So I had a bad breakup with a girl a little bit back, we had a history as childhood friends knew each other for a very long time and dated for over 2 years. For the last 6 months of our relationship it was no secret that I was starting to feel unhappy
I felt like we rarely spent time together and like I didn’t see her anymore as at that point we’d only be face to face for about an hour per day if even that. We were fighting all the time because I felt like we were only really having sex or arguing, at that point it was mostly arguing ig, and I wanted to do things like just wanting her to come over and watch a movie with me or lay down together or go for a walk even
So I ended up telling her how I felt and the things I wanted to do and told her if things didn’t change that I thought maybe we might want to take a break and see how we feel about ourselves. This was after she hadn’t spoken to me for a week because I asked her if we could go out on a date for like a movie or something, she got upset because she thought we shouldn’t spend money going out at the time and told me to watch a movie at home.
I don’t know why she got so cold towards me for these little things and I finally told her that I thought it was time to take a break. I sent her the text and took a shower then got ready to go for a bike ride and suddenly she just walked into my house and started crying telling me she loved me and she was sorry for everything and she didn’t know she was hurting me like that.
I did what I could to comfort her but I admit I was a little flustered with her showing up unexpectedly and the way she was acting. Then she started making out with me and we ended up hooking up with no protection and I finished in her and she seemed happy again. We were talking and laughing and then she gave me a kiss and left, it made me feel a lot better in the moment and I wasn’t worried about it because I knew she was on birth control
But as soon as I left she started texting me saying she thought she was pregnant and asking me what we were going to do. I said how do you know you’re pregnant to which she kept saying that she knew. I was very suspicious of it and I didn’t like that we were talking over text like that so I told her she can call me if she like but I didn’t want to talk about something that serious over text. I put my phone in my pocket and waited for her to call me.
She instead started cursing at me and telling me what a pos I was for not caring and that I’d be a horrible dad. I got home and read it all at once and I was starting to feel like this was some kind of setup to see how I’d react or something so I told her she could go find someone else to be a better dad then me
I accused her of lying about being pregnant and trying to trap me and she accused me of being a deadbeat dad saying “you’d really leave your kid with no father?” So I told her “yeah I guess so because I don’t want a family with you and you aren’t even really pregnant”. She finally called me crying saying she was sorry and she didn’t want me to go, I told her flat out it was over and dumped her
A week went by and I didn’t say a word to her I just left her for good, but I did end up calling her to tell her I was sorry for what I said and asked her if she ended up taking a pregnancy test. She said she did and she wasn’t pregnant. She screenshotted what I said to her and showed all her friends, they all hate me now for apparently running out the door on her in a serious situation
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this story is so crazy i dont even know what to say. how old are you guys??
This sounds bad
But the Situation is resolved now. Friends like this are not friends, and you definetly dodged a bullet.
Go to the library, find yourself a cute Girl and start over
You did everything right
lol she knows she’s pregnant the same day? Christ the kids these days man.
You seem young, but you really should learn more about pregnancy and how long it takes for a woman to know she is pregnant for your own future protection.
She was trying to baby trap ya. She faked it to keep you
NTA but don’t put your dick in crazy bro
Man I’m so relieved she’s not pregnant. Keep the door closed. Your friends will get over it, give it time.
And FFS use protection.
Use protection and gain some self respect. Don’t be with people who treat you like this. You’re worth more.
You dodged a bullet she just showed her true colors and definitely didn’t think this was heading the way it did. I thought you were going to find out she cheated on you. Look one it would take weeks for her to know if she pregnant. Not day one of you releasing in her. Thats called a whole can of crazy trying to regain the control she lost by you trying to end things. Two to throw that you’re a horrible father over nothing in your face that a big red flag of nope. You don’t need her friends either cause if they are that stupid to believe that whole screwed up story then you do not need them. Walk away knowing you handled all of that perfectly fine and that you made the right decision to leave. There’s better fish out in that big sea. Like ones that love books and think libraries are cool. *cough
There is something very wrong with her
You dodged a bullet hope you learned your lesson here 😂
jeeeeeeezzzzus… she sounds like a nightmare.
