So for some context I (17F) have been friends with this girl also my age for all four years of highschool. Our senior prom is coming up, and she told me that there is no longer any room for me at the prom table. She has friends she just met this year and their friends/dates sitting at the table and didn’t care to leave aside two chairs for me and my bf. She’s been telling me all year that I should break up with my bf and go to prom with her because we’ll have more fun that way, but now she has no room for me??? I’m probably going to end up sitting with my bf and his friends, but AITA for being mad?
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So for some context I (17F) have been friends with this girl also my age for all four years of highschool. Our senior prom is coming up, and she told me that there is no longer any room for me at the prom table. She has friends she just met this year and their friends/dates sitting at the table and didn’t care to leave aside two chairs for me and my bf. She’s been telling me all year that I should break up with my bf and go to prom with her because we’ll have more fun that way, but now she has no room for me??? I’m probably going to end up sitting with my bf and his friends, but AITA for being mad?
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She probably doesn’t want to be around your bf if she has been telling you to break up with him
So Info
Why does she dislike your bf
Edit: Nta
NTA for being mad about this. Unfortunately it sounds like she’s making a bold statement about the value of your friendship to her.
Hope you can find another table for prom and you have an amazing night.
NTA for being mad, but don’t do anything stupid with your anger. In 10 years, this will be a story in your life: act the way you’d want to tell the story to your kids.
NTA, it’s good to find out now who’s not worth keeping in touch with after high school ends.
Not at all, NTA. But realize this girl isn’t really your friend.
INFO – is she booting you because of the boyfriend? For example, if he is an incredibly loud, rude, jerk – then I understand them not wanting him there. She should communicate that.
If she is just petty or flaky, then you have a right to be mad, but now you know her true colors.
Either way, it’s OK to be frustrated, but you need to decide if she is a real friend who can’t tolerate a jerk or just a fake friend.
She’s not your friend. The girls sounds jealous.
NTA at all
She’s not your friend. She’s using you to prop herself up. She can’t stand when guys like you over her? Some shitty women will keep a friend around who makes them feel better about themselves. And they typically will push and pull you out of and back into their life when it suits them.
When you see that happening, it’s time to leave. You should not be friends with someone who says stuff like that to you, and especially not with someone who tells you to your face they’d rather hang out with their new friends and ditches you. This is incredibly disrespectful.
Over time, those sort of things will wear you down and make you feel bad about yourself. There are so many posts here about friendships that went on for years and years while the OP put up with truly terrible treatment because they’re a nice person who would never treat a friend like that. It’s difficult to understand people who would do something like this. Like it must be a mistake or your own fault, right?
A harsh life lesson to learn, but better to learn it sooner than later. Save yourself a lot of heartache and distance yourself from her, don’t engage in any arguments with her, and go find new friends who treat you the way you treat them. Sounds like you’re getting out of high school so hopefully you will have an opportunity to meet people wherever you go next.
I hope you and your bf have an excellent prom.
NTA. Your friend is showing you her priorities. And they’re not you. Which is hard. Maybe she’s jealous of your relationship? Maybe she’s jealous of you? Are there valid reasons for her to dislike your BF? If not, then this will just be something that will stay between you and your friend. Go to your prom. Hang with BF and his friends. Have the best time ever. As an aging Gen Xer, I’m jealous that you have access to video and camera to memorialize the night. This friendship may fade after graduation and that’s ok.
NTA. She’s less of a friend to you than you are to her.
NTA, but forget her as a friend.
NTA. That’s a real great way to repay someone who’s been your friend for four years—by booting them for new friends. Prom tables are about memories, not playing musical chairs with loyalty.
Nta, not your friend. She clearly cares more about what she gets out of the experience than how you feel.
Few relationships last past high school. This is obviously one that was never going to. Take the clean break, sit with your bf, and focus on the awesome times ahead of you.