I have said for many years when my children turned 21 and 24 and moved out that I’m not doing Easter baskets anymore and my daughter was great with it and said I should’ve stopped for a long time ago, but she didn’t wanna hurt my feelings so I retired to her, her basket she had since she was about two years. My son however, says that’s not fair that his sister got Easter baskets for three years longer than he did and that he likes those junkie little toys that I put in there which made me feel so appreciated but then so guilty this year because I reminded him again tonight when he seen me make other children Easter baskets that he was not getting one and I swear I think he thinks he’s going to come tomorrow and have an Easter basket -he thinks I’m kidding, because I’ve said this before and had him one.
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I have said for many years when my children turned 21 and 24 and moved out that I’m not doing Easter baskets anymore and my daughter was great with it and said I should’ve stopped for a long time ago, but she didn’t wanna hurt my feelings so I retired to her, her basket she had since she was about two years. My son however, says that’s not fair that his sister got Easter baskets for three years longer than he did and that he likes those junkie little toys that I put in there which made me feel so appreciated but then so guilty this year because I reminded him again tonight when he seen me make other children Easter baskets that he was not getting one and I swear I think he thinks he’s going to come tomorrow and have an Easter basket -he thinks I’m kidding, because I’ve said this before and had him one.
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NAH, He is right that its a bit unfair that his sibling got treats for more years than he did, but he is an adult now so I don’t think either of you are an asshole here. Can you at least give the guy a chocolate bar or something, you don’t have to go all out with a basket, just some sort of treat to show you thought about him.
You are NTA for stopping but it sounds like he really liked the baskets. Who are these other children that will receive baskets from you this year?
NTA but I would also maybe give him something at least like some chocolate, I’m a adult and my grandma would always used to give me and my sis $20 when we got older and our mom would either give us chocolate or something else we want
Would it really be that much of an inconvenience to make him a basket if you’re already buying Easter basket items for other kids? I’ll make my children Easter baskets until I die if they still want them and it brings them joy.
I would give him a basket if it meant that much to him. But NTA.
Give him a couple of quid & tell him to purchase a bar of chocolate. do that for the next couple of years. Then he will be even with his sister.
I’m in my 40s and my mom still gets me a chocolate bunny. And I get one for her too. We are the only ones who think of each other during the holidays and the tiniest tokens of acknowledgement are huge. It can feel very lonely not having anyone acknowledge you on a holiday. Maybe for your son, its not about the trinkets, but about feeling seen? Is there a grown up version of baskets you can transition him to? A favorite treat?
My mom made Easter baskets for everybody, no matter who. One year, my brother brought some friends home, they had recently been in Vietnam, and dammed if those Marines didn’t hunt for Easter baskets with 7-year-old me!
I feel like an outlier here. My kids are 22 and 24 and both get baskets this year. It’s a mix of some treats and silly stuff and they love that the tradition continues. Heck, I’m 46 and would love an adult Easter basket with household goodies (TP, APC, laundry detergent, dishwasher pods, etc)! It doesn’t have to end just because our kids get older, but it’s definitely a personal choice.
NAH I think? This seems like making a problem out of nothing.
If you ask me advice, I would recommend just continuing the tradition of giving your kids Easter backets and maybe making it more adultish (or not) as nowhere did it state that Easter baskets are only for kids, and I think you continuing to make and give Easter baskets could be a new tradition for your family ti shiw your love.
No one over 13 needs an Easter basket unless they want to make it themselves.
adult children? wow.
NAH. Your son has every right to cling to traditions. In my family, the adult kids still hunted for eggs until one of us started having kids, at which point it was time to pass on the tradition. My MIL still does Easter baskets for the adults; she just no longer hides them.
Yeah, you could draw a line and say your kids are “too old”. That’s okay. You (and they) can also hold onto these impactful traditions as long as they can. That’s okay, too.
NTA but you raised one of your children to be a bit entitled. LOL Don’t make/take him a basket and if he complains, ask him if he made YOU a basket.
I can’t say that you’re the asshole over this bc honestly they were told upfront beforehand but honestly everyone loves free candy. Instead of doing a full on easter basket how about you just grab a small bag of their favorite candy as a compromise.
I’m sorry, but you made me miss my mom, she passed last year and every year I went to her house I got an Easter basket. Trust me I’m not young, but I can’t call anyone the ah. Your son likely has good memories and you’re tired of doing it. I made sure my dad had an Easter basket this year.
