So I’m 18F and literally just got out of a breakup not too long ago. I told myself I was going to stay single for a while, focus on myself, and not jump into anything messy. Of course my brain and my body didn’t get the memo. Because now there’s this classmate of mine (he’s 19M) who has me completely twisted up. We study together, which sounds innocent, but it’s not. Our legs press together under the desk and he never moves away. He leans in close to explain something, and I end up staring at his lips instead of his notes. He teases me when I stumble and smirks like he knows exactly what he’s doing. The tension is so obvious that I swear anyone who walked in would notice it instantly.
Here’s the problem: I want to kiss him so badly it’s ridiculous. Like, ruin-our-friendship badly. And I can’t tell if that makes me the asshole. Part of me feels like it’s unfair to him, because I literally just got out of a breakup and maybe I’m just transferring all my emotions onto him. Another part of me feels guilty because if I make a move and it ruins our dynamic, that’s on me.
But also… why should I feel guilty for wanting something that feels this real? He’s not exactly pushing me away either. So am I the asshole if I go for it and kiss him, knowing it might be messy and selfish? Or is it fine because I’m 18, he’s 19, and maybe I should just live a little? Ranted more about this whole thing in my profile if anyone wants the full unfiltered mess.
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Live à Little!
NTA. Wanting to kiss him isn’t wrong, just don’t wreck your friendship by acting without thinking.
NTA. Don’t just lean in no warning, but it sounds like the feelings are mutual. You’re both young, have some fun! Just make sure you guys are on the same page
NTA. It could just be a rebound thing, it could be real, but one thing is certain: you’re not in a relationship. You don’t have to apologize to anyone, you don’t need to feel guilty for having thkse desires. Go for it!
I mean, my opinion on this is always the same, give yourself time after breaking up to reflect on things and not make the same mistakes in the past relationship, don’t jump into things without thinking because the same thing is going to happen again, give yourself some time if you want it to really work, usually if you jump from one relationship to another after it ends it never ends well anyway NTA
Thirst trap that leads to a fake onlyfans on their profile. Probably ran by an old guy impersonating an “18 girl” lol
Sounds like he enjoys teasing you. If he makes the first move, then you know he is truly interested.
I wish I could be as gullible as the people reading this and thinking it’s real lmao
Ask him to kiss?
If he’s single I doubt he says no.
NTA but consent is important
There is something so off about this