I’m 26M, she’s 25F, we are in a relationship since about 2 years, with intent to marry. I live in a rented 1 bhk apartment. She lives with her parents at their house as this city is her hometown. She’s a baker btw.
But I’m far away from home, I don’t have much close friends here. So, I’ve given her my house key. She’s my emergency contact. We’ve build trust and sometimes she visits my house behind my back. As it’s rented, my place isn’t properly furnished. I sleep on mattress. There’s a ps5 setup, with the TV on a wooden stool and the console on ground.
Last week, she bought a Labrador puppy. She wanted to show him to me. Hence entered my house at around 5 PM (I come back at 7 PM). Being a new pet pet owner, she doesn’t have much experience and unknowingly, the puppy peed on my console.
Maybe she didn’t realize as her nose got used to the smell. But I couldn’t bear the smell the moment I entered. Maybe puppies tend to pee in small amounts at different places as he starting peeing in some other places as well, we cleaned it and didn’t see any other dirty place. The smell was still there, we thought it’s normal and I sprayed perfume in the room.
Later at night when I was alone, I tried playing ps 5 but it didn’t turn on. Got the pee smell when I examined it. I unplugged it and went to a repair shop the next day. The worst case scenario happened. Motherboard dead. Warranty doesn’t cover liquid damage. Repair cost is more than half the price of a brand new unit. Not worth it.
I’ve bought games & equipments worth hundreds of dollars. They would become useless and an additional waste of money without a console. Also, it’s my hobby, I love it.
I asked her to buy me one but she denied, maybe thinking that sorry & her regretful face fixes everything. From my pov, just because I can afford it doesn’t mean I should be paying for another expensive item. It has raised some tensed environment. AITA?
(Keep in mind that I never showed anger over the puppy’s deed, I asked her calmly. Also, I’m not asking her to buy it tomorrow. Even 5-6 months time is okay. Also, I’m ready to pay up to 20-30% of the cost if needed.)
Edit: Someone said that this post seems fake. Guys, no need to upvote this post, all I need is a fair outside perspective over my issue. Thanks. 🙏
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I’m 26M, she’s 25F, we are in a relationship since about 2 years, with intent to marry. I live in a rented 1 bhk apartment. She lives with her parents at their house as this city is her hometown. She’s a baker btw.
But I’m far away from home, I don’t have much close friends here. So, I’ve given her my house key. She’s my emergency contact. We’ve build trust and sometimes she visits my house behind my back. As it’s rented, my place isn’t properly furnished. I sleep on mattress. There’s a ps5 setup, with the TV on a wooden stool and the console on ground.
Last week, she bought a Labrador puppy. She wanted to show him to me. Hence entered my house at around 5 PM (I come back at 7 PM). Being a new pat owner, she doesn’t have much experience and unknowingly, the puppy peed on my console.
Maybe she didn’t realize as her nose got used to the smell. But I couldn’t bear the smell the moment I entered in my room. Maybe puppies tend to pee in small amounts at different places as he starting peeing in some other places as well, we cleaned it and didn’t see any other dirty place. The smell was still there, we thought it’s normal and I sprayed perfume in the room.
Later at night when I was alone, I tried playing ps 5 but it didn’t turn on. Got the pee smell when I examined it. I unplugged it and went to a repair shop the next day. The worst case scenario happened. Motherboard dead. Warranty doesn’t cover liquid damage. Repair cost is more than half the price of a brand new unit. Not worth it.
I’ve bought games & equipments worth hundreds of dollars. They would become useless and an additional waste of money without a console. Also, it’s my hobby, I love it.
I asked her to buy me one but she denied, maybe thinking that sorry & her regretful face fixes everything. From my pov, just because I can afford it doesn’t mean I should be paying for another expensive item. It has raised some tensed environment. AITA?
(Keep in mind that I never showed anger over the puppy’s deed, I asked her calmly. Also, I’m not asking her to buy it tomorrow. Even 5-6 months time is okay. Also, I’m ready to pay up to 20-30% of the cost if needed.)
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Info: Why would you want a puppy as well?
INFO: Is she financially in a position to afford one?
