My (26M) brother (28M) has been engaged to Maya (25F) for a year. Recently, she announced she’s pregnant. Everyone was excited, until a week ago when I overheard her telling a friend on the phone that she “faked the positive test to keep him from leaving” but now “needs to actually get pregnant fast.”
I confronted her privately and she begged me not to tell him, saying it was just a “desperate mistake” and she loves him. I told her if she doesn’t tell him, I will. She said I’d be “destroying their relationship” and ruining his happiness. I told my brother everything. He kicked her out and is now devastated, and most of the family is blaming me for “stirring drama” and “not letting them figure it out.”
AITAH for exposing her lie even though it blew up their engagement?
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NTAH
The truth shall set you free!
You know, honestly! Sometimes we should just let others do what they are doing and mind our own business.
For our own sake. Just saying!
Ntah.
There is no way the pregnancy is the first lie. You start small and then move up to get to a lie that big
A few years from now when your brother is in a happy, healthy relationship, he will. Thank you
You did the right thing by being honest with your brother. It’s painful, but he deserves to know the truth before making big decisions. Keeping it secret would have only hurt him more
NTA
NTA
Your brother might be sad now, but you have likely saved him from a lifetime of misery.
Someone who lies to their partner like that us would not make a good partner.
NTA. the family is blaming the wrong person here. You are not the one who destroyed their relationship, she is. She lied about the most fundamental thing in a relationship ,and you had every right to expose her.
NTAH. Making babies is’nt a way to fix a broken relationship. You had to tell your brother before she get really pregnant. Fix your relationship, then make babies, not the other way around.
NTA. Your family sounds like they suck tho. Instead of telling your brother like you did, they wanted you to essentially let your brother stay with a sneaky, lying, manipulative woman who was then going to try to trap him with a kid….. Make it make sense.
NTA. What was to figure out? The relationship was already over. She lied to force him to stay.
NTA, That is a woman who will start with one lie and then end up taking out loans in your brothers name. And also how does the family think he will figure things out IF he doesnt know everything? I wonder if you mum or the family that says it, has done the same?
NTA, you saved your brother for that gaslighter. Good job as a sister!
OH HELL NTA. That bitch had it coming
Who in your family is claiming that you are causing drama? They sound like they aren’t too bright. A normal person would conclude that the liar started the drama. Makes me think the post can be real.
NTA. Never cover a lie told to your brother.
Bahahahahaha. You just saved your brother. Well done. I applaud you.
NTA. Sounds like he was going to leave her if she had to fake a pregnancy so that he wouldn’t leave her.
The type of person who fakes a pregnancy is usually the type of person who’s an emotional nightmare to deal with, she destroyed her own relationship.
NTA and fuck anyone in your family blaming you. The only person to blame is her. She was literally baby trapping him minus the baby! He would’ve put it together when she either doesn’t get pregnant (totally a possibility!) or it takes 12 months for the baby to be born instead of 9! She’s a moron. She got what she deserved and your brother deserves someone who doesn’t lie to trap him.
NTA she’s insane and manipulative. The family saying you’re “stirring drama” when it’s the truth probably have it out for your brother
NTA
I have serious issues with your parents attitude.
Like, they WANTED your brother to be mislead by his fiancée, and wanted him trapped in a relationship where he was going to leave, but then felt he couldn’t?
NTA.
Better to have the truth now than be tricked into a parental role with a liar!
NTA. My dad was going to break up with my mom, she got pregnant w me to keep him. Obviously @50 years later I’m happy about it now, but she made him miserable most of the time they were together, 22ish years. She has BPD and it was either good or very bad. He stayed w her to protect me and my brother. If your brother was planning to break up w her he had a reason, and she clearly is the type of person that would baby trap someone, that’s lowwwww
NTA. It’s unbelievable that your family would react this way. She sounds like a terrible person. I don’t understand why they wouldn’t all see it that way, but hopefully your brother is appreciative at least (he’s better off even if he isn’t though).
You are a good sister. NTA.
NRA As a mother of adult boys myself, I would be proud of you for saving your brother from that
>and most of the family is blaming me for “stirring drama” and “not letting them figure it out.”
Why do people that post in here always have the worst families?
NTA, obviously.
You have just showed your brother that you’re loyal and trustworthy; unfortunately you guys now both know that you’re family would stand by and let someone deceive you :/
NTA, but I’d be weary of your family now
Saved him an expensive divorce.
That’s manipulation. She deserves to be single if that’s her plan.
NTA
You are not the one that broke the relationship, SHE is. She is the one that lied, and then refused to tell him herself.
NTA
NTA you would have been the AH if you knew she was manipulating your brother and didn’t tell him. He clearly wasn’t happy before which is why she pulled this stunt why would you help trap him in a unhappy relationship for a baby that doesn’t even exist