So, lately my brother and his wife have been fighting a lot. I usually stay out of it because I don’t think it’s my business.
Last week, on a Sunday morning, my brother’s wife called me. She asked me to tell my dad (who’s 60) to drive over and take my brother and their baby to the ER at the evening (my father wasn’t available on the phone for few hours ) because the baby wasn’t feeling well.
They live 40–50 minutes away from my parents, and they have their own car. At first I thought maybe their car had broken down, but she didn’t say that. I was busy when she called, so I wasn’t asking her why and just told her I’ll pass the message when I’ll see him.
Later I called my brother to check in when to take them. He told me thats fine and they will just take the bus (she went to her parents house with the baby they live like 5 minutes away from them ) . I of course told him I would take him and he should take the baby sick on the bus. I was pretty shocked cus why wouldn’t she give him the car ? He could even walk there since they live so close to there if she is struggling to drive since she is pregnent .
I told him I was worried and suggested maybe they should see a counselor since she’s also pregnant with their second child (and hormones could be making things worse). I even offered to drive them myself so my parents wouldn’t be dragged into this weird situation.
But then my brother texted me saying his wife didn’t want me to do it . she specifically wanted my dad to come. Which was confusing, because she’s never really gotten along with him and at times thought he didn’t like her.
Honestly, if she wasn’t pregnant, I’d probably think she was being unreasonable asking my 60 yo dad to drive 40–50 minutes to take my brother and their baby when they have a car sitting right there.
A few hours later, my brother texted again saying they were fine and had gone to the doctor together. And he told me his wife said she didn’t want me to come since she didn’t want to bother me which sound alike BS but whatever .
I don’t judge her too harshly because I’ve never been pregnant, so maybe hormones are affecting her. Still, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t kind of pissed about the whole things .
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So, lately my brother and his wife have been fighting a lot. I usually stay out of it because I don’t think it’s my business.
Last week, on a Sunday morning, my brother’s wife called me. She asked me to tell my dad (who’s 60) to drive over and take my brother and their baby to the ER at the evening (my father wasn’t available on the phone for few hours ) because the baby wasn’t feeling well.
They live 40–50 minutes away from my parents, and they have their own car. At first I thought maybe their car had broken down, but she didn’t say that. I was busy when she called, so I just said ill tell him without thinking too much.
Later I called my brother to check in when to take them. He told me to just ignore her because they’re fighting (she went to her parents house with the baby , and she and don’t pay attention to what she says and he would take the child on a buss or something which is totally crazy since they got a car . I of course told him I would take him and he can’t take a sick baby on the bus.
I told him I was worried and suggested maybe they should see a counselor since she’s also pregnant with their second child (and hormones could be making things worse). I even offered to drive them myself so my parents wouldn’t be dragged into this weird situation.
But then my brother texted me saying his wife didn’t want me to do it . she specifically wanted my dad to come. Which was confusing, because she’s never really gotten along with him and at times thought he didn’t like her.
Honestly, if she wasn’t pregnant, I’d probably think she was being unreasonable asking my 60 yo dad to drive 40–50 minutes to take my brother and their baby when they have a car sitting right there.
A few hours later, my brother texted again saying they were fine and had gone to the doctor together. Before that, I joked to him maybe his wife didn’t want me to come because she thinks I drive like a racecar ( I’m actually a super chill driver). He told me that she didn’t want to bother me much which honestly feels like BS, but whatever.
I don’t judge her too harshly because I’ve never been pregnant, so maybe hormones are affecting her. Still, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t kind of pissed about the whole things.
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Why are you mad at your SIL about this? It sounds like A. it doesn’t really affect you since all you were asked to do was pass on a message, and B. most of the miscommunication and change in the story came from your brother. Has it occurred to you that she asked for your dad because she’s afraid of your brother or he caused the reason for the trip to the ER?
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INFO: why are you only blaming your SIL when your brother is the one changing the story and literally nothing happened to you?
I don’t understand what’s going on
Did you ask what was up with their car?
Why is op saying “60” like it’s a tottering feeble old man who can’t drive for 50 minutes. I’m 57 and regularly drive an hour each way to have lunch with my son, and 5 hours each way for long weekends with my daughter. Am I going to be incapable in 3 more years??
Dude, your dad is 60 not 90. Stop acting like 60 is the age of some infirm geriatric.
Something weird is going on in their household amd it is not just a sick baby. The ever changing story does not make any sense.
Also, weird to throw it all on pregnancy hormones when brother is acting weird too.
NTA. This is weird and there is an underlying reason she wanted your father to drive that she didn’t want you to know. She might have wanted to complain about your brother to him and ask him to have a man-to-man talk. I’d be curious to find the answer. I’d meet her for lunch and ask her how she’s doing. And then meet up with your brother for a walk to see what he has to say. You might be able to give them a solution, whether it’s a doctor’s visit for depression or anxiety, or marriage counseling, or even just changing their schedule.
YTA because you specifically said their relationship isn’t any of your business and then made a big deal out of something that isn’t any of your buisness.
Some kind of sick power play that has nothing to do with pregnancy hormones.
NTA
So wait, she calls asking for help getting a sick baby to the hospital and you say you’ll pass on the message when you see your father? And everybody is more into the reasons and drama than getting the baby to the hospital?