A few weeks ago I found out that my ex boyfriend was trying to cheat on me. But the other girl rejected him and informed me. I thought anout breaking up before but after i found about it I broke up with him immediately. He was there at the weekend to pick up his things and begged me to give him another chance. I refused and he tried to explain why he wanted to cheat on me. He told me I hadn’t slept with him often enough. We’ve had several conversations in our relationship about how to get me in the mood and really aroused and he’s never really acted on it, which is why I’ve just rarely been in the mood recently. I explained to him that this was why I wasn’t enjoying it anymore.
He then said my breasts were too small and that he really wanted to sleep with a woman with big breasts. I was pretty stunned and in the heat of the moment I said that I also really wanted to sleep with someone who wasn’t as small as him down there and still remained loyal to him but that i will do it now. I live in a shared flat and we were arguing loudly and laughter could be heard from the next room after i said that. My ex-boyfriend cried and accused me of bodyshaming him and wrote several angry messages afterwards. I apologized for what i said but he still acts like he is the victim an the whole situation.
I am pretty sure i was wrong but that he is the bigger asshole but i would like some opinions.
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ESH and you both come off like immature assholes.
NTA. Crying about bodyshaming after what he said to you? Fuck that guy.
ESH. you both need a time out
Not wrong at all. He was body shaming you to justify being a cheater. It is fair play to hit him back with that.
Someone once said, don’t start fires if you can’t handle the smoke. He tried to justify cheating by shaming your body that’s not just hurtful, it’s straight up cruel. You clapped back in the heat of the moment after being disrespected not the most graceful move sure but honestly, understandable. Emotions were high. His actions lit the match, you just didn’t stay silent while burning.
The other girl did the right thing by rejecting him and telling you. He body shamed you first so NTA.
NTA. Don’t fall for his crocodile tears.
NTA- He can’t accuse you of body shaming after saying he was going to cheat because your breasts are too small. That logic doesn’t check out. You’re NTA but even if you HAD been an AH to him, it sounds like he’d have just been tasting his own medicine. Just say good riddance and move on.
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NTA. He can dish it out but can’t take it. Boo-fucking-hoo.
“I told my ex boyfriend I was sleeping with someone”
“in the heat of the moment I said that I also really wanted to sleep with someone”
Which is it?
That guy is truly a hypocrite.
Meh, he got what he was looking for, started playing with fire, and got burned.
ESH. I mean he’s a prick, like trying to cheat and then blaming your tits? Grim. But you didn’t need to take a shot at his dick. Not cuz he doesn’t deserve the hit (he does) but because it makes the whole thing feel petty and brings you down to his level. You had the moral high ground then torched it for one last swing. Doesn’t mean he’s not worse (he clearly is) but yeah you did body shame him, and trying to score points off it in front of housemates just makes it look like you needed the win more than you wanted closure.
Haha that’s GREAT !! -NTA
NTA! I’m cackling at your comeback and I wish more women would respond like this when men try their bullshit.
Nope you’re NTA on this at all…this is me speaking as a 41m …didn’t he body shame you for your small tits first? All the while knowing he had a small cock…you were given the ammo and pushed over the edge..not your fault for pulling the trigger….now you can go find the bigger cock that can make you happy
Turnabout is fair play, as they say. You might even have done him a favor, if he ever finds it within himself to do some introspection about those words.
Oh, honey. You are NTA. You are a QUEEN! You said exactly what needed to be said. Bravo! Never ever feel even an ounce of self-doubt or regret on this one.
He deserved that clapback because he sought to embarrass your body after cheating. You simply equalled his level of energy.
NTA why did you apologise? You only gave back what he dealt. He shouldn’t set up what he can’t take having knocked down.
A narrow escape!
NTA, fair game lol
Your reaction was understandable. But in the end, not really any better than his.
Sounds like you are both shitty people. Do the rest of us a favor and stay together so we don’t have to deal with you “out there”.
NTA. And this is so funny. I’m sorry he sucks.
Both of ya need to move on
Did you feel guilty when it went in…
Asshole gets laughed at and ends up crying like a little bitch 😂 Feel good story of the day
Congrats, you’re both shitty people.
NTA. First of all you didn’t body shame him. And if he took it that way then he also body shamed you. Stop worrying about his feelings. He’s a loser and no longer your problem.
Man baby
NTA. He started it first.
