I am 25F and now former roommate is 22F. She lived with me for 6 months. I knew she had a boyfriend but what I didn’t realize she was swinging with other men. Her relationship life is none of my business or concern, but what happend brings me utter disgust.
A few nights ago, I came home from work like usual. I walked into the house, and I hear noises coming from the living room. Moaning and slapping to be exact. I rush into the living room and there is my roommate, her boyfriend and two other men doing it.
I tell my roommate that I will call the police if she doesn’t stop right that second. Three of the men got dressed and left. I told her to go with her boyfriend because I don’t want to see her in the house I pay for. She doesn’t even pay rent. I just let her stay for free. I found body fluids on my couch and an empty man wrapper after this.
The next day I sent her a text saying she has to pack her bags and go in a week and if she doesn’t comply, she have the cops deal with it. Now she keeps telling me I went too far with this but I personally think the punishment fits. It was disgusting what she did and maybe could of habe a heads up before hand.
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Nta. You didn’t invite someone into your house to use it as a brothel. Not cumming on the sofa you don’t own is an implied rule.
NTA. Complete disrespect
Nta
NTA. It’s unsafe. You don’t know who these people are she’s bringing into your house for random sex. Hopefully she leaves and you don’t have to evict her. I’d make her take the couch as well.
Fake..
Once the living room smells like Staten Island it’s almost impossible to get it back to normal. kick her out, burn the place down, and find a nice homely roommate. One of those asexuals maybe.
The problem is not her having a foursome; the problem is that she did it in the living room instead of her bedroom. Or she could have done it at someone else’s house, where they don’t have a roommate who could walk in at any moment.
And this may not be the first time she’s gotten up to hijinks in your living room.
NTA
YTA because I didn’t like this creative writing exercise
NTA and may I also suggest burning that couch?
From context.
Not an asshole but I think overreacted.
Maybe I don’t see the issue fully but everyone is an adult? She pays rent. Sure she should’ve been in the bedroom but .. like .. she pays her share and you kicked her out for using her share?
wtfff 😭 why do u guys make things up on here what is the point brother
Seems fine. This seems like an abuse of the guest privilege.
NTA if this is real. But you are lucky she agreed to move out. I don’t know what you think the cops are going to do about a legal tenant doing nothing illegal in her own home.
Nta…and instead of taking accountability for that and apologizing for doing that in the living room she doesn’t even pay to be in, AND saying u went too far?!? Talk about pure entitlement, total disregard for your home and peace, and lack of normal human decency. Yuck
NTA. Kick her out and the friendship. Not even kidding. This is an epic level of disrespect to you and your space.
Make sure she leaves the house and do a deep clean. That’s disgusting and disrespectful 🤢.
Info, did you have rules about hook ups in shared spaces? I have been in houses with and without them so I thought I’d check.
>I tell my roommate that I will call the police if she doesn’t stop right that second.
Called the police for what? Lmao I would love to hear that call. “My roommate is having sex in our home. Please come arrest her”
You’re not wrong for being annoyed but your response here is odd to say the least
Fake, but the supposed reaction from OP has more red flags than their roommates gangbang. YTA.
Not the asshole at all how could you be lmao I would also kick her out most normal sane people would.
That’s so disrespectful. She literally got jizz on your furniture and is trying to gaslight you that you’re overreacting. Fuck no. She should pay for a professional cleaner to hazmat and scrub that shit out
I don’t care how many girls my roommate got with but not on shared furniture.
And I don’t care if the girls you bring home are hot or clean and cook for us, but I didnt like barely having space to sit on the couch without them practically being on top of me and I don’t like getting hit on in my own apartment.
But calling police? For what? Too much sexy time in her house?
NTA.
NTA that was absolutely disrespectful. Nothing wrong with being poly but having sex in a communal space is a no no. Considering the fact that she doesn’t ever pay rent?! Nah. Make her buy you a new couch and for a deep clean.
WTF? Total disrespect, for you and your property. We’re they waiting in line or all on her at once? She’s fucked up. But the bf is really fucked up.
That’s so fucking nasty. Tell her to pay up for a professional cleaner to come and clean the couch
NTA- 3 guys and they couldn’t get the money together for a hotel??
