My sister was in a HORRIBLE abusive relationship by locking her up in rooms for days and leave bruising on her and smacking her
Also to add they have a baby
And to add to the story we lost a sister at 16 to DV
Anyways he had forced her into a car and went out of town and my sister had no connection to the outside world
When she got back she had bruises all over her and we called the police and she’s very mad at me saying I shouldn’t have been in her business and DCFS got called trying to take her kid away and she had to move from her unsafe trailer and now she’s mad because she said she’s not getting enough help with the baby and they are trying to take her baby and apparently it’s all my fault to the point she wants to disown me because I called the cops which I feel isn’t fair at all because I only cared
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My sister was in a HORRIBLE abusive relationship by locking her up in rooms for days and leave bruising on her and smacking her
Also to add they have a baby
And to add to the story we lost a sister at 16 to DV
Anyways he had forced her into a car and went out of town and my sister had no connection to the outside world
When she got back she had bruises all over her and we called the police and she’s very mad at me saying I shouldn’t have been in her business and DCFS got called trying to take her kid away and she had to move from her unsafe trailer and now she’s mad because she said she’s not getting enough help with the baby and they are trying to take her baby and apparently it’s all my fault to the point she wants to disown me because I called the cops which I feel isn’t fair at all because I only cared
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> 1 I called the cops on my sister because she was being beat up by her boyfriend
2. DCFS got involved and trying to take her baby and she’s upset with me and says she wants to disown me and I told her that’s unfair
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NTA she will thank you one day. It takes time to get out of the mindset that she is in. Hopefully what you did will keep him away from her long enough for her to realize the situation she was in was bad. You did good. I wish you both the best.
NTA You are trying to save her life, but she may not see that for some time to come. You did what you did for all the right reasons. Try to help her find support in connecting with other survivors. You should be able to get local info by checking with the city or town you’re in. They can advise her of the resources are there to help. Too many people in her situation end up dying, thinking things will change. They don’t. You did a selfless thing because you care. She needs to think of her child, not her loser partner. Wishing you all the best.
You are absolutely NTA in this situation. Your sister is in an extremely dangerous and abusive relationship, and you did the right thing by calling the police to protect her and her child. Abuse often escalates, and given your family’s tragic history with domestic violence (losing another sister to DV), your actions were not only justified but necessary.
It’s heartbreaking that your sister is blaming you instead of her abuser ,this is unfortunately common in abusive dynamics. Victims often feel trapped, manipulated, or terrified of retaliation, and they may direct their anger at those trying to help rather than at their abuser. That doesn’t mean you were wrong to intervene.
She can be mad all she wants. She’s alive to be mad. The baby is safe. You did the right thing and you know it.
NTA
NTA. You saved her from a situation nobody should have to go through. It is better for her to be alive and angry than dead or worse.
NTA. I will suggest you speak to your local DV program. Your sister needs to be ready to leave the abusive relationship. As much as you want her to leave sooner than later, she may be unable for whatever reason she is not able to. You mentioned another sister was lost to DV. Seems like DV is in your family history. Be available to your sister when she is ready to leave. By speaking & learning of domestic violence you will be able to assist your sister & her baby. Don’t get upset with her & don’t take things personally. Your sister is doing what she feels she needs to do. Again, please speak with your local DV program. Get help for yourself & educate yourself on DV. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.