As the title says, ages have been slightly changed, and some info was left out as I don’t want my husband to see this until I’m ready to talk about it. I (26F) and my husband (26M) have a baby together (6 months F).
There are a few things I could complain about my husband when it comes to helping me with our baby, but I won’t get into those as I can handle without. Note that this post may seem like a jab at my husband, but I’m just trying to get some non-biased opinions from people who don’t know us personally, I love my husband very much.
My husband works 9 hour days, currently 6 days a week (usually 4 but his schedule has changed), each night he comes home, spends an hour (maybe 2) with our daughter, then jumps on a game. I never tell him no when playing a game as we all need down time after work. In that time, I put our child to sleep (takes 30-40 minutes), clean her toys and crawling space, wash her bottles and prepare for the night (can take upwards of an hour and a half) on top of doing cooking and cleaning every day.
Because our daughter doesn’t nap long enough, I can never get a shower when he’s away at work. So, as of currently, I am showering once a week (was 3 times a week originally). On his day off, near the end of the day after he played games for about 4-ish hours on and off, I asked him if he would mind if I took a shower.
I could tell he got upset, he told his friends “I guess we’re not doing this today, maybe another day,” his friends replied with something (I couldn’t hear) and he said “yup” (note the tone of his voice through all of this was obviously not very happy). Once off the game, he stomps away, still upset. Now I’m waiting to go to the bathroom to shower, and I’m just wondering. AITA for asking to shower?
TLDR: I asked my husband if I could take a shower, and he got upset about leaving his game to watch our 6-month-old child, AITA?