ETA
This is why everyone should have liability insurance.
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NTA. It’s a one bed and she left the puppy alone long enough to piss on the one piece of furniture? Super irresponsible.
NTA. She’s responsible for her dog and she visited your place during your absence. She should pay. Check if she avoids responsibilities in other situations too
She should pay the costs of the repairs, if you want a new one, you pay the difference.
You shouldn’t have to wait 5 or 6 months. If she can’t afford to pay it outright, if you can, buy it now, and she should pay you back in monthly payments . She shouldn’t have brought the puppy over without your permission. She must take responsibility for his accident. NTA.
I would say NTA. She should at least give some money towards a new one. Maybe I’m biased, because I work in a pet store where people let their dogs pee everywhere around the store and don’t tell us so I have no patience for this kind of thing. BUT. I always say you wouldn’t leave a child unsupervised and let them pee on things (I would hope), so why let a dog do it? Hard lesson learnt for a new dog owner.
You decided it’s not worth it to repair. If that was your decision, seems odd that it’s up to her to buy a new one?
You might also have learned a useful lesson, about not storing valuable equipment on the floor. Seems like this was an accident waiting to happen?
This story is fake AF, so obvious.
Not gonna lie, my first thought was: how would a puppy afford a PS5?
NTA and this is a red flag bucko.
NTA
First of all, doesn’t she have insurance for the dog? For exact cases like this?
Secondly, who brings a not-potty-trained dog to someone else’s house and then not pay attention and stop it from peeing everywhere. Also, knowing full well the dog isn’t potty-trained and still arriving 2 hours early to your place is just asking for something to happen.
Your GF is an irresponsible dog owner and needs to pay. More importantly she needs to take classes on “how to own a dog” and “common sense”.
If she wanted you to meet the dog, you could have come to her place. She could have arrived after you. There were so many options. But she chose the one option with maximum potential for damage and then didn’t care about it.
wait, why haven’t you at least bought a tv stand & a futon frame for your mattress? NTA, but do yourself a favor and at least get a few key pieces of furniture for your place. Hopefully she at least pays enough for repairing the ps5, but can see why you’d prefer it replaced since there’s no guarantee it doesn’t have other issues or that the pee smell won’t linger (is there a way to get that out of plastic fully?)
NTA. Take it as a warning of things to come. She should 100% buy you a new one.
NTA. Bringing an animal into somebody’s house without them knowing is just asking for accidents to happen. She is responsible for the damage to your property and should pay restitution. How would she feel if you accidentally busted 500 bucks worth of her stuff?
NTA. Your GF just found out why dogs, especially young or large dogs, absolutely need liability insurance – and a dedicated one, if the ordinary liability insurance doesn’t cover damage done by pets.
I’d still go the repair route though, assuming they have enzyme cleaner to remove the pee smell.
She should’ve been watching. The puppy. She’s irresponsible for that and she should pay for damaging your property. Also if the puppy was being that much, especially if it’s a male puppy, it’s most likely a dominance thing and marking their territory. NTA. She’s being ridiculous if she doesn’t pay you back, she should feel bad and want to pay for it. Idk she seems a bit iffy but I don’t know her. Either way, she owes you and if she doesn’t learn to train her puppy she shouldn’t be bringing it to someone’s house. The fault is on the owner, not the animal.
NTA, it is her responsibility.
Make sure she takes accountability, and rethink marrying and dating her if she doesn’t.
First of all, console on the ground?! You’re asking for trouble.
ESH – repair costs half of a new one. She owes you that. You want a new one, you gotta pay the remainder.
NTA, especially since she didn’t offer to replace it or even contribute towards a replacement. She thought sorry + “sad face” was enough.
Also, her being an inexperienced pet owner is not an excuse. Everyone knows that puppies have no bladder control, that they chew things, etc.
Despite the fact that this her responsibility, I don’t think you’re going to have any luck getting her to replace it.
NTA
don’t marry this women if she can’t support you through her mistakes.
I’m pretty sure she knew the puppy peed if you could smell it immediately upon return and have a visceral reaction.
