hello I’m 13f, I have 5 brothers and am the youngest, 2 of them have moved out and the other 3 are 15, 17 and 19
My house has 3 bedrooms, when I was little the orientation was: the oldest and the youngest (not me) shared, then the other 3 in one room, then I would share with my parents. Now it’s: 19 has his own room, 15 and 17 share and I still share with my parents. What you need to know is that with my parents I do not have any room for my stuff, all my stuff either I keep it around the living room or I have to put it in my brothers rooms. While the rest of them have enough room for beds, all their stuff and desks. But I have never complained about anything with the space.
The oldest one living at home rn is about to move out and he has started to pack up his stuff. Now my parents are trying to decide who will get the room. My 17 yr old brother will get his own since he is the oldest and the main problem is do I share with my other brother or do I continue to stay with my parents.
I said that I wouldnt mind sharing with my other brother, I know theres some discussion on whether teenage sisters and brothers should still share a room but I understand that there is srsly not much space so I would be fine with sharing. My other brother however has been complaining a lot and being rude about it all the time even though even if I moved my stuff in he would still have so much space left since my bed is smaller and I don’t even have a desk.
My parents got fed up with his complaining and basically said maybe I should continue to stay with them and he can move to a new room since he has more stuff and needs more space or whatever because he does boxing and he apparently needs a lot of space for that. I was so annoyed bcz I’ve basically been stuck w my parents for my whole life with literally no space of my own and now when it’s the best opportunity I can’t do it just because he’s throwing a tantrum about it.
Basically I was just really angry so I kept saying why does he get his own room as well, so I changed my decision and said then I should be getting my own room too, why does it have to be him who gets the room. And I really kept saying it so now I’m too deep into my insistence so I’m saying that that’s the only thing I want and I don’t even want to share with him anymore.
My parents are saying I’m being difficult. I think that I should get at least my own area to put my things instead of haphazardly arnd the house. It’s so bad that even my older brother is getting tired of it and said I should share with him or take his room so I’ll stop talking about it. So that’s why I’m insisting on my own room. Aitah?
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hello I’m 13f, I have 5 brothers and am the youngest, 2 of them have moved out and the other 3 are 15, 17 and 19
My house has 3 bedrooms, when I was little the orientation was: the oldest and the youngest (not me) shared, then the other 3 in one room, then I would share with my parents. Now it’s: 19 has his own room, 15 and 17 share and I still share with my parents. What you need to know is that with my parents I do not have any room for my stuff, all my stuff either I keep it around the living room or I have to put it in my brothers rooms. While the rest of them have enough room for beds, all their stuff and desks. But I have never complained about anything with the space.
The oldest one living at home rn is about to move out and he has started to pack up his stuff. Now my parents are trying to decide who will get the room. My 17 yr old brother will get his own since he is the oldest and the main problem is do I share with my other brother or do I continue to stay with my parents.
I said that I wouldnt mind sharing with my other brother, I know theres some discussion on whether teenage sisters and brothers should still share a room but I understand that there is srsly not much space so I would be fine with sharing. My other brother however has been complaining a lot and being rude about it all the time even though even if I moved my stuff in he would still have so much space left since my bed is smaller and I don’t even have a desk.
My parents got fed up with his complaining and basically said maybe I should continue to stay with them and he can move to a new room since he has more stuff and needs more space or whatever because he does boxing and he apparently needs a lot of space for that. I was so annoyed bcz I’ve basically been stuck w my parents for my whole life with literally no space of my own and now when it’s the best opportunity I can’t do it just because he’s throwing a tantrum about it.
Basically I was just really angry so I kept saying why does he get his own room as well, so I changed my decision and said then I should be getting my own room too, why does it have to be him who gets the room. And I really kept saying it so now I’m too deep into my insistence so I’m saying that that’s the only thing I want and I don’t even want to share with him anymore.
My parents are saying I’m being difficult. I think that I should get at least my own area to put my things instead of haphazardly arnd the house. It’s so bad that even my older brother is getting tired of it and said I should share with him or take his room so I’ll stop talking about it. So that’s why I’m insisting on my own room. Aitah?