This generation freeloaders! Always taking it too far ! Neither one of those losers had a place of their own to have fun at so they chose the person that don’t pay any bills place wow
Eewwww. I wouldn’t tolerate this behavior in my home either. She definitely has to go.
NTA – This is disgusting.
That’s literally disgusting, send her stuff asap
NTA
4 people on my couch would have ended up with cops on my side.
This must be a fake story. Former roommate was having fun times with her boyfriend and two other men (4 people in total), but when confronted, three of “the men” (none of them being the boyfriend I’m assuming) got dressed and left, and she was told to go with her boyfriend (so that makes 5 people).
Yes you’re the AH was going to call the cops if she didn’t stop having a sexual act…
lol @ empty man wrapper 😂
> An empty man wrapper
LOL
NTA
The issue isn’t that she swings, it’s that she was doing it in a public setting where you’re still finding remains from it.
She’s disgusting and you did nothing wrong
Well I mean she was kind of doing it in the living room making it a public matter so NTA. I bet she wouldn’t do that if she lived at Mom and Dad’s house. Same rules apply You don’t do that in someone else’s house.
Especially if she has her own bedroom at the house then there is absolutely no need to use a living room and if she didn’t have a bedroom then I’m pretty sure one of those three guys had a place they could have gone.
And regardless of all of that there’s also the instance where sex is viewed and thought of very differently between people. Wear some people might find that sexy and a kink, want to stand and watch others would be repulsed by it or just flat out don’t want it around.
NTA that’s nasty and I don’t understand why she would do that in a common space like the living room. I’d steam clean the shit (and cum and piss and whatever else) out of that couch.
I think anyone that says “but it wasnt discussed! How would they know!” Is arguing in the worst faith imaginable and should be run around until they tire themselves out.
People who abuse the rules for personal gain are not good people.
So she can’t be bothered to pay rent, but has all the time in the world to be screwing on your couch? I would have kicked her out right then. Then I would sue her ass for the cost to replace or clean that couch. NTA
No, you are not the a*shole. She went too far especially if you were giving her a free ride (no pun intended). At the very least she should have done this in her room with the door closed, not in the public space of the apartment. Everyone is entitled to their own fetishes but not at the expense of someone else.
Nta, that is nasty af! Tell her to take the contaminated sofa with her and she owes you a new one. If she doesn’t get you a new sofa tell her you are taking her to court. I doubt she will want the embarrassment from why she owes you a new sofa. Also get a black light and check your bedroom as well. Someone like that has no boundaries. I wouldn’t even let her back in your house. Pack her shit and put it on the porch for her to pick up.
She is just a horny and wanna more men to satisfy her
Definitely the AH for not joining in. Call the police? You’re a goof too.
Uhh, eww. NTA.
NTA but you do understand that, depending on how long she’s been staying with you, she might have established residency and thus have tenant’s rights, don’t you?
“I’ll call the cops.”
For what?
Having sex in the home you live in is *not* a crime, even if the circumstances bother you.
If you were to call the cops, they wouldn’t do anything and would likely inform you that she cannot be involuntarily removed without going through eviction proceedings.
Now your roommate may not know that, and if she leaves voluntarily you’re in the clear afaik, but if she decides to fight this, “I saw her having sex with three guys and it upset me,” will not go far in court.
Except…legally… you can’t kick someone out of their home without notice. If they don’t have a rental agreement, a month to month lease is assumed in court.
I never understand why would you let someone stay for free?
Oh you don’t like jizz on the couch?!! Had i have known i would’ve put down newspaper. And really its kind of on you that you never told me the rules. But I forgive you!
I agree that police probably won’t help but sometimes the threat works
Fake as hell, really poor grammar.
The nerve of your house guest to not invite you to a fivesome. NTA
Nta. She went too far by getting a train ran on her in a place that belongs to someone else. If you didn’t come home when you did, you could have been lying down on that couch and not realize what happened on it. Disgusting behavior, I would have called the police immediately.
Who the FUCK has a foursome in someone’s living room that they don’t own or even pay rent to. Literally delusional
NTA. Your former roommate is a pig … no respect for your home or your belongings!
Call the cops and report what??????
