Last night I held a celebration at my house for the 4th of july. We had a projector screen set up with a movie playing as background noise.
While we were hanging out, laughing, drinking and having a good time, We heard loud moans all of a sudden and and there was porn playing. My husband unplugged it quickly but some of the kids already saw it. I asked my BIL to leave right after and he hesitated for a moment. Then my non drunk sister drove him home.
After what happend last night, my BIL sent me a message saying I am a disgusting person for ruining is night. I now feel kind of bad because it was an accident and sort of regret my decision to kick him out of the party.
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NTA – appropriate response in the moment
Not even gonna try to explain how he accidentally did that?
You don’t just accidentally switch out a movie. You have to connect to it, click the porn, etc.
So if you and your hubby were in charge of the projector, how did it happen?
Maybe your hubby thought it was funny.
You have to approve a couple of choices when casting to a TV. Doesn’t really seem like an accidental thing. NTA.
How exactly are you disgusting? He’s the one that “accidentally”, and I’m putting that in quotes because I don’t know how stupid and careless you have to be to let that happen at a FAMILY event, blasted that.
NTA – Your husband was the one that unplugged it for crying out loud, BIL sounds like a weirdo and you should probably have a talk with not only him but your sister as well.
Def NTA you ruined his night? He scarred those poor kids hahahah
NTA – kids saw it..even if it was an accident what on earth was he doing watching porn at a party?!
You need to have the vid running before you cast it. Unlikely it was an accident. But if you want to let a pervert bullshit you, sure. NTA for throwing him out.
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NTA. I would have done exactly the same thing!
NTA, who would even want to stay after that embarrassment. I would want to avoid anyone present for at least a year and hope they forget.
That wasn’t “accidental”.
You reply: “Somebody watching shit like that on his phone doesn’t get to call OTHERS disgusting!”
Stop being so gullible to gaslighting, jeez!
Also: he is playing the game “blame reverse uno”.
Point is: he STILL is THE OFFENDER. Not the victim.
He got what he deserved.
However this resolves, a piece of family holiday lore was created yesterday. It will be mentioned for years, and hopefully, to BIL’s embarrassment.
For acting in that moment of shock and trying to regain a semblance of normalcy of holiday celebration in front of the kids, NTA.
Perhaps there were alternatives, but it’s not unreasonable. Has an explanation of how it happened been offered?
Accidentally!
Hahahaha hahahahahahaha
This is the funniest use of that word I have ever encountered
NTA
NTA. How do you accidentally do that?
NTAH. He was watching porn at a family party. He’s the disgusting one.
Definitely NTA. He probably would have gotten a punch at my party if that happened.
He would never be invited to my house again. What a creep!
BIL is projecting big time. NTA
Wait wait wait. A full grown man pressing play on porn in front of a bunch of kiddos (accident or not) calls you disgusting…?!?!?!?!
NTA. It wasn’t an accident. You have to intentionally open a tab and click that you’re 18+ and then hit play. Don’t let him gaslight you. He’s a perv who decided to expose children to porn. BIL is probably a pedo.
NTA – it may have been an accident, but he isn’t taking responsibility for that. He is more worried about you RUINING HIS night, not what he did to the children and others. Please tell me it wasn’t someone you know having sex.
BIL sent me a message saying I am a disgusting person. projecting much
How do you know it was an accident? Was BIL supposed to be the person to pick the next movie or was in charge of changing movies?? If the answer is no then doesn’t sound like an accident to me and he’s the one who is disgusting. NTA
Your house, your rules. If someone ends up broadcasting porn in front of children, they’re done for the night. Simple
Anyone who defends your BIL is a piece of shit as well. Showing children inappropriate content is a CRIME, and you can be reported to CPS for an investigation.
He has put your family at risk, and committed a crime in your home.
Seems the first words from your BIL should have been I’m so sorry.
You’re disgusting? That’s crazy. But your post doesn’t explain why it’s BIL’s fault.
Definitely projecting he’s the disgusting one NTA
Oh my God, I am laughing so hard right now. It was just a mistake. It wasn’t intentional right? If it was intentional, I would’ve beat the shit out of him. If it was truly an accident I would’ve laughed it off and kept the party going.
I’ll be that guy.
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edYou’re not the asshole, he should’ve checked his phone before using it to project anything on screen. Him getting defensive was stupid he should’ve apologized profusely and kept apologizing over and over again.