Jesus, what’s the big deal? My kids are in their twenties and still enjoy hunting for the Easter eggs that my husband (Easter bunny) hides every year.
NTA for wanting to stop, YTA for continuing it for daughter and not your son. My family doesn’t do baskets but still does treats set out on the table for each kid.
Your son appreciates it I would do it. It’s honestly not that big of a deal and it’s beautiful that he loves it. After the three years ask yourself wasn’t that smile worth it? Why not do adult Easter baskets? Personally I will do it till they say stop but I will let it age with them.
We were still getting Easter baskets and doing Easter egg hunts in our 40’s and 50’s. MIL always had a big Easter lunch and family loved it
NTA but I’m 36 with 2 kids and I still get an Easter basket. My mom still does them for my brother and I as well as our spouses and kids. She also hides eggs for all of the adults to find. It’s honestly one of our favorite holidays. I’ll do the same for my kids.
Why not downgrade the baskets? Doesn’t have to be a big thing. Maybe a small chocolate rabbit, a little trinket and some jellybeans?
It’s actually what my mom did with me and my brother for many years. Heck we are both adults and every year we get some chocolate or a treat with a note from easter bunny (usually mine is about how they, eatser bunny, are too scared of my cat so they trusted my mom to send the candy, silly notes like that)
I think a soft YTA. What does it hurt? Things are so hard right now and it’s a small thing. My wife and I make each other little baskets now in our late 30s. It can be less elaborate, but a tiny something wouldn’t hurt and your daughter DID get more years. He’s not wrong.
I’m going to need more info on how your daughter kept a basket still an intact basket for 22 years… ours constantly get damaged or lost.
NTA for wanting to quit, but also pretty AH behavior to joke about it in the past and still have a basket for him and then decide this time you’re serious. You may all be adults, but you’re the parent. A more serious warning in advance is the least you can do. It also isn’t great that you kept it up longer for your oldest, he’s spot on about that. Why not just say when you’re 21? What if they needed to stay or move back home? It just seems weird.
Early 20’s whining about getting an Easter basket? NTA But you aren’t doing your kids any favors by treating them like children.
NTA.
It’s your choice whether or not to make the baskets. Nobody is entitled to an Easter basket.
That said, there are all sorts of other fun things you could do for your kids for Easter. Put $20 in a card, make them do an “easter egg” hunt for cans of beer, make a nice dinner, give them a basket with some chocolate because a 21 year old does not need a fidget spinner and a bouncy ball, etc. Maybe it’s just because my kid is still little and I still think it’s fun to buy them stuff, and because my in-laws are still setting up elaborate (and age-appropriate) holiday celebrations and I love the example they’ve set, but I think there’s a lot of grey area here between making them an easter basket like they’re 7 and cutting them off completely.
My daughter is 31 and I still have fun doing her Easter basket. She loves the treats and I love that she shares. I’ll never stop!
I still make baskets for my adult kids. I like to do it.
I’m 40 and my mom still does an Easter basket for me (and when my step dad was alive in his late 60’s he got one).
I wouldn’t say YTA, but why the heck wouldn’t you want to do a simple and nice thing like that?… yikes!
NYA, BUT, I’m 58. My 81-year-old Mom just (4 hours ago) gave me an Easter Basket, and I was THRILLED! I lived away for 25 years, and we recently moved back to my hometown.
Honestly the surprise was fantastic. It’s my first Easter Basket in 30ish years. It makes me feel special and loved.
Wait. You’re making Easter baskets for your/other kids but cutting off your older children? YTA
This was me last year. My children are all in their 20s. Guess who went to the store today to get the stuff for Easter baskets. 👀
I mean yeah he has a point, if you stopped at 24 for your daughter you should stop at 24 for your son as well. YTA
I’ve never gotten an Easter basket. But I can definitely see how the sun would be upset if the older sister got baskets for longer. I’ve always wanted one, but I never got to have any.
