I (18M) was badly bullied from ages 9 to 12 by a large group of kids. One of the worst incidents involved around 20 kids pinning me down, covering my face with my hoodie, and pouring water on it repeatedly to the point I couldn’t breathe. This happened for about 30 minutes. That level of bullying went on for years and no adult stepped in. It left deep emotional scars, but I moved schools and moved on.

One of the bullies (let’s call him Hugo, 18M) ended up going to my current high school. We’ve never interacted again, but I know he recognizes me, and he still hangs out with the same group that bullied me.

My best friend (Clara, 19F) and I have been close since 10th grade. We’ve talked almost every day, and I’ve always been there for her. She often comes to me about her dating life, and even though I’ve grown a little tired of it, I’ve always listened and offered support.

A few days ago, she started telling me about a new guy she’s interested in. She mentioned he lives near me, so I asked his name—and of course, it’s Hugo. I told her what he did to me and how much it hurt, and she seemed conflicted. But the next day, she kept talking about him and how he’s texting her and asking her to hang out. I reminded her again what he did to me, and she said she was “curious if he’d changed.”

That honestly hit me hard. I feel like a real friend wouldn’t entertain dating someone who abused their best friend, even if it was years ago. I don’t want to control her love life, but I also feel like this is basic loyalty. I’ve lost a lot of respect for her and honestly don’t want to be around her anymore. I’m thinking of talking to a mutual friend (Sofia, 19F) about it, but I’m also worried she might just tell Clara.

So… AITA for considering cutting Clara off over this? Or should I be more understanding and let her make her own choices?