NTA- everyone is focusing on the “accidental porn” which I also have many questions. OP did not provide enough info. But regardless, even if a wider explanation demonstrates it truly was an accident, it doesn’t matter.
Dude played porn on a screen and children saw it. If it was just your family, that’s one thing, but if OP had a bunch of other people and kids over, that’s dude needs to go. Even if it was an accident. That is unacceptable. What he did was illegal and while I don’t think OP needs to get the law involved, the OPs BIL needs to understand how serious what he did was. That said, other people at that party who aren’t related, might want to report to the cops.
In all honesty, I would have filed a report the next day if I was at a neighbors home and their family put porn on and kids saw it. That would be the last time I go to that neighbors house. And I have no problem with porn, but I sure don’t want my small children seeing it!! OP probably made BIL’s night much better so the other people there didn’t act . If BIL of some random neighbor had acted that casually about it after doing it that night, BIL may have ended up with my fist through his face.
That was not OK and OP was well within their rights to ask him to leave. I would suggest to OP that they or their spouse talk to the sister and tell them that BIL needs to apologize for both the incident and his response today before they can come back over to their home. That is messed up.
He projected porn that children saw and you are the disgusting one? If this is real, NTA and you should press charges.
It had to be done. Is it your sister husband – work through her – He better start apologizing and trying to make things right. He needs to take responsibility. Kids saw porn.
No just no! That was unacceptable!
I love the “projection” (no pun intended) back onto you. What a jerk!
Nobody ‘accidentally’ plays porn.
NTA
nah idc if that was my BIL or not if my kids saw that i would 100% be pressing charges.
also HOW TF WOULD IT BE AN ACCIDENT. if there was a movie playing why would he turn it off and go put on a porn video like that makes no sense to me at all.
i feel like he might have done it to be “funny” cause some men are immature like that but still there are children around that’s absurd.
NTA. This was not an accident. As all the other comments have said. He needed to leave.
He didn’t accidentally cast porn. He drunkenly cast porn but he knew what he was doing; he was just drunk so he didn’t care
A couple of questions:
Do NOT feel bad. BIL was a nasty drunk. He owes you and everyone else an apology.
I can’t figure out casting to my tv for the life of me – and that’s my TRYING. No way it was an accident. Why was he watching porn at a family bbq in the first place??
You would have been an AH to let him stay.
He’s full of shit to say that’s an accident. Porn just doesn’t magically pop up. He searched that out and then set it up. Probably thought he was being funny. I’m sorry kids had to seen that. What a POS. NTA
Why did someone feel the need to be watching porn at a party with children hosted at your house to begin with before we even get to the projector and how the hell they managed to ‘accidentally’ beam it up for everyone to see what the heck
If it was BIL who was the source then absolutely I’d be asking them to leave, that’s not appropriate behaviour even if the projector was somehow on accident
NTA
There were a lot of steps to take before the porn was “accidentally” broadcast to everyone. The BIL is a gross moron. Do not feel bad for that idiot.
Definitely NTA
He’s gaslighting you.
He was trying to get a reaction from people. Kids were there, which is disgusting of HIM. You were not wrong. He’s a creep.
After all, I can suggest not having drunk ppl in your house with kids present… 🤦🏻♀️
This is crazy.
NTA. You BIL is. The audacity to call you disgusting after he exposed kids to porn is a joke.
NTA 100%. Your BIL on the other hand 100% is
Depending on where you are this could be considered a major felony. A friends husband did this and kids saw it. Eventually had cops at his door and was arrested. 1 felony and a 3 misdemeanor, fired from his job and house arrest for 2 years. This is no joke and your BIL is an ass and I wouldn’t have him at my house again
Was it or wasn’t it an accident?
He exposed a few children to porn, but you’re the disgusting one?
Tell him exactly what he did, then ask him who the disgusting one is.
This is how not to mentally project.
NTA. You were likely shocked and horrified, as you should be.
You are the hero in this story.
Your husband is the hero in this story, that could have gotten worse. Good reflex man.
Your BIL needed to be kicked out. Also you are host, you make that call. You made a good one.
NTAH
Showing porn to kids is illegal.
He made a drunken mistake. But y’know what
That is What Gets You Kicked out of parties.
BIL you’re the disgusting degenerate for casting post at a FAMILY party.
u/bot-sleuth-bot
Was the party so poor he had to watch porn? Not likely! sounds like the guy is a selfish douche. If he wanted to watch porn he could do this in the private confines at home.
