I (18f) and my sister (17f) have always had a complicated relationship. She was always in trouble for hurting someone in one way or another. She would bite and kick and scream and steal stuff from the time she could. When I was around ten, my mom got married. The guy she married was not great and abused my whole family for over nine years. He particularly abused me and my sister pretty badly to the point I got taken from the state and placed with a family member. About a year later my mom divorced him, and that was a whole story on its own. Recently, my sister became pregnant and decided that was the perfect time to bring my abuser back, and brought him to my house while I was there, and I had to lock myself in my room and as soon as he left I got in my car and I haven’t talked to her since. Some people are calling me mean for cutting her out but I don’t think I am.
AITAH for cutting my sister off after she brought my abuser into my home?
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you’re not mean. she brought your abuser around knowing your history. it’s okay to cut off someone who disrespects your safety. protect your peace.
NTA. She knew exactly what she was doing
when she brought that monster to your home. Anyone calling you mean can volunteer to host them both instead.
Is she also threatened by this abuser? Did she have any choice at the time? I feel like I need a bit more context. Is this the same ex-stepdad or a different abuser? Is her house different from your house? Are you living on your own or in your other relative’s house, and were they present? And no, you are not the AH. Also, doesn’t this f***er have a restraining order? You should call the cops and have him arrested.
Anyone calling you mean should explain how exactly you’re supposed to feel safe around someone who prioritizes your abuser over you. You’re protecting yourself. Full stop.
Why did she bring this guy back? Or did she never lose contact with him?
Strange because she was also abused, and she’s not even his daughter, what does she want with him in her life?
NTA. Full stop. Your safety comes first and always. She crossed the a line there.
Why would she bring your moms ex-husband back into the picture?
Wait… Is your 17yr old sister pregnant with his baby?
Because that’s a whole new issue altogether with your former stepdad grooming his stepdaughter from a young age.
She would’ve been 9 when they first met…..
And NTA for being upset about your sister bringing your abuser into your home.
Nta. Cut her off. She knows what she did. And she sounds like a horrible person.
Jesus! Some people are really fucked up! When I compare all these stories on Reddit with my
life, I feel grateful and silly for moaning about my problems. You’re NTA. You do what you have to do to feel safe! Good luck Hun!
Your mother got married when you were 10 & he abused your family for OVER 9 years but you are only 18 years old?? He abused her as well; why would she bring him back into HER life much less yours just because she’s pregnant??? This doesn’t make any sense.
NTA. WTF is wrong with her