« He thinks im kidding, because ive said this before and had him one » No shit he doesnt believe you, youve tricked him with that shit before so now he thinks youre tricking him again LMFAO. I do find it odd that you did it for his sister longer than you did but for him, i dont really think youre an AH for stopping it when theyre adults. I do see why he might be upset in regards to the sister thing and well the basket thing because it seems like he really enjoys it and its like a good childhood memory for him. He definitely thinks youre joking, based on your past history of telling him that he wont get an easter basket anymore, just to end up giving him an easter basket.💀💀
I loved making Easter baskets for my kids. They are now 40 & 38. I only stopped 3 years ago because I now am on a fixed income and just can’t afford to anymore. I made stuffed bunnies and chicks for my grandkids. My daughter will get reusable paper towels she wanted me to make, and my son & dil will be getting a thrifted puzzle. The adult baskets I did for them were personalized, and they loved them, too. It was more fun than Christmas for me. Keep making baskets for your kids as long as you’re able. A tradition your kids have come to know and love isn’t to be joked about. YTA
My sister (42) and myself (47) lost our mom 7 years ago. She had MS and still did adult Easter baskets for us until she could no longer get around to the stores. After that, she would have someone pick us up a chocolate bunny or one of those pb eggs and give us some cash to go with it (like $25). I have no doubt that if she was still here, she’d still be doing it. I can say it’s one of the many things that we miss about our mom. Being an adult just sucks sometimes and when your mom chooses to continue a childhood tradition, it hits the heart differently.
My children are in their 30’s and 40’s and they still get Easter baskets.
Yta, it’s not that hard to buy one extra thing. I’d definitely not talking to you in the future if you were my mom because it doesn’t feel like you care about me anymore
NAH. When my sisters and I got to college age my mother asked if we would mind if she created a display as a centerpiece on the dining room table as a shared “Easter Basket” for all of us and our visitors to enjoy. She included lots of all our favorite candies so we were happy. It was a new tradition and a nice transition to being treated more as grownups, but not feeling cut off from holiday treats we enjoyed. Maybe you could do something like that.
Might get downvoted to oblivion, but your kids don’t magically stop being your kids when they come to adult age. And if you can actually swing it, you could do a cheap laundry basket with toilet paper and cleaning supplies. If you can’t, that’s fair. If he’s living with you and has no need of those things, also fair. But god damn. We don’t stop being your kids who’d appreciate gesture after we’re gone. And it’s not like your son has believed in the Easter bunny this whole time. It’s the thought that, “Hey, you’re not a kid. But you’re my kid. Here’s a 6 pack of double ply with an Easter bow”.
My mother-in-law has always given us something for Easter. It’s not always a whole basket but it’s always some goodies. The focus goes more towards our kids now if course. But we still usually get a chocolate bunny or something. What’s the big deal for giving him one if he wants it? Honestly unless you absolutely could not afford it, I don’t see a reason not to do something small even.
My bf’s nom has gotten me an Easter basket every year since I started dating her son. We’re both in our early 20s.
I don’t think you’re the asshole per say but it’s like retiring Christmas presents
I’m in my 30s married with a 2 yo and pregnant and my mom still makes me an Easter basket. I’m hosting this year though lol
Is it really that hard to put together a basket of candy for your (adult) kid if it’s that meaningful to him? YTA
I have a totally different personal story that gives me a possible POV from your son-
When I was 14 I had a sleepover at a friend’s house. She had a 5 year old brother and it was Easter the next day. My family has issues and we had long not had Easter baskets or many other holiday traditions or gifts, or even time spent together (hence having a sleepover on Easter). My friends mom found out I wasn’t getting anything and THAT NIGHT in a tiny nowhere rural town, she scrambled a basket from a neighbor, and put some various goodies in with the Easter stuff to stretch what she had gotten to fill her kids Easter baskets. I still get teary thinking about it. It’s not always about the stuff, but it is often easier to tell someone it is about the stuff.
I’m 34 and my mom still does easter baskets for me. Mine are now full of household essentials and a few chocolates but I love it. I also make sure to treat her too.
I’ll be 37 this year and my mom still gets me an Easter basket lol
NTA. He’s an adult. He’ll be fine.
NAH but I’m 33 and my mom still gets me chocolate for Valentine’s and Easter. Just small things, but it makes me feel loved.
My parents stopped doing Easter everything when I was 10… so I’d say they’re both lucky for getting it as long as they did.
It’s ultimately your choice but my mom still makes easter baskets for me and my sisters and we’re all adult children & some of us even live out of state. She does this for every holiday (she gave us the cutest valentine’s gifts in Feb that i still use) and we all love it. She loves feeling like we’re 10 years old again too lol!
