We live directly across from a park that our child plays at daily. Recently they trimmed all the trees and the hedges. In doing so they removed limbs and bushes that somewhat obfuscated a light on the exterior of a bathroom in the park. The trimmers damaged a large oak tree whose branches provided most of the obstruction which cause the two canopy sections to split vertically at a the initial crotch of the trunk nearly to the ground of a 60ft 30-40 year old tree. One half of the split hangs over a play structure and sand pit that 30 kids a day, including our own toddler, use. I made a post on our local Nextdoor about it as it isn’t safe having half of a tree actively tearing itself apart above a kids playground. Apparently someone either saw my post and notified the appropriate people, or they were otherwise informed, as days later the tree was felled. Now my wife is irritated that this light bulb is visible from our house and blames me the trees removal and new light ingress. I’m pissed off that she more concerned with a light she doesn’t even see, as we already have blackout curtains, then a kid being potentially being crushed by thousands of pounds of tree. Meanwhile as she’s complaining about it I am laying on the floor actively working on fixing our squeaking drier with a flashlight, dryer disassembled, diagnosing the issue.
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We live directly across from a park that our child plays at daily. Recently they trimmed all the trees and the hedges. In doing so they removed limbs and bushes that somewhat obfuscated a light on the exterior of a bathroom in the park. The trimmers damaged a large oak tree whose branches provided most of the obstruction which cause the two canopy sections to split vertically at a the initial crotch of the trunk nearly to the ground of a 60ft 30-40 year old tree. One half of the split hangs over a play structure and sand pit that 30 kids a day, including our own toddler, use. I made a post on our local Nextdoor about it as it isn’t safe having half of a tree actively tearing itself apart above a kids playground. Apparently someone either saw my post and notified the appropriate people, or they were otherwise informed, as days later the tree was felled. Now my wife is irritated that this light bulb is visible from our house and blames me the trees removal and new light ingress. I’m pissed off that she more concerned with a light she doesn’t even see, as we already have blackout curtains, then a kid being potentially being crushed by thousands of pounds of tree. Meanwhile as she’s complaining about it I am laying on the floor actively working on fixing our squeaking drier with a flashlight, dryer disassembled, diagnosing the issue.
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nta can you make any sense of her? what precisely is the issue for her?
NTA. She’d be more irritated if something happened to your child playing there.
The tree thing doesn’t make you an asshole, because you are right that the safety issue matters more than the light. You do get some asshole points for insisting the light can’t possibly be bothering her, because clearly it is, and if you put the energy into problem solving that you put into trying to be right, you could probably help her fix that.
But you get a lot more asshole points for the dryer martyrdom. Including that tells me a lot about how you approach arguments.
ESH, mostly you.
Nta, the light is a good thing for your household, also the safety is the most important thing its good that its gotten rid of, I would try to make sure she is embracing the good sides of the situation since the tree cant be put back in place no matter what