NTA and it 100% wasn’t an accident. He 100% knew what he was doing and more than likely thought it was going to be a good “prank,” or he secretly got his rocks off to that stuff.
I’d remind him that you, in order to cast a screen you have to click multiple options as well as actively click on the option to do that.
NTA, something inappropriate happened and probably make everything awkward. He should have been more cautious
That was not an accident and absolutely unacceptable. In some states he could be charged as a sex offender for exposing minors to sexual content, so he should be thanking his lucky stars you aren’t reporting him to the authorities.
He didn’t apologize!? Wtf. NTA.
I’m sorry this happened but that man’s needs to be dealt with with tar and feathers. He is a sick twisted pedo. Contact his employer tell them what happened ruin more than the party. He is going to touch kids or rape people. He is probably abusing your sister. He needs his clocked cleaned.
Accident? How the frack do you accidentally switch a movie to porn…on someone else’s freaking projector?
Yeah, I’d have kicked his ass to the curb as well.
How was it an accident? Minors were involved? You’ll be lucky if no one reports it to the police.
Why would anyone be watching porn on their phone out in the middle of a family party? That’s creepy AF and I’d be having a serious talk with my sister about that, much less having him anywhere near my home or my kids.
NTA and make sure he isn’t ever left alone with your kids, regardless of what kind of porn it was.
The fact that he called you “disgusting” because you put your foot down when he showed porn to children tells you everything you need to know about this person.
It takes effort to cast something. There are multiple steps to doing so. Someone who thinks “haha it would be funny to show porn to children” when they are drunk is a person who should never be allowed around children again. I’d honestly be considering informing the authorities, in your shoes. And I suspect that he’s worrying that you are considering this, which is why he’s trying to dump all of this blame on you.
At the very least, I would not invite him to any events or activities in which children are going to be present, including your own children if you have any. And generally keep a close eye on him moving forward, regardless. The man sounds like a predator to me. I can’t stand being around drunk people, but one thing that’s become clear to me over the years is that when people are drunk, that’s when they show their true colors. That’s when the truths they keep buried come leaking out into the public eye.
Be careful with this one.
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How did you all know it was the BIL?
Was he originally playing from his phone? Did he come clean? What did he say after he was found out?!
If it was an accident, I wouldn’t kick him out. But I have my doubts about it being an accident.
Your choice.
NTA
Also, BIL is an asshole for blaming you for “ruining his night.” He gets to take responsibility for his actions, accident or no. .
He’s just ticked he didn’t get his happy ending. How dare you deprive the depraved!? 😂 Wait, was the movie title ‘Free Willy’?
Your BIL is an AH. He should be groveling with an apology. I wouldn’t have him around ever again based off of his response. He’s a creep.
I think that in the future, without him apologizing to all other parties involved, you will sorta regret letting him come to any other party. With apologies I ain’t holding my breath either.
NTA
There’s no way this was an accident.
Your BIL is a creep and I wouldn’t invite him anywhere again.
NTA
NTA. How are you disgusting? You didn’t cast a porn to unwilling party goers including children. In the United States and many other countries, it is illegal to show pornography to someone under the age of 18. How did you ruin his evening? Again, you weren’t the one broadcasting pornography for unwilling adults and minors to be exposed to? Why was he watching porn during a party where there were children present?
NTA
There is no way this was accidental. Not only should you not feel bad, your sister should be having a long talk with him about why he thought it was appropriate to shown porn to kids.
This is bait.
NTA, As a parent I’d be PISSED. You did right. If I was there and you didnt make him leave, we would’ve had an issue.
Not the AH not an accident. Reverse Uno- disgusting! Poor sister!
Sounds like the premise for a Seinfeld episode
You ruined his night???
I’d go NC for that.
NTA
He’s calling you disgusting? For kicking our his drunk ass for exposing porn to children? Disgusting indeed
Uh, he did that on purpose, and the only disgusting person here is someone who deliberately plays porn in front of children. Tell him that and block him. Tell your parents you’re not spending time with him or speaking with him right now because he refuses to take accountability.
Uh there’s absolutely no way that was an accident
NTA. Why are you doubting yourself here? Why would you have been the asshole, and not your BIL?
Also, he has some balls turning this around on you. What a piece of shit.
YOU ruined HIS night. That’s rich. Tell him until he sincerely apologizes for exposing children to porn, which could be considered a crime, he’s no longer at your functions.
YOU ruined HIS night. That’s rich. Tell him until he sincerely apologizes for exposing children to porn, which could be considered a crime, he’s no longer allowed at your functions.
