So when me and my ex fiance live together we had one car. When he moved in he took time off for his mental health, so when he got a job we needed to cars. I took a loan out on a car for him thinking we were gonna spend forever together. Things were good and his bike went down so we looked for a bike and I took a loan out and bought one for him to ride. Fast forward after a year and half he wants a break. Yes there was some fighting cause he was hiding things. We ended up going on a break and come to find out he was hanging with a girl. I was pissed I talked to her and she came to the house and a big thing happened and no they didn’t sleep together but could have been soon.
I wanted to take the car back since it was in my name and the bike. We’ll during this time he got super depressed and a friend made it so the bike wouldn’t start so he couldn’t take it. I was worried he would hurt himself on it.
He is pissed and says he can’t trust me because I had someone do this. It’s legally my bike and car and he hid a whole emotional relationship from me. AITA for wanting him to forgive me.
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So when me and my ex fiance live together we had one car. When he moved in he took time off for his mental health, so when he got a job we needed to cars. I took a loan out on a car for him thinking we were gonna spend forever together. Things were good and his bike went down so we looked for a bike and I took a loan out and bought one for him to ride. Fast forward after a year and half he wants a break. Yes there was some fighting cause he was hiding things. We ended up going on a break and come to find out he was hanging with a girl. I was pissed I talked to her and she came to the house and a big thing happened and no they didn’t sleep together but could have been soon.
I wanted to take the car back since it was in my name and the bike. We’ll during this time he got super depressed and a friend made it so the bike wouldn’t start so he couldn’t take it. I was worried he would hurt himself on it.
He is pissed and says he can’t trust me because I had someone do this. It’s legally my bike and car and he hid a whole emotional relationship from me. AITA for wanting to sell it since legally it’s mine.
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Sell the bike and car and move on, it’s the healthiest option for everyone here.
NTA, it’s your stuff, do whatever you want with it
NTA. Sell the bike and get rid of the loser. His mental health issues are for him to sort out.
Why you women put yourselves through this sell up he is not coming back your heart will recover for someone better someone who appreciates you
I’m not sure if TA matters when he’s your ex and it’s your stuff.
NTA, he seems pretty immature. But to save your peace of mind just know that people don’t have to forgive you, even if it’s over something so dumb. Not everyone is mentally mature and it will save you a lot of stress if you don’t let them take up space in your head.
NTA, he seems pretty immature. But to save your peace of mind just know that people don’t have to forgive you, even if it’s over something so dumb. Not everyone is mentally mature and it will save you a lot of stress if you don’t let them take up space in your head.
I’m sorry having mental health issues doesn’t mean he would cheat. Or he is exaggerating about his mental health because it’s supposed to drain his energy yet he has a lot of “extra energy” to be spent somewhere (while he’s supposed to have less libido).
If you wants those things so badly, he can either pay it in full himself can have his affair girl pay you.
NTA
Don’t expect to get a reason why he won’t forgive you. Just sell the stuff you bought and move on.
This doesn’t belong here. What are you even really asking judgement on? The title and the final sentence is the post are different.
Just move on
NTA
He’s an ex. He doesn’t get to keep a motorcycle in your name.
NTA and get your vehicles back asap before he damages them and makes them worthless. He betrayed you and is using your kind nature to make you feel sorry for him. Be strong.
NTA and get your vehicles back asap before he damages them and makes them worthless. He betrayed you and is using your kind nature to make you feel sorry for him. Be strong.
NTA and get your vehicles back asap before he damages them and makes them worthless. He betrayed you and is using your kind nature to make you feel sorry for him. Be strong.
Jesus, just throw out the whole man and move on.
Definitely NTA. Also, don’t talk to him anymore. He’s trying to manipulate your emotions and making you feel bad. He cheated on you. You’re not together anymore. You bought the bike and the car. That’s it. Sell it and get out of whatever’s left of your relationship with him.
INFO why do you care whether your cheating ex likes you or not?
You did the right thing. He’s allowed to have his feelings and you should be happy you aren’t tied to him financially anymore.
NTA get the vehicles back and sell them, then block your ex and move on with your life.
He’s a crappy guy of course he’s going to try and guilt you for your justified actions. Sell the stuff and move on. He can deal with himself. Not your problem anymore. You were taken advantage.
I know you’re asking why he won’t forgive or why he’s upset. It’s because he knows it will bother you. Stop caring and move on.
The title needs to be AITA for Taking Back a Car and Bike When Breaking Up
You’re NTA for WANTING to take it back. But legally, it’s a much more complicated question. If the car is in his name and all you did was co-sign a loan, then you have no legal claim. If the car is in your name and the loan is in your name, then it’s really easy – the car is yours.
Same thing with the bike, which I assume is a motorcycle. Who’s name is the title in? That answers the question.
NTA .. relationship is over . you don’t need them they’re yours .. hes not entitled to keep them so sell them his depression is issue… should probably have been a better person if he wanted more consideration.
Why do you care? He’s an ex and an asshole. NTA
If they’re yours, and you are no longer together, then sell what you don’t want or need.
Use the money to pay off the loans you took out. NTA
Spoiler alert: when you start spending lots of money on someone without getting anything back, the relationship is not going to end well and you end up with an entitled, ungrateful and manipulative ex.
NTA… unless to yourself.
NTA
He should have thought about that before cheating on you if the bike is that important to him
NTA, his mental health is not his fault but it’s his responsibility. He FAFOed hard. If he feels as he cannot trust you now, what would you say about what he did? Sell them stuff and move on. if there’s no trust, there’s no relationship to save.
YTA – Sell the bike or don’t. If it’s yours to sell it’s yours to sell. But he don’t gotta be okay with it. He’s allowed to have his feelings
NTAH, you can do whatever you want with your legal property, case close.
NTA. Yeah, take it. Sell them both and move on from him. He’s not ready for any relationship.
He used your resources and credit rating to get himself a bike and a car, then cheated on you? And now you’re begging his forgiveness for protecting your own property from a shiftless excuses-making cheating fool?
Girl. YTA to yourself
I’m m confused. He’s mad because one of his friends, looking out for his best interests, disabled his the bike so he wouldn’t hurt himself on it. And you want him to forgive for what? You’re leaving anyway because of the cheating right? So what forgiveness do you need?