My mom died recently & my dad hasn’t been able to find one of her gold/diamond necklaces- he’s come to the conclusion that their neighbor stole it. In reality my mom gave it to me 6+ months before she died to sell and pay some of our bills and said not to tell my dad. I tried to not accept the necklace, but she said since I was selling my own jewelry to pay bills she wanted to help how she could and wouldn’t take no for an answer.
The neighbor that my dad thinks stole it has been known to have stolen other things from my mom in the past – my birthstone necklace, a special necklace she got on a trip, tylenol bottles, etc. My mom (and I) despised this woman 😂 Then the day my mom died the neighbor was up at their house trying to force my dad to eat, inviting another friend of theirs up there to eat, trying to claim all my mom’s books, etc. My dad kicked her out telling her that my mom didn’t want her to have a damn thing of hers.
Today my dad was telling me how this necklace was the only jewelry of my mom’s he couldn’t find and he bet that the neighbor had it. Basically said oh well, can’t do anything about it now. I couldn’t bring myself to correct him and didn’t even know if I should or how to if I did.
WIBTAH/AITAH for Letting my dad think that this highly despised neighbor, who has previously stolen from my mom, has at some point also stolen this diamond necklace my mom gave me to sell before she died?
ETA: I just talked to my dad and told him that she gave it to me in the fall to sell – he said, oh yea that’s the one I was looking for. Asked how much I got for it and said, ok, sounds good. 🥺 can’t believe I was even nervous to tell him because I was scared of his reaction.
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NTA She did steal from your mom before, so it’s not even a wild accusation it’s just her brand at this point. If your dad finds peace thinking the neighborhood klepto swiped it, let him have that peace. You’re honoring your mom’s actual wishes. Better than letting that vulture get her hands on anything.
YTA😠Yall not liking her doesn’t mean she deserves false accusations on her name and theft isn’t a light one esp jewelry. Even if she’s done it before. You’re being dishonest now. Tell your dad, he’ll keep looking for it and may escalate to him actually asking your neighbor.
It seems like this lack of honesty is making you feel bad. I think that you might feel better if you find a way to tell your dad.
YTA
Sounds like everything turned out OK that’s great
Send dad a letter telling him what really happened and why,
I’m glad you told him OP.
I’m sorry for your loss.