AITA: Neighbour wants me to replace their kids shoes

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So my neighbours want me to come to some sort of arrangements/replace $25 flipflops saying it was their childs favourite and want me to replace their childs flipflop, because one of their kids, thru it over the fence and because the dog whilst playing in our garden found it and chewed it up.

i ask if my dog became sick from chewing on a flip flop it found on our property and garden would it be reasonable for me to bill them the vet fee or am i expected to take care of it as its my dog

my view is, i would have to take care of the vet bill, so teach your kids to stop throwing things over my garden and the problem cant happen again.

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    So my neighbours want me to come to some sort of arrangements/replace $25 flipflops saying it was their childs favourite and want me to replace their childs flipflop, because one of their kids, thru it over the fence and because the dog whilst playing in our garden found it and chewed it up.

    i ask if my dog became sick from chewing on a flip flop it found on our property and garden would it be reasonable for me to bill them the vet fee or am i expected to take care of it as its my dog

    my view is, i would have to take care of the vet bill, so teach your kids to stop throwing things over my garden and the problem cant happen again.

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  3. lihzee Avatar

    NTA. The kid shouldn’t be throwing their shoes over your fence.

  4. OpeningSort4826 Avatar

    NTA. Their kid threw it, their parents foots the sandal bill. 

    Bark barky barks, barko. (That was me telling your dog not to be a dumb ass and stop eating sandals. Be sure to show him). 

  5. pottersquash Avatar

    > over the fence

    NTA. I’m a firm believer if your items end up over my fence, the best you can hope is I’m a real nice person and give it back. I don’t have to. I don’t owe you ish. Consider all fences to be the boundary into a black hole where things may never be seen again.

  6. Spike-2021 Avatar

    NTA. Their kids threw one of their other kids’ sandals over your fence and that’s your responsibility how? The kid that threw the sandal is the one who should be paying. This is a textbook case of FAFO for that kid.

  7. Stock-Cell1556 Avatar

    Hey, I threw my imperial Ming vase over your fence and the concrete of your patio caused it to shatter. Could you please Venmo me a million bucks?

  8. ANeighbour Avatar

    NTA. Kid threw it over the fence.

    Had your dog gone into their yard, that would be a different discussion.

  9. sabek Avatar

    NTA – ” No” is a complete sentence if they ask you again

  10. FairyCompetent Avatar

    NTA ands also LOL. That’s a $25 reminder to watch your damn kids.

  11. OkSilver7485 Avatar

    NTA. Just insist that the shoe never arrived in your hard, period no matter what evidence they have.

  12. BuffBullBaby Avatar

    NTA. Keep ya shoes in your own yard neighbors.

  13. anditurnedaround Avatar

    Hell no NTA 

    It may have broken your lawnmower or your lawn mower persons equipment too. 

    Sorry if your kid threw something away. 

    I’m f they simply knocked on your doer or text you they did by mistake, you could have tossed it back over when you were home. They did not even do that. 

    Is crazy to me she want you to pay for the flip flop her kid did not care for. 

  14. AcidReign25 Avatar

    I wouldn’t even be able to respond with a straight face. Of course NTA if you tell them to get bent.

  15. onepiecetruthreveal Avatar

    NTA. It’s your yard, your dog was just being a dog on your property, and it wouldn’t even have happened if their kid hadn’t thrown the flip-flop over the fence.

    Your point makes total sense: if your dog got sick from chewing it, you wouldn’t expect them to pay your vet bill — so why should you pay for the flip-flop? It’s unfortunate the kid lost a favorite pair, but it’s ultimately on them (and their parents) to keep their stuff out of your yard.

    Maybe gently explain it that way, but you’re definitely not obligated to replace it.

  16. Able-Seaworthiness15 Avatar

    NTA. Their kids behaviour isn’t on you.

  17. ogo7 Avatar

    NTA. The kids shouldn’t be throwing anything over your fence, especially since you have a dog. I would put them on notice that if your dog becomes ill from something thrown over the fence you will be holding them responsible. Put some cameras up asap!

  18. Accomplished-Fox5456 Avatar

    If the dog went over the fence on to their property and chewed up the slipper, only then there’d be grounds for such a request

  19. Fishboyman79 Avatar

    Lol my dog kept chewing up the neighbours footballs , after the fourth or fifth they moved the goalposts to the other side of the garden . He also initially complained and i offered to let him pay for dog training, i like your vet comment more.

  20. TheFilthyDIL Avatar

    $25 for flip-flops? Pretty sure I can go to Walmart or somewhere similar and buy them for $2.

  21. welkikitty Avatar

    NTA. Tell your neighbors to tell their kids not to throw stuff over a fence.

  22. Limp_Movie_7958 Avatar

    NTA. Whoever threw the shoe over the fence is responsible for the damage. If your dog had negative consequences, that person would also be responsible for your vet bills. If your dog put his head through the fence and got the shoe from the other side, then you should replace them.

  23. Snackgirl_Currywurst Avatar

    You wouldn’t have to pay the vet bill. People don’t have any business throwing hazards over the fence onto your property.

    NTA tho, because… well, same reason.

  24. Mykona-1967 Avatar

    NTA guess the kid needs to go shopping for some new flip flops at the dollar tree. No way I’m paying for $25 flip flops for my kid who threw them over the fence probably teasing the dog that ate them. As the recipient of said flip flop I would be replacing them either. My response would be if my dog gets sick and needs a vet I’ll be bringing you the bill.

  25. West_Category_4634 Avatar

    Tell them to fuck off.

  26. cibman Avatar

    NTA. This is a fantastic example of natural consequences as a part of parenting. A good lesson to be learned.

  27. moonwalkinginlowes Avatar

    NTA. And who buys their kid $25 flip flops?? bAcK iN mY dAy we got ours for $3 at Wally World.