Yta mistakes happen and it sux that kids were there put to make him leave like some how he is not good enough to be there or as a punishment like ur his mom is fucked up.
It was not an accident
Info how did you o so it was him before he admitted it? Has he done this before?
NTA. There’s no way to “accidentally” do that.
It was an accident. Kind of a funny one actually. The “damage” was already done so there is no sense in making him leave. You made it a much bigger deal than it needed to be. YTA.
Was brother in law the one casting the movie? I guess could see accidentally switching to the browser that hadn’t been properly closed..BUT I would of been so apologetic to literally everyone and wanted to leave immediately. His reaction is wild as hell. I’m also curious what his reaction was when it started playing.
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nope nta, if i did that at my sisters i would 100% expect her husband to kick me out and prolly not invite me back til i can prove im not a fkn pervert. close your porn tabs before you go out, dont leave dirty pics in the default folder. DONT volunteer your porn filled phone at ANY family function.
fkn noobs man, gdamn.
Calling you disgusting is an aggressive way to pass on the blame. If he’s so drunk that he accidentally put on porn on a large screen in front of his extending family with kids, he’s too drunk to be there. If he’s wasn’t drunk, that may be a larger problem and he still shouldn’t be there. You have no part in ruining anything.
Why was he watching that during a family get together ? He’s a perv
He needs to get his life together. If that happened accidentally, he literally just had porn open on his phone. Was too drunk and exposed it to children. Or he did this intentionally and exposed to children.
You are perfectly within your rights to kick him out. It’s a family event and very difficult to accidentally cast the porn (unless it was his projector and already set up for it?). He needs to show some remorse or regret about what happened.
To give more specific advice we would need the name of the movie and the full cast list and a link would be fantastic…..
How does someone accidentally play porn on a projector?
Since there were kids there, NTA.
If it were all adults, I’d laugh it off.
This post seems fake and hopefully it is.
YOU are a disgusting person for ruining HIS night? This is a case of both literal and figurative projecting, friend. He ruined everyone else’s night by “accidentally” going through the long list of steps required to replace your kid-safe movie that was playing with porn.
NTA. That guy would be banned from my home until he manages to explain the “accident” in a way that makes be believe it could have happened to anyone or takes full accountability.
Nah, he ruined his own evening. Narcissistic asshole can’t own up to his ridiculous mistake.
It wasn’t an accident. NTA.
If I were you, I’d do everything I could to keep him away from my children. That’s crossing a boundary you shouldn’t even have to set.
NTA.
Wait how are you the disgusting person??? He’s the one who “accidently” cast porn on the projector screen! My question is why was he watching porn while around everyone else…?
All in all you had every right to ask him to leave because WTF lol!
NTA
Oh baby, this is hilarious but not the “haha” funny. This is that I had to laugh to keep from flipping the damn projector over kind of funny. Let me just say this loud for the folks in the back: you are not the problem. You’re not disgusting. You didn’t ruin anyone’s night. You reacted as any reasonable, responsible adult would especially when kids were exposed to a full-blown moan-fest on a 12-foot screen in 4K. Let’s be real.
Your brother-in-law is embarrassed, and instead of owning that, he tried to throw that guilt on you so he could feel a little less foolish. But accountability don’t work like that, sweetheart. If you’re gonna be bold enough to have porn on your phone at a family function, you better be just as bold when people call you out for it. What you’re not gonna do is flip it on the host who was protecting children and keeping peace. You did what needed to be done, and you don’t owe anyone an apology for it.
Now… for him? If he really wants to avoid this kind of thing in the future, here’s a little tech tip from me to him: use the damn Incognito browser. That’s what it’s there for. 👀 You can literally search whatever you want in private. There are settings on his phone that prevent accidents like this. Private browsing exists for a reason use it. Because if you’re gonna walk around with your lil’ spicy tabs open, ready to connect to every Bluetooth and Chromecast in sight, you better not act brand new when you accidentally give the entire cookout a free OnlyFans preview. 🍿
So here’s what you can tell him if you still feel like responding:
👉🏽Text to BIL👇🏽:
Hey.
I saw your message, and I just want to be real clear don’t come at me calling me disgusting when I’m not the one who accidentally streamed porn to a party full of family and children. That was your device. Your content. Your accident. So let’s talk about what’s actually disgusting.