“”My roommate is having more sexual fun than I am………. Arrest them”””
It’s consensual sex it breaks no laws, there are no rules or laws on how many cocks she can enjoy at the same time.
Please call the cops but record it and post it on here so we can have a good laugh at what they say
You’re very close to being an arsehole
Hilarious…..
seems like you missed an opportunity. What would the cops do? send her to hell?
Inviting strangers home is a recipe for disaster.
NTA for not wanting to live with someone who has orgies on your furniture, but you would be very silly for calling the police because you found your roommate having consensual sex in your apartment. If you called the emergency line, they’d be irritated at the waste of police resources.
You can certainly ask her to leave, but depending on your jurisdiction, she may have some rights, even though she doesn’t pay any rent. Talk to a lawyer or legal aid society in your jurisdiction if she refuses to move out. You may have to follow an eviction process. In many places, the police will not get involved unless you have an eviction order.
INFO: you don’t identify her as a friend or family member, just that she’s a roommate you invited to stay with you for free. Did you just pick up a random stray, or what happened there?
Whatever someone wants to do behind closed doors is fine, whatever floats your boat, just keep it in your own pond.
But in the middle of the living room and fluids on Your furniture, hell no. NTA
NTA
NTA. She was a house guest, not a tenant. She did not have any rights at all to your home at all. She was invited on whatever terms you set. She has no rights to come back after you told her to get out.
I have never had a house guest invite other people into my house without asking me first. No house guest has left me with a steam-cleaning bill to pay, either. She was a terrible guest, don’t invite her back.
Absolutely nts. You let her stay for free and she ends up having a gang bang in the living room.
Idk why this is even a post in the first place
TLDR NTA
NTA, I’m a sex positive person, but everything else aside she was disrespecting a common area. I assume she had a bedroom with a bed and a door, she could have had sex with whomever she wanted to in there, but she chose to do it in the open, on your couch, and didn’t even have the decency to lay down a blanket or something to prevent a mess.
This would be an ex- friend for me, the situation is bad enough, but to disrespect you in that way while living with you for free is unforgivable.
Fake shitpost fckn pervert
YTA
YTA you prevent your free-loading roommate to get loads.
Are you GENUINELY inquiring about whether or not you’re TA? Your roommate had an orgy in your living room and fucked all over your furniture.
Burn the furniture and ensure that this person never makes their way back into your life. Holy hell.
She doesn’t deserve a week. You’ve been more than generous to her. Get all of her things and put them out of your home. Tell her where they are and to come and pick them up. She put you in danger.
If she’s been there a couple weeks you can’t just kick her out in most states. Even in fake stories
It’s a love seat! Not a love seat!
Nta.
Who needs Penthouse letters when Reddit is much better?
She might be being trafficked… if her boyfriend is renting her out for that experience
>Three of the men got dressed and left. I told her to go with her boyfriend.
Your fanfiction needs a little bit of work. There were only three men.
NTA, she’s not really a roommate though, more of house guest so you should have no problem having her leave. The idea that she’d do this or think it’s okay is just gross. I hope your not attached to your couch because other than a deep cleaning (that she should pay for) you should replace it. You’ll never look at it the same again. I hope everything works out for you!!
An empty man wrapper 😂
NTA. That is nasty. And yes I’m judging cause 4 men at once? wtf
I think you are focusing on the s**t shame part a bit too much. You would be an asshole for kicking your friend out for being a swinger or having a foursome. Don’t yuk someone’s yum and all that.
However the stuff that is reasonable to kick her out for is cumming all over your couch and not giving you a heads up that she was banging in communal space.
Focus on that part and not being disgusted with her and I’d say NTA
Edit to add:
What would you even say to the police? “There is an orgy happening!! Ew!”
YTA , conditionally if you wouldn’t have kicked her out for having sex with just her boyfriend in the same place.
You’re judging her sexual choices by puritanical Christian standards.
Man wrapper…lol
NTA. That’s fucked up. Especially the fluids on the couch. Ew.
Bedroom is ok. Living room is out of bounds. NTA
If she wasn’t even paying went, you are not the ah.
NTA Get her out of there. Who knows if these men have gone through your things, if they have stolen, etc.
Kick her out.