Let her pay cost of repair at this point, I don’t think it’s an outrageous ask. If you guys are considering marriage have you ever discuss about financials? If not, this would be a good time to bring it up.
Personally, I feel your GF should cover the replacement cost because it was her pet that destroyed your PS5.
If she refuse to accept responsibility, then I will put a big question mark whether you should continue maintaining relationship because I can almost see more money problems coming through the pipeline.
NTA
Bought a dog without discussion? and bought dog into your clean property without asking? doesn’t want to cover costs? do you still want to marry? btw this puppy will grow and grow and if you cohabit could be a PITA if you don’t like it.
NTA. Is she willing to help cover the costs of the repairs as opposed to a brand new console, or is she refusing all together? If she is willing to help pay for repairs, then I think she is reasonable. Part of this is because you left your console on the floor where an animal can get to it, but she is also responsible for not watching the dog properly. Understand that if you are going to be in a long-term relationship with her that this dog is now part of the package, which means it will likely often be at your apartment when she visits. If you do not see yourself with this dog in the future, then you should cut things off now, especially if she is refusing to help cover any costs at all.
NTA, but she don’t owe you new console. She should give you price for same console you had, so it will be used that is similar age to your console. If you want buy a new one the rest is on you. And for F’s sake got yourself some cheap shelves, having console on floor is asking to water damage everytime you wash you floors. And if you have carpets then it will get clogged by dust and you’ll be damaging it either way.
Children should not get married. And everything screams children.
Nta- was she out with the puppy all three to four hours so it could pee? Did she put pee pads down? Puppies are like toddlers, they can’t control their bladder. If she didn’t even do that it’s 100% her fault (not the puppies) and she needs to pay everything plus get a book on how to raise puppies. (I think she should pay regardless if it was her fault, it just adds to it in my opinion, it’s crazy she didn’t think about removing all dangerous from the dog beforehand) (I’m a dog owner and my puppy was a handful, I always made sure the dog had everything)
Sounds like somebody who isn’t really good in responsibilities. On top of this, she doesn’t seem to have a lot of respect voor you.
Her puppy did the deed. Accident or not, it doesn’t matter. If it were her driving her car accidentally into yours, she’d have to pay as well.
You didn’t choose a puppy nor her taking it to your place and having it pee in several places. Kinda sounds like she isn’t even properly taking care of the puppy.
You might wanna reconsider things if this is how your future together is gonna be.
She owes you a PS5.
You have been together 2 years, were you involved in the puppy discussion? 2 years normally = living together soon, which means she comes with the puppy. Did you want the puppy as well?
NTA. It was her dog, I think it’s her responsibility. Accidents happen, but that doesn’t erase the fact that something valuable of yours got ruined. Offering her time to pay it back and even covering part yourself is more than fair.
Buy some goddamn furniture dude. I can’t believe she’s getting married to a guy who sleeps on a mattress, keeps valuable electronics on the floor, and doesn’t own furniture.
NTA she should buy you a new one.
INFO why are you asking her to buy a new one at full price not just pay for the repairs?
If repairs are half the price of a new one I can see why she might be refusing to replace rather than repair it for you!
Nta small claims would rule in your favor
>As it’s rented, my place isn’t properly furnished. I sleep on mattress. There’s a ps5 setup, with the TV on a wooden stool and the console on ground.
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I’ve bought games & equipments worth hundreds of dollars.
…..just because I can afford it (PS5) doesn’t mean I should be paying for another expensive item
YTA both
First of all as you said you are going to marry her.
Get used to it. Shit happens. This is how the “couple” will handle things? Blaming one another and expecting compensation?
Secondly, you had money to buy hundreds of dollars of games & equipments and also have money to replace them. But not a bed? a coach? a rug? something something to be able to live as a regular person and not as a homeless addict? Because its rented? half the earth population lives in rented apartments!
Its seems the PS is more important in your life than your GF (and anything else) and your GF does not value your belongings up to your standards, as she should be because this is a thing that makes you sad, something that is understandable.
Someone needs to grow up in this relationship before the marriage. Preferable both.
Info – hold old was the ps5 ?