I just made not only my kids baskets but my 45 yo husband and 40 yo BIL who lives with us lol. I make all the baskets, but I enjoy it.
I am 50. My parents still get me chocolate
i think it’s sweet that he’s holding on to those tradition. it must be dear to his heart.
NTA, but would it hurt to get the grown children a chocolate bunny or egg ? Every adult in my house got one from a local chocolatier this year.
I was talking to my 45 yr old cousin the other day , and she’s sad that she won’t be getting an Easter basket this year. She’s making them for her children and was reminiscing.
You’re never too old to want a colorful surprise of chocolate and new socks , lip balm and plastic eggs filled with coins or jelly beans) .
I have a 10 yr old at home, but my older daughters are out of the house [18 & 28]. Everyone gets baskets.
Cannot offer judgment on this one, I stopped receiving Easter baskets from my parents at 10, coinciding with a lifetime of fat shaming.
Best of luck.
All I’ll say is that your 21-year old is acting like he is 5.
I wouldn’t make him a basket, but I would give a single candy, just to let him know I was thinking of him. If he acts ungrateful, you have your answer for who the AH is.
Up until my mom’s memory issues she had a basket for me, my hubs and 3 kiddos even year. This year we aren’t officially celebrating. Just stopping by with the dog cause she lights up around him.
NTA but if your boy wants a basket I say do it for as long as you can. Because you might not be able some day and that’s sad.
If you know it’ll make your son happy and you’re already making other baskets, I don’t see the point in refusing to give him one. It is something that made him feel loved by you
Ya, YTA. Your son has expressed a desire for a family tradition to continue why rob him of that?
NTA. A few years ago, I realized that as children, my parents never got Easter baskets (Silent Gen and Boomer, lots of kids, not a lot of cash).
That made me so sad. Starting that year, and every year since, I gave both of them decorated baskets filled with their favorite candy and little things I thought they’d like. Daddy laughed, and Mother rolled her eyes and smiled.
Welp, you’re in for a sad son tomorrow. It’s so easy to take the hint that he enjoys it and show him a little love – especially since you’re making other Easter baskets. I think you suspect YTA and that’s why you asked. I agree with you – YTA over something minor
I make Easter baskets for my college aged kids, my mom, and my hubby. Mom and hubby suffer with basic baskets, but I just like doing it. As the kids have gotten older its less candy and more cute things (Like this year kids are getting some cute thrifted shirts, a coffee mug each, and of course there is still some candy.
I hate the idea that things like this are only for young kids. My local bar is having an Easter egg hunt. And i see so many people talk about Easter baskets they get in their 20s and 30s. Maybe do something for him and call it an easter gift, transform the idea from a basket to something he needs or wants or a bill you pay for him so he has extra money in his pocket. Nothing wrong with being mommas baby.
Idk I guess your NTA but genuinely if it clearly means something to him just get him a basket? Why wouldn’t you? It seems to make him feel loved and he seems appreciative
YTA. I’m in my 40s and i still get a full basket with candy and trinkets and easter grass lol. Give the kid a damn easter basket.
You’re not an AH but I don’t see why you’d stop. Your kids are still your kids. Forever. Keep doing it.
I only have one kid. For as long as I’m able to, he will always get an Easter basket.
I remember my grandmother including one for my dad and his brother, in addition to the 6 of us grandkids… but no, deciding to stop while they are an adult does not make you the AH
NTA . Your son is going to be fine. I can’t really see it as unfair that the sister got treats for longer because he’s freaking 21.
Like it’s cute as long as you want to do it, totally. But if you’re over it then it’s also fine.
You’re a very weird parent. Also both me and my bf (mid 20s) get baskets from his parents which we look forward to every year. YTA as a parent from a child’s perspective.
NTA just practical
I’m 26 and just got an easter package delivered from my Mom. It’s super sweet and nice to be thought of but we aren’t even religious or anything, so it’s like what are we even celebrating? But I don’t have the heart to tell her to give it up
eh, YTA. you’re making baskets for other people. he’s expressing this helps him feel seen and is special to him. you did it for your daughter for years longer than he would get. you included her opinion in here but…her opinion doesn’t matter because it’s for your son. most guys I know wouldn’t even be comfortable to express this, so it’s good he’s doing that. if you can’t afford it, that’s one thing you can explain to him. otherwise, would it hurt to do it for a couple more years?
honestly i wish my parents still did it. i’m 27 and almost all of my friends get easter baskets still, and it makes me sad. your kids don’t stop being your kids because they’re grown.
