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So I and my partner gave our room mate 2.5 month notice that we will be moving out. I figured as thats enough time as they plan on staying where we are and will look into a roommate.
However, when we told them thier reaction was what we expected and they were upset. We told them ASAP as I am pregnant and will be living with my parents for medical support as I am also high-risk. And we told them as soon as we heard the offer to move in with family.
We are nearing the two month mark now and our roommate has only put out a couple posts, and has asked around. They complained quite openly about how we didn’t give them enough time. (But they can go and get 3 tattoos done, and a piercing.) They and I have had 3 discussions in the passed year that my partner and I woulf be moving at this time regardless of the situation. I have offered to share thier posts to my friends but they said they rather I dont. But still makes complaints that they are going to be homeless and again; not enough time.
Should I have given them more time? As a side note: We were never on the lease.
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30 days is standard. NTA
NTA I’ve only ever had to give 30days notice. This is a them issue not a you issue. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy!
Nta
Two and a half months’ notice is plenty, especially since you weren’t on the lease and had previous discussions. Your roommate’s procrastination is not your responsibility
You’re fine. I hope you have a safe and amazing result to your pregnancy. That’s what matters most. Enjoy being with family and building your family.
30 days is the norm. 2 and a half months is downright generous. NTA
Nta. 2.5 months is more than enough time. Him not finding a roommate is not your problem or fault. & they apparently don’t want help finding one so from now on I’d just ignore them.
U did nothing wrong. Hope your Roomate has a comfortable car.
NTA, 2.5 months is a fair notice period even for someone not pregnant… they’re just making excuses because they procrastinated and can’t find a replacement fast enough. The real question is: what’s eating at them so bad that they’re lashing out over an extended housing market search?
No lease means it isn’t your problem when the time you set is up. Tell them that, the future of the home is now on their shoulders, either they choose to get another roommate or they don’t, it isn’t your problem. You gave way more notice than even the law requires.
NTAH. You give them way more than enough notice. They’re just the type of person who likes having an excuse for when they make stupid decisions or fail at something.
They had more than enough time, their lack of planning and urgency is on them
You told them well in advance , you gave them 2.5 months notice, don’t concern yourself that they are taking it bad , some people are just never happy.
NTA. Most renters give 30 or 45 days notice.
NTA
30 days is standard. My last apartment, the management company required 60 days. You gave even more than that.
Don’t worry about it.
Roommate just wants to complain because that is easy.
Not your problem. You gave them more than adequate notice. They’re a grown ass adult, it’s time for them to put in their big boy/girl pants and figure their shit out
Don’t feel an ounce of guilt. It’s not your problem they can’t be arsed to put in the proper effort
Just make sure to take photos/video of EVERY room before you leave. You don’t want them to claim you damage/stole X Y Z out of spite
2 1/2 months is plenty of time for them to have sorted out their living situation. Their procrastination isn’t your issue to solve. And their financial irresponsibility also isn’t your problem to solve. Who spends $$$ on three tattoos when they know they are going to possibly have to cover the full rent if they don’t get another roommate? That’s just flat-out stupid. Moreover, you’ve been telling them for a while that you’d be moving around this time. They just chose not to believe you.
Good wishes for your pregnancy.
NTA – you’ve given more than enough notice.
There’s a saying, you make your bed, you lie in it.
If this person ends up homeless, it’s completely on them.
Don’t give them or their situation another thought.
You are growing a human and at higher risk than usual. Stay with your family. Focus on your health. Plan for after your baby is born. All of the things. But none of the roommate’s things.
NTA and not your problem. Go home and take care of yourself and your pregnancy.
You were very generous with your notice and owe the roommate nothing. Congrats on the pregnancy. Hope your journey through this exciting time is relaxed and full of happiness. NTA
NTA………..they had plenty of time
Check the laws in your area. It may be your responsibility to find a replacement. Also check your lease to see if you can sublet
NTA You gave them plenty of time to figure it out, are not breaking a lease, and have a completely valid reason for moving house. Their inability to cope with the situation isn’t your problem.
Nope, just move and that’s that.
NTA.. it’s their problem, not yours. You gave them plenty of time, ur they’ll blame you anyway…
INFO: how much time is remaining on the lease? Is it month to month, or do they have 10 months they’re stuck with now? Also, is this in a HCOL area?
A former roommate said I couldn’t give notice on the 15th.
They’ve had plenty of time and honestly, it’s not your problem iIt’s the roommates. Two and a half months is actually a very generous time to find a new roommate. Most people are required to give 30 days only. You have to stop even thinking about it because it’s not your responsibility to make sure your lazy room mate finds someone to take over your portion of the rent. Not your circus not your monkeys.
NTA. If you’re giving her approximately 75 days notice. That’s plenty of time a lot of places it’s 30 days so you gave them more than enough. They sit on their butt that’s their problem dude the fact that you’re not on the lease you can do whatever you want
You gave plenty of notice. If they want to mess around and not find a new room mate till the very last second, it’s on them. Worry about your health and your baby
The use of pronouns here made this confusing
NTA. Not your problem they can’t adult.
2 and a half months is fine. I was worried about not giving my last roommates time when I decided 1.5 months out, but they were totally fine with looking for a replacement themselves. They eventually decided just to buy out my room and keep it just the two of them and they were really flexible with me getting all my stuff moved. 2.5 months is plenty of time to find someone, people are looking for places all the time, and it’s plenty of time for the new person to be confirmed by the landlord. NTA
I hope if you all are on the lease you’ve made arrangements with landlord to be removed. It’s not your responsibility to subsidize roommate.
30 days is standard notice. You gave them far more than that.
You gave them more than enough time.
NTA
roommate is allowed to be disappointed that you’re leaving, but not allowed to blame you for their choices. As friends, you told them right away AND offered to help advertise. Whatever happens next has nothing to do with you.
You gave your roommate more than enough time to find your replacement; it was their choice that they failed to use that time wisely. You simply move out on the day you communicated and let them deal with it or not. Snide remarks about ‘being homeless’ and ‘needing more time’ are not your problem. You did your part and they didn’t do theirs so it is all on them. It sounds to me like roommate is a oh woe is me kinda person who doesn’t want to step up and take care of business. That is not your problem. Congrats on pregnancy and new digs…
I really hope that people start being upfront about who they are and what they got going on . When I was going through a similar situation I felt like my family was not really there or were disconnected from me somehow . Do you not have family?
Are you breaking a lease?
NTA. Maybe they can find someone who’ll hold their hand and gently walk them through every adult responsibility in their life, but it’s not going to be you.
Most people only give one month notice without a lease two months was generous.
Wishing you a healthy pregnancy!
NTA; anything beyond 30 days is a gift. Your housemate is a jerk.