patern? Because it is not ok.
Well, a plumber would be much more expensive on a Sunday than a Monday, so that’s probably the reason why. That does not, however, excuse the abuse that followed.
NTA, but your husband is. How dare he call you names because you disagree with him?
NTA, and please kick him to the curb. Never stay with someone who treats you like this. The problem is not you. It is him, and don’t let him tell you otherwise, because that is what abusers like him do. You deserve better. Also, don’t let your children think his abuse of you is okay, because it is not.
Welp you don’t have a Husband cuz any man with common sense you hit it and seen it go to home improvement centers and FIX IT !!