This is a very well-written first post. I’m looking forward to more.
If her friends actually know the full situation, and they think you’re an ass, they’re not worth your time. I tend to think they don’t know it (don’t try to tell them, it’ll just be more drama), just go on with your life and be thankful you dodged that bullet and she wasn’t pregnant. Also how long since you had sex. Those tests aren’t reliable for a little while (depends on the test just how long). Like at least ten days though.
These 2 need to grow the fuck up 😮💨
always portect pp , if no proteckt u make babi and thats sad…and sad backwards is das.. and ..DAS NOT GOOD.
This is nonsense!! 🤣 He and she should have learned in school how long it could take for a female to learn that she is pregnant! 🤣 They seem super young or majorly immature! It don’t matter if HER friends hate you now cause they are not YOUR friends AND because the situation was NOT serious since she was lying and being dramatic! Red flags 🚩 🚩 Pay attention in the future!
Dude… just keep as far away from her as you could. She totally created that entire situation up. It’s some bullshit. That is a manipulative narcissist you have there. Playing games with you to maintain control. And the minute you say enough and stand up to them is when they loose their shit and start a smear campaign again you and will employ all kinds of other people to destroy you for not playing along. Which you didn’t. All that fighting. Fucking and fighting is all part of her incessant need for attention and to suck all your energy out of you.
That is how they work. She probably never stopped taking the pill and had all that planned. She was expecting you to fall for it and shower her with devotion because most of that time that is what happens when people are expecting and excited about it.
You could fight dirty with dirty. But that really is a waste of energy and you will only bring yourself down to her low frequency level that she thrives in.
Rise above it. Cut ties. And all your stupid friends that believe her and are manipulated with her shit? Those are called flying monkeys. You don’t need them either .
You have to let them all go. Don’t let any of that bullshit ruin your life and take up space in your head rent free.
Seriously. If you are free from her. And there really is no child, then just detach. For your own sanity and for your soul.
You deserve to be happy and find a woman that will love you and respect you for who you are and not what you can provide her as a resource. That is what she was using you for.
Be free and be happy. Maybe it’s a good idea to get some therapy to work thru this. There is no doubt some trauma from this experience. It weighs on a person.
In a different set of circumstances, if your girlfriend really did get pregnant and had the evidence to show you. And she was sincere and told you the truth? I’m sure that you would have had a different reaction and maybe stayed. But all that said, if you did just dump her and were that cold hearted? Then I would say you were an asshole.
But you didn’t do that. And she terrorized you instead. Just remember what she is. And be grateful you are free from her. You have a long life ahead of you. Live it free.
Run. This is some crazy shit that crazy girls do.
NTA, she did try to trap you. It’s disturbing to see the lengths she will go to “to keep you”.
Her sending the screenshots is just her to further control the narrative that you are the bad guy. Meanwhile she is the crazy one who planned all of this
Not pertinent for the judgement, NOR, I just really want to know. I find it a little weird that you say you see each other so little but apparently that’s still daily?
This has to be the wildest story I read in a very long time, dangg
I thought getting baby trapped is something only celebrities experience. Glad you got away from her she sounds crazy lol
Good riddance. She was doing way too much.
You are both toxic to each other. So toxic. For both your sakes, don’t see each other any more. Ghost her. Any so-called “friends” who sided with her baby trap attempt should be ghosted too. You need to move in more mature circles.
You dodged a bullet!
If she genuinely thinks she might be pregnant one day after having sex, that means that she has been misleading you about her contraception.
If she was lying and testing your reaction, that is a red flag too.
You did the right thing by dumping her. Don’t
have any more moments of weakness and touch her again. Also, use condoms with your future partners. I have known guys whose whole
lives changed because one night they got carried away.
She’s a manipulative b!tch. Pay her no mind. Sounds like she was only using you. Let her friends hate you. She was trying to baby trap you, and you were RIGHT.