Long story short, my wife and I had a great evening the other night, put the baby to bed and her and I stayed up and watched a movie. After the movie was over she was ready to go to bed and I wasn’t so I told her I was gunna go play some video games and she told me no. This has happened before, more times than I can count where she will manipulate me, emotionally punish me and guilt me into not doing the things I enjoy doing like gaming, fishing, etc…last night I had enough so after she rolled over and went to sleep instead of me pretending to go to bed I just got up anyways and went and gamed. I wasn’t even on but maybe ten minutes and she was texting me calling me and asshole, saying all I care about is video games and I can sleep on the couch so on so forth. She ended up leaving in the middle of the night, turned her location off and idk what time she came back I was already in bed.
Fast forward to the morning I woke up, got dressed and started doing yard work and outside chores and when I was ready to go back inside she had all the doors locked, not answering me. I knocked on the doors went around back and back to the front still locked and I know she saw me trying to get in. So I decided to call non emergency police to come out. Before they even showed up she had realized how serious I was and I’ve been calm and collected the entire time. Never raised my voice, never cussed at her, I was just tired of the control and manipulation.
Now I feel like a piece of shit and she started crying saying she was going to pack and bag and leave and take our child with her. Currently she is locked up in our bedroom and I am out at the park with my daughter having fun with her. She won’t talk to me at all and I’m wondering if I over reacted. Am I the asshole.
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Long story short, my wife and I had a great evening the other night, put the baby to bed and her and I stayed up and watched a movie. After the movie was over she was ready to go to bed and I wasn’t so I told her I was gunna go play some video games and she told me no. This has happened before, more times than I can count where she will manipulate me, emotionally punish me and guilt me into not doing the things I enjoy doing like gaming, fishing, etc…last night I had enough so after she rolled over and went to sleep instead of me pretending to go to bed I just got up anyways and went and gamed. I wasn’t even on but maybe ten minutes and she was texting me calling me and asshole, saying all I care about is video games and I can sleep on the couch so on so forth. She ended up leaving in the middle of the night, turned her location off and idk what time she came back I was already in bed.
Fast forward to the morning I woke up, got dressed and started doing yard work and outside chores and when I was ready to go back inside she had all the doors locked, not answering me. I knocked on the doors went around back and back to the front still locked and I know she saw me trying to get in. So I decided to call non emergency police to come out. Before they even showed up she had realized how serious I was and I’ve been calm and collected the entire time. Never raised my voice, never cussed at her, I was just tired of the control and manipulation.
Now I feel like a piece of shit and she started crying saying she was going to pack and bag and leave and take our child with her. Currently she is locked up in our bedroom and I am out at the park with my daughter having fun with her. She won’t talk to me at all and I’m wondering if I over reacted. Am I the asshole.
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> I might be an asshole for calling the cops on my wife because she locked me out of the house. Idk if she did it intentionally and I might have over reacted
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She needs therapy and tbh i hate when people come on here and automatically tell the posters they need to break it off with their s/o but in this case you def need to think about separating especially with all the manipulating and guilt tripping its just not healthy
NTA. Your wife is.
She is controlling, manipulative and playing victim.
Be careful with these type of people.
Often, situations tend to be out of control.
You need to contact a lawyer to discuss options, especially concerning your daughter. And Start recording and filing these type of situations. You never know.
NTA. Why do you feel like shit? She is trying to manipulate you. She was the one who locked you out. Attempting to control your hobbies and locking you out of your marital home when you partake in your hobbies is abuse.
Now she is threatening to take your child away from you unless you comfort her about her abusive behavior towards you.
You are NTA, but this behavior is not going to get better. It will escalate.
Discuss this with a therapist and a lawyer, not Reddit.
NTA, also she can’t just take off and leave with your child anymore than you can. How much longer are you going to put up with her abuse?
How often are you gaming? How often are you gone fishing?
Of course you have the right to enter your own home, so NTA for that part, but it also sounds like you have a discussion about hobbies and priorities ahead of you.
Why is it that she was upset about your gaming? A common issue is that men are notoriously bad at getting their share of household work done, so if your pattern is to game where you should have been doing household chores, then that would be a much more reasonable explanation of her behavior.
If you’re going to tolerate this, always have a key in your pocket when you go outside. That’s assuming you want to tolerate it.