What was it. ? Fleet week ! You allowed her and occasionally her boyfriend to stay for free, which means you were paying for a roof, groceries, utilities and possibly personal products . You have gone above and beyond and yes, she needs to go far, far away. She has exposed your home to possible home invasions, strangers knowing were you live , and the possibility this not being the first time for a group gathering. Hire someone to do a deep, deep cleaning of your home and she should have only 48 to move. Change your locks, block her on the phone and social media. Only one question…You never noticed anything before this. ?
NTA. It’s doing it in the living room that really bothers me about this, not that she was having a train run on her. If she were a paying roommate I’d probably just tell her to thoroughly clean the furniture and not to do it again, but it’s pretty disrespectful considering you’re letting her stay there for free. I wouldn’t threaten calling the cops though. I don’t think the cops would give a shit. I don’t think having a foursome in a place you’ve been given permission to be is illegal. It just reminds me of an asshole neighbor I used to have who would threaten to call the cops over all sorts of crap that wasn’t illegal, like parking in front of their house.
This woman apparently doesn’t even know life and coexistence with other people
Change the locks.
I have never heard anyone refer to a condom as “man wrapper” lmao
Also you’re nta
NTA get her out of there!
NTA but good luck kicking her out in a week. If she’s been living there and getting mail there, you’ll have to go through the eviction process.
NTA. But um, is your friend single? Asking for a friend.
NTA, and I’d send her a bill for cleaning the couch…or a brand new couch.
Not paying rent would piss me off. The rest is normal stuff.
NTA
Not even close!!!
Disgusting…I can’t even think…YUCK!!
You can’t throw a couch or carpet in the washer.
I would be so creeper out, I’d have to call in professional cleaners to clean my living room!!
AWWW HELL NO!
Kick her out of your home.
She can live as she likes, but not in shared living space. If she wants to host orgies, she can get a motel room. NTA.
That’s a gangbang..
Couch? Was one of the men named J.D.?
NTA.
She could have given you a heads up, at least. Or done it in her room. Plus, she didn’t even give you a chance to prepare in case you wanted in. Very rude.
The problem here isn’t the unwanted behavior, it’s the complete absence of respect. It’s the audacity. And I just feel like you’re being way too nice. Toss her stuff on the front steps and tell her to come get it before the trash guys take it. Be done. This girl has just showed you why she needed a place to stay. Life has enough problems of its own, no need to borrow from others
if she was not paying rent … she wasnt your roomate but a guest. To let her stay rent free means that she was at least an acquaintance and at best a friend and certain boundaries were crossed because perhaps she thought your preexisting relationship could accommodate her transgression. if she lived there for 6 months then she would know the time you typically come home from work, yet there she was doing it in a common area… And while fully justified to kick her out, perhaps she – or together wt her bf – wanted you to see this. The question is why.
NTA. Seems like she’ll have plenty of options on where to land. Lol. Sorry you had to see that OP.
Not even close. If she’s staying for free. She respects your boundaries, not the other way around. And I think that kicking her out is the most sensible solution. They could’ve gotten a hotel room. Or anyone else’s house. No, they chose yours. That shows she doesn’t care about you in the slightest. Why would you continue to help such a person? You made the right call. Move on.
I think that people are not seeing what’s most unrealistic – that three dudes wanted to have group sex together, but only with one woman.
Have you met straight guys? They’re WAY too insecure for a situation like that.
I’d be having her pay to get your couch professionally cleaned!
A spunk stain never hurt anyone (I did not have sexual relations with that woman aside)
Damp cloth and a scrub sorts it out
Chuck her out and move on with your life
No.
She doesn’t even pay rent?? 😭 Kick her ass to the curb, block her, and get therapy for what you’ve witnessed.
Just curious. On what charge would the police hold her on? She does not appear to have committed a crime.
NTA
She didnt respect you enough to respect your home and property so its only right that you kick her the fuck out.
Calling this BS!
You cannot just kick your roommate out.
The police will do nothing about consenting adults having sex.
nonsense
This is wild and disgusting to say the least!
NTA OP
NTA. If she wants to have a foursome… more power to her. It’s nobody’s business. But to do it in MY living room on MY couch. Oh hell no!! She needs to GTFO. You are 100% in the right
Empty man wrapper, this sounds fake af