I’m so done with baskets. My kids are the same age. They’re over it too
My mom would collect silly little things year round that she knew I’d love and use them for birthday, Christmas stocking, or Easter basket gifts. It was never about the things. It was about her knowing me so well, our connection, and a reminder that she was always thinking of me. She’s been gone for 8 years now, and I’d give anything in my life to get an Easter basket from my mom again.
Unless your kids say they no longer want it, or it becomes too pricey when/if you have grandkids to also buy for, give your adult kids a little basket each year. Put silly little things inside that they’d never buy for themselves. Sounds like your son really enjoyed it. Y’all are very lucky to have each other.
Have a wonderful Easter!
I’m a big fan of slowly toning things down as my kid ages. Don’t do a dramatic thing all of a sudden one year. It may have been an especially tough year for them to be an adult and you don’t want to add fuel to the fire.
My kids are in their 20s and 30s. I still make them Easter baskets. Now their spouses and their kids get Easter Baskets. My husband gets an Easter Basket.
I enjoy it, they enjoy it and I want them to know I love them. Life is about little things. Nothing big, just candy they like.
YTA
Well, I’m going to show this to my mum because I haven’t gotten a basket since my youngest sister stopped believing in trh bunny. I feel ripped off
NTA.
I stopped with easter presents this year and my kids are 7 and 9 🤣 poor babies!
Yta! I am turning 40 this year and my Dad still got me little chocolate Easter Bunny; because he still cares about me and his daughter!
Which begs the question do you love your son ? Or is it your daughter is your precious golden child and your son is not and that you are being a cold-hearted witch to him? If that the case I hope he remembers this and puts your cold-hearted ass in Shady Pines when time comes!
Honestly my mother in law still sends my husband and I Easter baskets. I thought it would end this year after having a baby but nope. We’re 29 years old and I’m like can we just focus on the baby? (She did send our baby stuff this year) It seems a bit strange to me but my mother in law still treats my husband like a child so maybe that’s why I’m a bit bothered by it. She also doesn’t have the greatest relationship with my husband or me so maybe another reason why I don’t like it. It screams let me buy your love
I’m 31 and still get Easter baskets.. and my fiancé also gets one. I freaking love it and it’s special to me.
Omg
Soft YTA. Would it really hurt you to get him a chocolate bunny or some small candy?
I understand that every family is different, but I’m 32, and my mom still made me a small basket. I also made one for her. She tells me all the time that just because I have my own child doesn’t mean I stopped being hers.
Info: why do you want to stop? It clearly brings joy?
YTA. If you continued until 24 with daughter you should with son. Just maybe scale it back a little. I have four kids so I’m always having to make sure the youngest gets equal treatment to oldest.
40s here…Mom still makes me a basket.
I’m almost 40, my mom is over 70. We get stuff for each other every year, maybe not a whole basket but a bunch of treats and stuff. You’re never too old to get candy from your mama
I’m 46 and my mom still makes me, my siblings, and spouses an Easter basket. My adult children (and my soon too be dil) were given their baskets last weekend because they live 5 hours away and I wasn’t sure when I would get to see them again and I’m not mailing that, it’s heavy. 😊
It makes him happy, you’re already making other baskets so it’s not like a ton of extra work, just give your boy his basket.
YTA. And your son is right, your daughter had three more years of baskets because she’s older. At the very least, you should make him a basket for three more years. And it doesn’t have to be anything big. His favorite candy or snacks or drinks. He likes the baskets, so as others have said who does it hurt?
It’s really about the kids. Your daughter doesn’t care about them. (I don’t either.) So it’s okay to not make her basket. But your son does. So you should make him one. Just something small. It doesn’t have to be a huge deal.
I think easter baskets are delightful for many many reasons. Heck, I even make one for my wife, and she makes one for me (The gifts are more geared towards adults mind you, like cricut papers and embroidery stuff). I think it’s an amazing fantastic tradition to keep up. I would do them until they ask you to stop.
It’s about family togetherness and the spirit of the season, and traditions make for fond memories.