NTA. You reacted to be insulted yourself and didn’t plan it. He body shamed you and didn’t like it when you did the same thing! I wouldn’t lose sleep over it.
NTA. It’s pretty obvious that this guy is extremely immature and insecure and trying to put you down to feel like a big man.
And he didn’t even close the deal because the other girl had respect for herself and you. Just dump this little boy.
NTA, he fucked around and found out.
You both sound very young. 🙄🧐
NTA
NTA
As a dude, he brought bodyshaming first by implying that you werent well endowed enoug for him. Weither you respond with the same energy now or in a later discussion, since it involve cheating its free game until the relationship status change.(i mean that now that he’s your ex, you cant go tell everybody he got a small pp. Or if you were fool enough to stay with him and become his fiancee, its too late after that to complain, you knew him)
Anyway, well done, and why the f are you still talking to him?
Tell him he’s more of a pussy than you can ever have and you got bigger balls than him before blocking him.
Probably too stoned for reddit…
Nta. Small is better. He’s just dumb
If you’re still having arguments about titty and dick size comparisons, neither one of you is mature enough to be in a relationship yet.
Just slow down. Get some cats if you’re that needing of companionship.
And stop with the namby-pamby “body shaming” talk.
Facts are what they are. You’re flat, and he’s got a micropenis. You’ve both expressed discontentment with each other about these traits.
The question isn’t AYTA, the answer to that is you both are.
The real question is why do you two emotional adolescents continue to tolerate each other?
NTA. He is an asshole because:
Why are you still talking to him? Block him and never settle for deadbeats like him.
NTA , I don’t think you are wrong, and I am so happy that you made him feel insecure about that. More power to you!
HAHAHAHA THAT WAS PERFECTLY BRUTAL🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 he’s mad at you for body shaming him after he did the exact same thing AND tried to use that to justify him trying to cheat!?!? What a little bitch, he got what he deserved! I hope you find an amazing man that treats you with love, respect, and patience (and I hope he has the perfect dong for you too lol)
NTA. Don’t start a fight that you can’t finish
Turn about is fair play.
Lmfao u a GOAT 🐐 😂😂😂😂 no productive input from me. Besides obviously NTA 😂😂😂😂😂🙄
JFC how old are the two of you? Like 15. After he said what he said, all you needed to say is he confirmed that dumping him was the right thing to do.
NTA. He tried to CHEAT and blame it on you and aspects of your body. He doesn’t get to play victim when you turn the tables minus the atrocious point of cheating. Dude needs to put on his clown makeup and get paid for that comedy.
I’ve been in the other room listening to this. I would’ve done a lot more than laugh. That would’ve been a full unhearing section.
I wonder how small 🤔 🍄
He opened the door. You just walked through it after him. He has no beef with you. He was scheming to cheat, lying to you, and then trying to blame that on you. He’s a toad.
You both suck
NTA you were too kind.
Honestly most men just assume your lying and most times women are
And he wasn’t body shaming you when he said your breasts were too small?
NTA
Sounds pretty fit for tat to me
He cried? Do it again
Easy to find a bigger dick.
Harder to find a smaller asshole.
Tit for tat.
NTA. He FAFO and then cried about it!! HE body shamed YOU first OP, don’t let him get away that manipulative bullshit!
Stop wasting your time with this child and go live your life and hopefully find a person who actually WANTS to turn you on before and during sex!
NTA. Was it petty? Yes. Did he deserve it? Also yes. He shouldn’t dish it out if he can’t also choke it down. You shouldn’t have apologized, OP, he doesn’t deserve any of your time
You both need to split up and grow up.
Fck that pussy ass btch! He wants to dish it out but can’t take it?! You should only have apologised after he did it first! Seriously – such a loser this guy…
So, I think that I understand the heart of your question… you’re asking if saying mean things about his body was being an asshole…and from a consistency standpoint what you said wasn’t really distinguishable from what he said, and what he said definitely made him an asshole. BUT, he was justifying cheating and you were reacting to emotional hurt and THOSE aren’t the same thing. So, you were a bit of a defensive asshole…ethically you can justify your response but if emotionally it makes you feel bad just resolve to not use that kind of retort again.
Ha ha ha. Nah. That’s awesome. Send him a picture of the superior appendage.
Don’t let your mouth write checks your small dick can’t cash.
NTA. Good burn ❤️🔥