I had one of the most painful, longest nosebleeds while me and my bf (both 21) were driving to a restaurant. I had blood all over my neck and shirt and he had to detour home. While I’m trying to stuff more tissue in the quickest sneeze comes up and i try to cover my nose but I sneeze and some blood gets on the inside of the car. I immediately wiped it with clorox and offered to clean it after my nose stopped bleeding, but he hasn’t talked to me all day. He says he’s still trying to process having “blood spattered all over his car.”
AITAH? I apologized and tried to explain that I literally could not control it. I cleaned and cleaned his car. But he’s not talking. I’ve never felt more humiliated and embarrassed in my life.
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Not the AH. He should’ve been more understanding. You didn’t do it on purpose
Smear period blood all over and he will forget all about the nosebleed blood.
NTA. If he is upset over this then he is immature to say the least.
Stuff happens way worse than this, just wait until you’re older! 🤣 This wasn’t your fault, you literally can’t stop a sneeze. Nta, at all. It can be cleaned. He needs to get over it.
NTA. Your BF sucks.
NTA
He’s not the one honey. This is the sort of guy that demands nursing level care when he’s not well then abandons you when you are sick.
NTA, not even close. You didn’t intend to have a nosebleed and you did all the right things to fix it.
This is your sign to find a new partner. What a dick.
Please break up with him. These are the kind of relationships that you look back on when you’re older and you wonder what the hell was wrong with you for not realizing that he doesn’t like you.
Bro cares about a car more then you lmao wtf like who gonna help him when the shitty car stops working or has an issue
NTA. Now imagine yourself in labor with this man next to you. Is this the future you want?
Your bf is a spoilt brat. Don’t feel humiliated, feel free to dump the extra weight.
You need to get a better BF. The fact that he was more concerned about his car, which he can clean, rather than Your health shows that he doesn’t really care about you. So dump him and forget about him.
Omg I would be terrified for my partner! My boyfriend gets nose bleeds too, but nowhere nearly as bad. I would be soooo worried for him, who cares about the car! Your guy lacks empathy and care for you. Or maybe for humans….
Dude sounds like a baby, but he’ll probably get over it. It was an accident. It’s not like you intentionally performed an uncontrollable bodily function to cover his car in a little bit of blood.
🚩🚩🚩🚩<— bf. You’re nta
Omg leave him, what about birth???
NTA unless you stay in this relationship. He’s mad about a body function you couldn’t control and his response has been the silent treatment. You deserve better. He needs to develop some empathy.
Fyi I had the same thing happen to me but in our bathroom. I franticly trying to clean the bloodsplatter off everything while trying to stop the bleeding. My husband just laughed and told me to go to the other sink until I could stop the bleeding. He cleaned up all the blood for me including in the other sink that I got blood all over while I finally got it to stop. Afterwards he got us each a bowl of ice cream and laughed at how I got blood on literally everything.
NTA. Time for a new bf. What would he do when you get your period overnight and bleed on his sheets?!? This ain’t the one hun.
A supportive bf would’ve been more concerned about you, and cleaned the blood as well since you were still bleeding.
This sounds like my ex husband. He was furious and gave me the silent treatment because I spilled WATER in his car. Get out before you commit serious time to this one.
Are you dating a child?
NTA. For fucks sake, you didn’t murder someone and let their blood splatter the car. You were having a medical issue, sneezed and cleaned it up. He needs to stop being so dramatic.
Gosh imagine having a baby with this weenie
you apology for bleeding, girl dump him and never look back and go to therapy
He is not mature enough to be in a relationship.
You did nothing wrong. He’s acting like a child
NTA. We can’t control sneezes.
Tell him to trade in this defiled car for a pristine one. Buy him a pine tree deodorizer as a parting gift and dump his selfish ass.
If he’s that much of a manbaby chump about this I’d imagine it’ll only get worse.
NTAH. First, please get medical attention for that nosebleed. It could potentially be serious and it’s better to know than to worry and wonder.
Next: This guy is not the one. If he shuts down this hard over an episode literally out of your control and in spite of all your efforts to first contain the situation and then remedy it, can you imagine how he would meltdown over the messes involved in parenting? DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH THIS GUY! He’s entirely too delicate for parenthood! Don’t risk it!
Lol who gets so upset about a lil bit of blood if you immediately clean it off
NTA
tbh it depends what kind of car it is , BMW your dumped , tesla yea ha lol ,seriously though Guys can get way too attached to their cars especially younger men , maybe offer to have it valeted on the inside, if he agrees dump him there and then, leave some cash and walk away .
He sounds very immature. If this is how reacts when you have a nosebleed, how’s he gona react to bigger things?
NTA – best case scenario he’s obsessed with his car to the extent you’ll be competing with his car for attention.
By the way, bleach will disinfect the surface, but may damage the interior.
NTA but he sure is. I once projectile vomited all over my brothers brand new luxury car. I thought I had time to open the door and get it outside but my body decided “nah”
I cleaned it the best I could in the moment and then he took it to get detailed and wouldn’t even let me pay for it because I was sick and shit happens.
If your guy isn’t talking to you over something that’s absolutely out of your control then he’s an immature asshole.
He’s somewhat of a jerk but for the record: The way to remove blood is with hydrogen peroxide. Let it bubble, dab with a clean cloth, repeat.
Well that was a lucky nosebleed. Your BFs reaction to it showed you what a shallow loser he is. Think about this: you had a health crisis, he was worried about the plastic in his car. He’s giving you the silent treatment – the most childish reaction a partner can exhibit. Your call, but can you endure this type of behaviour for the next several decades?