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Nta
You are too old to share a room with boys, this includes your father.
I’m petty and am going to suggest something extreme since reason seems to be failing them.
I suggest start sleeping naked. Maybe stay naked in your parents room as much as you can, it should make them uncomfortable enough to give you a room
ESH: With that many people in one house, NO ONE should even be asking for a room by themselves.
YTA – You being female is only a small portion of this problem. Your family is obviously struggling with people vs space. The setup of the eldest getting their own room was a decision that was come to when you were too young to need your own room. While I do feel bad that you have never had own space thus far, you were originally ok with sharing with a brother, (that shows that privacy as a female does not seem to be a consideration for you, tho I figure the older boys would want some privacy from you as males) now you are spiraling so insanely, you want your own room no matter that there simply is not room for it, and the other brother who complained is no better than you. Share with the brother, whether he likes it or not, boxing does not equal the same importance as a sister
NTA. You’re 13 and still sharing with your parents while your brothers all get space of their own. It’s not “difficult” to want a basic amount of privacy and room for your stuff
NTA. As a teenager, you deserve your own space. It’s completely unfair that your parents are prioritizing your brothers over you.
NTA and as a girl you should have your own room (0r a shared room with girls). The boys can share. There is only 2 of them. You are older and you should have a bedroom with your own things. At 13 you should have some privacy and not be in a room with your parents when there is a room you can have. You are too old to be sharing with a boy when there is no need to. It looks like your parents would want privacy after all this time too!
NTA for wanting to be treated equally and fairly, and listened to.
NTA. I don’t even understand why your family has to think about this. You are a teenaged girl and you have never had your own bedroom. 19 moves out, so the girl without a room gets that room.
NTA. Your parents are stupid assholes for never learning about this “contraception” thing , they’re fucking assholes for instead keeping at it until they got a baby girl when obviously they didn’t actually want a princess to pamper, and they’re I can’t even assholes for not figuring out that maybe, just maybe, a 13 yo girl who’s been stuck with 5 older brothers probably should finally get some private space before all she wants is to see the world burn.
NTA, Your parents are the AHs.
Girl gets the room after 19 moves out. The two boys can continue sharing. You have had to put up with this untenable situation by having no place that’s yours for your entire life. You need privacy and this is the perfect time for them to give you that.
NTA
Your parents are assholes for having more children than they can house. Sharing a bedroom with your parents is frankly insane.
So now that the current oldest living in the house (M19) is moving out, there are three bedrooms for two parents and three children – M17, M15 and you, F13. The previous arrangement had everyone sharing, and the tradition is that the oldest gets his own room and everyone else shares.
Well, I grew up with the rule that oldest gets a room of their own, and as the oldest, I really liked it (although I lost that room to the next oldest the day I left home). Even though you say you don’t mind sharing with a brother, I really think that the most appropriate arrangement is for the three rooms to be divided – Parents, M17 and M15, and F13.
Maybe some compromise could be worked out – if the two rooms allocated to children are of different sizes, the two who are sharing get the bigger one and you the smaller one.
NTA for wanting your turn to have a private room.
NTA for wanting whatever.
I do not thing siblings of different gender cannot share a room (I am not from the USA, surprise), so the solution where the oldest kids gets their own room and you guys share would have been fine with me. Your parents made the mistake when they caved in to whining about it.
NTA but it’s also not your house. You can “insist” all you want to but at the end of the day it’s not your call. IMO, you’re right, at your age and the only girl the obvious choice is to give you the room- however, it’s not your decision.
NTA You’ve been living in your parents’ room a long time, and you deserve some privacy.
It is ridiculous to have you share with parents while each of the boys get their own room.
“Accidentally” let it slip to a teacher that you still have to sleep in your parents bedroom and have no privacy. If you ever hear your parents having sex, mention that as well.
I guarantee your parents will get a visit from CPS and your issue may fix itself before they leave.
You’re NTA and neither are your siblings, but your parents DEFINITELY are.