i live upstairs in a fourplex we have a big door with a hallway that keeps bugs out and temperature controlled
this couple moved in across the hall and ive had nothing but problems w them since they moved in, they lock their dog on our shared patio where it shits and pisses everywhere and they wont walk it or let it inside, they were looking through our window and took a chair i was using and basically the whole patio and made it theirs where me and my fiancé dont feel comfortable using it (literally have a conversation area that takes the whole patio up) the lady yelled at me to take my groceries in faster once
and now, they are propping the big outside door open with a giant rock and getting angry if anyone closes it, for reference it is 90 degrees outside, there are HELLA wasps. she cought me closing it one time and told me they want it open so “they dont have to have the light in the hallway on” its a tiny light…. i genuinely dont know what to do these people are crazy and make me feel insane
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i live upstairs in a fourplex we have a big door with a hallway that keeps bugs out and temperature controlled
this couple moved in across the hall and ive had nothing but problems w them since they moved in, they lock their dog on our shared patio where it shits and pisses everywhere and they wont walk it or let it inside, they were looking through our window and took a chair i was using and basically the whole patio and made it theirs where me and my fiancé dont feel comfortable using it (literally have a conversation area that takes the whole patio up) the lady yelled at me to take my groceries in faster once
and now, they are propping the big outside door open with a giant rock and getting angry if anyone closes it, for reference it is 90 degrees outside, there are HELLA wasps. she cought me closing it one time and told me they want it open so “they dont have to have the light in the hallway on” its a tiny light…. i genuinely dont know what to do these people are crazy and make me feel insane
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Given they are being massive PITA. You need to document everything and contact your apartment management company so they can deal with them. I am going with NTA
NTA for closing the doors on a hot day. No need for your AC system to cool the entire world. Maybe talk to the landlord about all this?
If that hallway is temperature controlled, the landlord is presumably paying a common area utility bill for it. The landlord would not be happy if the door is propped open wasting air conditioning /heating and electricity by causing the light to stay on all day. Moreover, it might affect the building security? NTA, and landlord should be notified, and perhaps be asked to confirm the policy that the door be kept shut to these new tenants.
NTA
You’re dealing with neighbours who have zero respect for shared spaces. Leaving the main door wide open in hot weather with wasps flying in to avoid a hallway light? That’s not reasonable. That’s selfish.
They’ve essentially taken over the patio, made you feel uncomfortable in your own space, and now they’re angry when you close the front door to keep bugs and heat out?
Additionally, locking their dog outside all day to sit in its own waste is unacceptable. If this continues, or if the dog seems neglected or distressed, don’t hesitate to report it. That’s not just upsetting; it could be considered abuse.
Advice: Begin by documenting everything – photos, dates, and what’s happening. If it escalates, report it to the landlord. If the dog’s well-being is at risk, contact animal control.
Engage the landlord. Take photos of the patio and all the dog shit and tell them the hallway has wasp problems because the neighbors won’t close the exterior door.
Additionally get a screen/fence panel and divide the shared patio. Tell them to stay on their side and to keep the dog on their side. Complain more to the landlord if they won’t. Also consider a camera for the shared patio. Maybe mount it inside your door.
Close the door. Get rid of the rock they use to prop it open and anything else they use for that purpose. Toss all their crap into their side of the patio. Put up a divider to separate your space. NTA
regarding the dog… check your local laws about picking up waste. That being a communial area is NOT a private yard. Report them.
NTA keep complaining to management until they do something
nta they don’t get to unilaterally decide that
Could not get through this on account of the lack of punctuation…
Property manager & animal services for animal abuse. Take pictures of everything.
Call animal control. If you can’t have the patio, neither can they. Put hunting attractant out there. Walmart has it. It is concentrated animal urine. It reeks. Then complain long and loud about them ruining it. Tell the manager you are withholding part of the rent as they have ruined the patio. You are still going to pay it a few weeks later, or days later. Put the claim in writing with a reduced rent payment.
As for the doors, that is a security and safety issue. Start locking them if you can. Call management about this. Let them know that if you get stung or attacked by someone who wanders in, you will sue. Put this in writing to mgmt.
NTA. tell the landlord.