What happened was shocking, uncomfortable, and absolutely inappropriate. Kids saw that. So if you’re embarrassed? That’s fair. But don’t try to flip your shame into guilt for me to carry. I protected my home, my guests, and those children and I’d do it again.
Also, maybe next time, open up that Incognito tab and keep your habits private like the rest of us do. Nobody needs to know what you’re watching… until you accidentally cast it to a backyard barbecue.
You can be mad. You can sulk. But you will get over it. And next time? Be discreet. Be grown. And don’t bring your bookmarks to my block party.
Pot, meet kettle. ✌🏽🖤
With love, sense, and absolutely no regrets,
Your Internet Auntie 🫶🏽💅🏽🖤
I was gonna post this:
>NTA for what you did.
>YTA, however, for having even a Planck length of regret in the face of his gross gaslighting.
Then, it hit me, or maybe you just left some detail in the spirit of TLDR: you had the projector set up. The source would have been perhaps a laptop or tablet (or even a smartphone). These days, you’d likely be using a streaming service (e.g. Netflix, Disney, Prime, etc.). None of these services feature porn, per se; maybe a hard-R or NC17 here and there. But besides DELIBERATELY putting on an XXX, I’m just trying to figure out how this “mistake” would’ve been made. Did BIL decide to look up some skin on the source forgetting that it was set to pipe out to the screen (and it would have had to have been from HIS device, since he’s the one casting, according to the title of this thread)?
Would you mind elaborating please?
You were well within the limits of civility. You can’t “just have porn magically appear”. He is not without guilt. And you are within your rights as an adult and parent to act accordingly
I like porn as much as the next porn-liking human; but that doesn’t include public events —- let alone family events, let alone one with children/my child/any child.
You are NTA and it sounds like someone ok with projecting porn on a movie screen with kids around is a POS. To have the POS double-down and call you disgusting? Yeah, NTAx2
You ruined his night? Please. He’s a douche-bag and an asshole. He needs to be banned permanently.
NTA, it takes a lot of nerve to call someone ELSE a disgusting person when you’re the one who displayed porn in front of children! I get that he probably didn’t do this intentionally, but as the hostess, you have a responsibility for what is going on at your party and need to protect the minors to the extent that you can. Fuck what that did to his evening, what about all the other people’s evening?
You made the right call, and hopefully, that was his own embarrassment talking, and you’re both able to move past this.
Nta. How does he accidently cast it??.
I can barely figure out how to use the cast setting intentionally it’s so damn difficult to do
Could have been worse… homemade porn. Explain that to the kids.
NTA. Why get drunk to the point where no one can have fun?
You can’t accidentally do that you are not the AH bc he had to already been watching it on his phone with kids around he might have accidentally connected it but he didn’t accidentally play it
NTA
HE was disgusting. Who cares if it’s an “accident”, he put PORN on a projector with KIDS around, which means he either did it maliciously or was watching porn at the party. Sounds like you need to stop inviting BIL until he apologizes for his own bad actions.
The only phone call he should have made was to apologize. Total asshole.
NTA
NTA…but what HE did was illegal. Zero sympathy for that perv.
NTA
You are a “disgusting person for ruining his night”?
How drunk was he or he just completely lacks self-awareness?
How is this your fault. And you don’t accidentally cast porn on a projector
“Accidentally”! Do you ever make mistakes? Prudish of you so yes TAH
“You’re disgusting for ruining the night!” – guy that showed porn to children 🥴🥴🥴
BIL was checking out porn on his phone at a family gathering. He’s the AH.
I would not want him near me, my kids, kids of any family member, etc
You never had an embarrassing accident? I would have thrown him out if he had done it on purpose, but the key word is accident.
He’s the disgusting person.
Come on people, this post is so fake. It has all the typical signs of it. Plus, new account today.
I’m confused as to how this possibly could have been an accident.
Was his phone casting originally? If his phone was already casting maybe the movie ended and it played the next recommended video which happened to be porn. Still a crappy sitchuation though regardless.
NTA. There are layers to how gross that is.
I’ve accidentally casted from my phone before, but he had to have been watching porn at a family party for that to happen. If nothing else, he was a little too drunk. Hopefully he was somewhere private and really did accidentally hit the buttons to cast when he was fumbling with his phone or something
How and why did he cast porn onto the screen? That’s not just a random accident but it requires effort and intention. Remind him he ruined the party by watching porn at a family bbq. If he was so desperate to nut, then go find a private area.
