So I’m a male Uni student taking classes and living in a dorm with some of my friends.
I’m taking a shower, I locked the door, turned on the water, and like 5 minutes later one of my friends unlocked it and tried opening the curtain.
I’m yelling at him not to open the curtain cuz I’m butt-ass naked, but then he opens the other side of the curtain to reveal my genitalia
What pissed me off is instead of apologizing he runs off laughing saying “I saw it lmaoooo” to my other roommates.
He along with some of my friends are saying that it’s normal to be naked around “the guys” at places such as the change room, sauna, etc. But I’m more of the conservative type and always try to change in a separate room or cover myself with a towel or something, and plus I didn’t really give my consent so
AITAH to think that I have the right to be pissed
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NTA. You have a right to privacy.
NTA. If they’re comfortable then that’s one thing, they had no right to go against your wishes and then joke about sexually harassing you.
NTA. He was a gross pervert. And you should call him that. “I didn’t consent for you to see my dick, you gross pervert. I’m not interested in you. Anyone else here been sexually harassed by this disgusting creep of a pervert? What did you hope to gain out of peeping on me, like a fucking pervert. You’re disgusting and now I don’t trust you, which is a feat because I didn’t trust you before. Do it again and I’m charging you with sexual harassment. You creepy pervert.”
You should live by yourself of live with others who have the same beliefs about modesty.
NTA.
Your friend is childish. It isn’t funny. You have a right to privacy and to feel comfortable where you are living.
YTA Your friend is clearly a deeply closeted gay. This was a cry for help and a cry for penis but you just got mad.
You could file a report get transferred and then make a case with the police
Then see how hilarious it is
NTA, mate. Yo, it’s all about consent. If you’re comfortable with your bits on show, all power to ya, but if not, your ‘mates’ gotta respect that. They crossed a line – all about boundaries, innit. Shower shenanigans ain’t the place to prove you’re ‘one of the guys’. Pull them in line or step away, pal. Respect is key. 💯👌🏽
You’re a uni student rooming with a bunch of 4-year-olds? LOL and NTA
I’d press charges tbh. Fuck that creep
Definitely NTA bro. Ain’t nothin’ wrong with wanting some privacy, esp when you’re stark naked! That’s basic respect, man. Locker room culture or not, he had no right. You should give ’em a taste of their own medicine, see if they’re laughing then… stay strong, man. 🙌
He’s a pervert
Ask him why he was so excited to “see it.” While it may be normal to be naked around “the guys,” it’s hardly normal to unlock a door and invade someone’s privacy. Though, this is the sort of “boys will be boys” BS too many keep up for the rest of their lives.
He thinks it’s funny. What I think you should do also is for him to explain what’s so funny? Then stare dead at him whilst he tries to explain himself. What an arsehole. Him, not you.
Sure it’s normal to be naked around the guys in a locker room setting but you were in a private bathroom, with a locked door. That was break and enter plus voyeurism. NTA.
NTA – but double down. Ask if next time he wants to touch it as well as just look at it. As he seems to really like the idea of your wang.
You have every right to be mad. That was sexual harassment. He caught you in a position where you were vulnerable and couldn’t leave and didn’t respect your wishes.
I know it might be extreme but report him. It’s not funny.
If he is that disrespectful to you he will be that way to anyone.
Sure nakedness in the locker room, sauna, etc might be normal…it’s also consensual
I shower daily at the gym in a gang shower, i don’t see what the big deal is that a friend saw you in the shower nude. I would just get over it.
How did you get through gym class in highschool?
Hold him accountable. For real. That’s harassment
You’re right to be pissed. That’s a form of sexual harassment. NTA
So your friends have no concept of consent?
Please protect females around them.
NTA. This is a form of sexual assault. If you live in a dorm, there should be a resident adviser who is responsible for helping students navigate conflict and deal with campus security/police.
It doesn’t matter if some people don’t care about being naked around others; you do.
NTA. The pervert needs to be reported
You would not be overreacting to report him. If you were a woman, everyone would be screaming that you need to report the creep for sexual harassment. This is no different.
Either to the university or to the police, or both. If you’re in the UK I’d suggest calling the non-emergency police number (101) to talk to someone about the correct steps.
Well you always return the favor and dump some ice water in the shower and say now we are even
Wait until they’re all sitting around and pull it out and put it on his nose, ask him if he can see it now../s
NTA, but your friend is def gay lol