Context: I’m 5 months post partum and my husband and I have been going to the gym for about 3 months now. The first month we would rotate, our gym is in the basement level of a mall so him/I would workout while the other walked around the mall and then we would switch. The staff and general manager at the gym noticed this and told us she could stay in the gym once she doesn’t cry or fuss to much. Then we’ll have to remove her. We’ve been doing that for 2 months now. So usually my husband does his cardio (baby’s in her carrier) while I swim and when I’m done and changed we’ll trade I’ll use the treadmill while baby is in the carrier on a very low speed and maybe a mild incline to feel something. Honestly that’s her best nap of thr day.
The gym is also very kid friendly they have an entire indoor play area where parents can leave their kids and theyre supervised by gym staff but my baby is 5 months old and really can’t be left alone.
So onto the problem yesterday. Hubby and I did the usual routine and switched over so I was on the treadmill, baby was napping, I had a headphone in listening to music while I strolled on the treadmill. We also use the treadmill furthest away from most of the equipment. Randomly some girl maybe early 20’s comes up screaming at me, that this “is a child free ” place and my baby is annoying her, so now I’m dumbfounded because my baby is asleep not making a peep and also was looking qt the indoor play area wondering how is this a child free place. I told her I have permission and continued, she raised her voice more ranting how “us parents think we have the right to take our crotch goblins anywhere we want and it won’t affect people” until she woke up the baby and obviously started to cry
Now as we agreed with the general manager I stopped the treadmill, got off and was beginning to leave the gym to 1. Get away from this screaming person and 2. To soothe my baby. A member of staff heard the commotion and came over, I simply said I’m leaving and began to walk away, I heard her complaining to the staff member that my baby was crying the whole time and interrupting her workout, another staff member stopped me by the door and asked what the situation was, I calmly explained what happened and a couple other people were around and was able to back up my side. That I was just minding my business, she walked up to me and started screaming and just being rude.
The general manager came out and banned her, I was fed up at that point and just walked out, my husband was done anyways so as we’re walking to the car this girl is walking behind us screaming profanities at us. Calling me an AH for getting her banned from the gym.
So AITA for getting this random girl banned from the gym?
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def not ur fault, she was bein super rude and literally woke ur baby up. gyms r public spaces, not some anti-kid cult. u followed the rules and stayed calm. she should learn some manners
I believe that she got herself banned with no help from you or your husband.
Being unhinged in public is a FAFO situation.
NTA. She had no right to approach you. In a perfect world, she’ll learn something about consequences.
NTA. That girl was the AH and she got what was coming for her conduct.
The fact that they banned her on the spot makes me suspect this isn’t the first time her unhinged attitude has been a problem. You’re good.
NTA – she’s the only one responsible for getting herself banned from the gym. You and hubby were doing as you had agreed with the gym management so all good there.
NTA-you didn’t get her banned. She got herself banned.
NTA – that girls is insane and most likely has mental health issues!
NTA, You had permission, your baby was quiet and she chose to harass you. She got herself banned by breaking the rules, not because of you.
As long as you take the kid away when it cries, you can take it anywhere you go. She was way out of line.
I mean she deserved to get banned.
But it’s so entitled to take your baby to the gym.
NTA
You must already realise you’re absolutely NTA?
You’d already cleared it with management. Baby was napping. She came up screaming rather than choosing to have a quiet word with either said management or yourself.
She already proved she couldn’t be trusted to handle grievances maturely and may well have just caused a scene with someone else over something else, so they were right to ban her.