NTA. You did not ruin his night. He did it all by himself. He got stupid drunk and showed porn on a big screen to the whole family. He’s a disgusting pig. He is the ONE that owes EVERYONE at the party a huge apology for his behavior.
If he was drunk or perverse enough to throw porn up when there were kids present , he needed to go.
It was NO accident! Are you serious? Why are you regretting kicking him out? Ask the parents of the kids he exposed to porn if they think you did the right thing. He’s blaming you for ruining his night, a night where he exposed kids to porn, instead of admitting his drunken ass thought it’s be funny to swap the movie to porn. He ruined the night for the parents with kids now asking questions.
Block his f-ing number – he wants to shift blame because he is now embarrassed he was called out for acting inappropriate around children.
Accident? Why do you got p0rn pulled up on your phone at a family gathering???
This is fake. You ruined his night and you feel bad? This isn’t real.
Either he did it intentionally or he was watching porn on his phone at a family function with children around. There are no other options for how that happened. NTA.
How was this an accident? Why was he even touching not his projector? NTAH
So he thinks you are disgusting for making him leave after he “accidentally” casted the porn he already had cued up on his phone to a projector in a public space with children present? He wrote that you are disgusting in a text to you?
I hope you and your husband are on the same page. First page, it was no accident. Page 2, blaming you + lack of remorse = no contact.
Is this your husband’s brother? He needs to sit down with him & give him the reality of the situation: He is aware it was no accident & until he takes responsibility and issues a real apology for everything, including calling you disgusting, you won’t even consider speaking to him. And it’s going to take even longer to consider allowing him near kids again.
He fucked up. He fucked up big. And then he made it worse.
Lmao NTA
I disconnect my phone from wifi when I’m using it for porn so it dosent “accidentally” screen share or connect. Even though I KNOW in order for it to connect I would have to hit the share button then hit the device to connect to and then wait for it to connect.
Your BIL is a perv good on you for having boundaries oh and your BIL is a child considering his first reaction is to play the victim instead of owning up to it.
Nothing worse than having to deal with an “adult” who dosent want to be accountable for their actions much less have the empathy to consider their actions from the perspective of an outside force
NTA
This reminds me of a TIFU from years ago.
Similarly, the man was with family for a BBQ at one of their homes. He put a movie onto the tv for the kids, projecting it from his phone. He later went to the bathroom to vigorously beat his meat to Asian anal porn, not realizing the his phone was still connected to the TV that the kids were watching.
He realized post nut clarity. He didn’t even bother returning to the party. He just left and never said whether his family talked to him again or anything.
NTA
Why is he watching porn at a family party?
He did that on purpose, showing porn to the whole family.
Somehow I think he wanted to show the children.
He should no longer be allowed at your home or near your children.
NTA
It was NOT an accident.
BIL might have had your network password for a while, as families tend to share passwords with relatives and, perhaps, close friends. No one expects something like this to happen.
Then, BIL had to connect with the projector. He had to enable Bluetooth and find the projector on the list of devices. At that point, he could connect to the projector and send the porn to it for all to see.
That’s a LOT of steps for an “accident”. I respectfully suggest the following:
BIL MUST sincerely apologize not only to the family, but to all who attended the party.
OP MUST change the network password immediately and NOT give it to BIL. EVER. He clearly cannot be trusted.
For good measure, BIL should either be prohibited from bringing a cell phone or, if that is not feasible, he must check his phone with OP. The length time for this to be in effect is at OP’s discretion.
By “OP”, I am referring to OP and their spouse.
BIL’s offense is a grave one. He violated your trust and broadcast porn to minors. He did not do this at HIS home; he did this at YOURS. He exposed you to possible liability for his actions.
BIL sending you a text calling YOU disgusting is absolutely unbelievable. I imagine that it was a drunken text. I sincerely hope that you have a talk with your sister and she has a long talk with him. Perhaps she will think about her relationship with her husband… if she isn’t already.
He broadcast PORN with minors around!
Consider letting authorities know!
This asshat is a danger to others. Who knows what KINDS of porn is on his device.
I feel like you need to get ahead of this AND you don’t deserve to deal with the potential liability.
I don’t know my bum from a whole in the ground where the legality of this is concerned, but I will tell you that my children or grandchildren been exposed, I still would have likely spoke to authorities regarding the situation. (I was exposed to TOO much as a child and not a single adult in my personal universe gave a rat’s 🍑. )
Just consider covering YOUR OWN 🍑, as the host of this event as well as neither homeowner but more importantly, show real concern for the children who were exposed.