Me and my boyfriend (f21,m22) have been together for Almost three years at this point. And if I was bleeding or not he wouldn’t get mad and not talk to me if he was upset. Op you can’t control a nose bleed. If I spilled something, puked/bled next to him exc or broke something in my boyfriends brand new 2026 Honda civic si he would never react that way. If I bled anywhere near him or get sick, He would make sure im okay and then we would clean it. Also the first time i met his cousin, I spilled a can of green tea getting into his jeep I couldn’t clean it until we got home but i was super apologetic and like cleaned it up but it wasn’t a mega issue. Your bf sounds like an asshole.
Funny part: I once got a nosebleed during sweaty summer evening sex and didn’t realize it until I went to the washroom after. We (and the bed, and the box of tissues, and anything else either of us touched during or immediately after) were both covered in nose blood I didn’t even know I was spilling, and he still married me!
Serious part: People are just walking sacks of meat, organized by electricity we make from food. Sometimes we are messy. Sometimes we get sick. Sometimes our body parts fail. A real partner, who is ready for all the ups and downs of a real relationship, knows that and can handle that sometimes your nose blood might spray on his car. He doesn’t have to be happy about it, but he should recognize that it wasn’t intentional and be most concerned about you and your health.
I know you two are only 21 so marriage and babies might not be on your mind right now, but I’d be concerned that a dude who gives you the silent treatment over a nosebleed now is a dude who won’t help you off the toilet when you’re two days postpartum, crying, dripping breast milk, and passing clots the size of limes in five years.
Break up now
You DO of course realize this is a major red flag, right?
The only thing you should feel embarrassed about this whole thing, is the fact that you’re dating a total douche.
You have a nosebleed and he’s turning it into that scene from Pulp Fiction. Whole new level of ridiculousness. NTA.
Girl he is showing you who he is. He dnt give a F about you. You didnt sneeze intentionally. Its only blood that can be cleaned out.
Is he going to be upset too if its a much serious injury with blood in his car and not to talk to you.
He is so childish and immature.
NTA. Run fast and far. That dude is going young to faint the moment he sees a box of tampons.
What a dick. You’re NTA, hon.
Honestly he should be embarrassed for acting the way he is. You did NOTHING wrong, and you should NOT feel embarrassed!!!!! Even if he’s an extreme germaphobe that behavior is childish.
NTA. He only cares about his car, and doesn’t care about you. That’s disturbing.
Nta. But your bf is. Thats not something you can control. And you offered (& followed through) with cleaning the car. It’s not like you could help or predict this. The fact he is trying to make you feel bad, going out of his way to make you feel worse- that’s not love. That’s not even like
NTA – this guy sucks
NTA – dump the prick!
Talk about uncaring, immature, and materialistic. He is totally focused on all the wrong things and then “punishes” you for something you can’t control.
NTA, but why isn’t this a funny story about why you broke up with him?
When we were dating, husband hit a bump in his truck and my cigarette (I have quit since then yay) hit the ceiling and burned a hole. Then, I was trying to create a creamsicle with orange soda and vanilla milk and I put whichever one into the other that caused it to start violently foaming so I tried to stop it by putting it in my mouth but it just exploded orange soda and vanilla milk all over the cab
He proposed to me after all of this. You are NTA and are meant for better things than your current bf
NTA. Your boyfriend is rude af.
Zero empathy = zero boyfriend
What is there to process?
What a weirdo for being upset by that. Does he not have bodily functions? Like wtf
NTA. The silent treatment is abusive IMO and he’s being a big baby over something you didn’t have control over. Yes it sucks, but it can be cleaned and in reality, it isn’t a big deal.
I’d like to share a green flag story of a similar but IMO even worse event.
When I was newly dating my husband, we were day drinking and I got way too smashed. He was driving me home and I started to puke uncontrollably. All over myself, all over the car. Huge, disgusting mess. He said “well, I guess we are getting right to the gross stuff” and laughed. He got me in the shower, cleaned me up, even washed the puke out of my hair. Got me to the couch, got me a bucket, crackers, and gatorade. Called his buddies over to help him. They all rotated between babysitting me and helping him deep clean the car. When I was finally sober and feeling better, his first words to me were “Thank God you’re alright!” That was it.
I still remember a college friend.
We met his parents at a mall and ate together. I got so sick. I puked all over myself.
His mom helped clean me up in the bathroom. My friend and his dad got me a shirt to replace mine. Then got me a taxi home.
I swear he would have been the one if he and his parents weren’t hard-core Christians. We both acknowledged that. But he set my standards high for future boyfriends.
Nta. Hes not for you. You cant control a nosebleed and hes more concerned about his car then you.
NTA. He’s unreasonable. You need someone who can accept life’s bumps in the road.
Don’t whining , doesn’t matter if it was an accident . You got blood in his car . Blood is one of those things that may not come out and don’t use Clorox . You said sorry , did you offer to have a professional clean the blood out ? Just give him a few days and stop whining
Girl leave him
What a baby. He needs to grow up. Instead of making sure you’re okay, he’s punishing you for something you have no control over? The silent treatment, really? What is he, emotionally abusive? You don’t need to keep apologizing, you need a new bf.
NTA! The fact that he’s more worried about the state of his car than your wellbeing says a lot about him as a person.
NTA. Dude is a scumbag. And soft. Pitifully soft.
He’s not the one. Nta.
But some advice…
DO NOT stuff your nose. Collecting isn’t the goal here. STOPPING IS.
Pinch just below the bridge while you cover your nose. Lean forward slightly. DO. NOT. LEAN. BACK.
You might benefit from blowing. There might be a bloody booger that is causing the blood if there was no trauma to explain a heavy nosebleed.