Okay just a little information before going into detail, in three months we are due for our third child. It will be c-section delivery.
My mom is going to be having surgery, we don’t know yet when it will be. She will find out sometime this month
My older brother stills lives there but not always home
We have a friend that our kids absolutely love and never acted scared of them. That I feel comfortable with leaving our kids with them if it comes down to it
So today we was in the car and my husband wanted to revisit a conversation we had a couple weeks ago, about him going to be there for the birth of our child. Totally okay.
Him: I’m going to be there for the birth of our child, I’m not missing that
Me: okay, yes you’ll be there no one said other wise. But just to let you know tho depending on what happens during that time you may just have to stay home with the kids
Him: no that’s crazy I’m not going to miss the birth of my child, if I have to bring the other two kids with us then I will
Me: babe you can not bring two toddler into a operating room, if my mom isn’t able to do it due to her having surgery and if something comes up for the other person that can watch the kids, and if they’re not in school you’ll have no choice but to stay at home with them.
This is where he starts flipping out all bc I was just letting him know that there could be a possibility to where he might have to stay at home with our other kids if we don’t have anyone to watch them.
I told him multiple times to drop it bc we was just going in circles at this point, and that we had the kids in the car to just stop, which really set him off and he kept on until I went off on him.
Me: okay I told you multiple times to stop and yet you keep on and on about it, stop being your parents
(His parents are not in our lives anymore due to some things).
Him: wow really… that’s real low for you to even say that, all bc I said I was going to be there for our child’s birth
Me: well you don’t know when to stop, and not one time did I straight up say you wasn’t going to be there, just all I said was that there could be a chance and possibility that if we don’t have anyone to watch our kids there’s really nothing that you can do at that point.
Later on when we got home his friends called him, they wanted to know what was up and why I was so mad so I explained to them everything above and they said yeah sorry dude we’re on her side with this.
One of his friends: let me guess when you tried explaining or answer his question, he didn’t like it so he continued on and on.
Me: yes. That’s exactly what happened and then when I checked his ass he got even more mad, which caused me to get mad and fed up with him and now he wants to cry about it.
Later on my husband was like you know they agreed with you bc you was just on the phone already pissed off, and you’re my wife so to not piss you off even more they just agreed with you.
Me: yeah whatever babe, it doesn’t matter who tells you that you’re in the wrong you always try flipping it on me like I’m the bad one bc you simply want to keep pushing me until I go off on you, and then you want to sit there and cry about it or laugh about it when I do start tripping on you. You always want to be doing this crap to where I will answer you and all bc you don’t like my response you want to keep on and on knowing I hate that shit, and I will check your ass if you keep on especially if your acting a fool and rising your voice at me. We go through this every freaking week it seems like with just different conversations
Plz let me know if I’m the one in the wrong or over reacting
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Okay just a little information before going into detail, in three months we are due for our third child. It will be c-section delivery.
My mom is going to be having surgery, we don’t know yet when it will be. She will find out sometime this month
My older brother stills lives there but not always home
We have a friend that our kids absolutely love and never acted scared of them. That I feel comfortable with leaving our kids with them if it comes down to it
So today we was in the car and my husband wanted to revisit a conversation we had a couple weeks ago, about him going to be there for the birth of our child. Totally okay.
Him: I’m going to be there for the birth of our child, I’m not missing that
Me: okay, yes you’ll be there no one said other wise. But just to let you know tho depending on what happens during that time you may just have to stay home with the kids
Him: no that’s crazy I’m not going to miss the birth of my child, if I have to bring the other two kids with us then I will
Me: babe you can not bring two toddler into a operating room, if my mom isn’t able to do it due to her having surgery and if something comes up for the other person that can watch the kids, and if they’re not in school you’ll have no choice but to stay at home with them.
This is where he starts flipping out all bc I was just letting him know that there could be a possibility to where he might have to stay at home with our other kids if we don’t have anyone to watch them.
I told him multiple times to drop it bc we was just going in circles at this point, and that we had the kids in the car to just stop, which really set him off and he kept on until I went off on him.
Me: okay I told you multiple times to stop and yet you keep on and on about it, stop being your parents
(His parents are not in our lives anymore due to some things).
Him: wow really… that’s real low for you to even say that, all bc I said I was going to be there for our child’s birth
Me: well you don’t know when to stop, and not one time did I straight up say you wasn’t going to be there, just all I said was that there could be a chance and possibility that if we don’t have anyone to watch our kids there’s really nothing that you can do at that point.
Later on when we got home his friends called him, they wanted to know what was up and why I was so mad so I explained to them everything above and they said yeah sorry dude we’re on her side with this.
One of his friends: let me guess when you tried explaining or answer his question, he didn’t like it so he continued on and on.
Me: yes. That’s exactly what happened and then when I checked his ass he got even more mad, which caused me to get mad and fed up with him and now he wants to cry about it.
Later on my husband was like you know they agreed with you bc you was just on the phone already pissed off, and you’re my wife so to not piss you off even more they just agreed with you.
Me: yeah whatever babe, it doesn’t matter who tells you that you’re in the wrong you always try flipping it on me like I’m the bad one bc you simply want to keep pushing me until I go off on you, and then you want to sit there and cry about it or laugh about it when I do start tripping on you. You always want to be doing this crap to where I will answer you and all bc you don’t like my response you want to keep on and on knowing I hate that shit, and I will check your ass if you keep on especially if your acting a fool and rising your voice at me. We go through this every freaking week it seems like with just different conversations
Plz let me know if I’m the one in the wrong or over reacting
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