A friend of mine (22 M) has been down of his luck recently and wanted a fresh start in a different state. He reached out to me (30 M) to crash on my couch for a bit until he gets his life together. I agreed and have been buying him groceries and putting gas in his car until he finds his footing. I only had ONE rule: he cant bring any girls over to stay the night. Its been 3 weeks and he has done it twice now.. The first time he said he was drunk and it was an accident. This second time he just blatantly said “I’m sorry I need to get one out.” I told him its fine she can stay the night but he has to leave with her in the morning. It wasn’t me being jealous, its just a matter of respect.
AITAH for kicking my “down on his luck” friend out of my apartment for disobeying my one rule
r/AITAH
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Nta – Regardless of what the reason is, it’s a basic rule. You allowed it the first time, he did it again. Blatant disrespect. If he was that desperate, they could have gone back to hers.
NTA. If someone is living under your roof for free, the bare minimum is respecting your one rule. He showed you twice that he values his hookups more than your hospitality.
NTA – I think you know how he got to be “down on his luck”.
NTA. You set a clear rule and he kept breaking it. Respecting your space is totally fair.
Your home means your rules and boundaries. You were doing a good deed for this man and he decided to disrespect you and your home twice, the fact he managed to achieved this in only three weeks might be a good indicator as to why he’s “down on his luck”; what happens when he gets drunk or has the urge for a third time?
NTA
NTA. You made only one rule since you were doing him the favor of letting him sleep at your house, he made the excuse that he was drunk, but he wouldn’t even be that drunk if he could find and take another person to a house where he was living temporarily, so he was conscious. I think that if I were drunk and had to go to a new house where I had only recently lived, I would hardly even remember where it was.
You were right to kick him out but let him sleep one last night. He seems like an irresponsible kid, a friend did him a favor and he couldn’t even respect it, so he should get his life.
NTA Kickhim out!
Nta, alcohol shouldn’t be an excuse yet many of us did stupid things when young. Then he willingly ignored your agreement. Apparently he isn’t down in his luck, he is making stupid decisions.