AITAH for not apologizing over a matching tattoo?

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Hey so I got a tattoo in 2024 of a manga character that my parents and I as well as my boyfriend talk about/I’m really interested in. In regard to the specific manga it’s a pretty generic tattoo to get. The issue is, my friend whom I grew up with also has the tattoo, in the same spot. They sent me a lengthy message an hour ago seeming pretty upset about it, and they’re entitled to their own opinions/feelings but idk I dont feel I should apologize for copying them when they weren’t a thought that crossed my mind when I chose it. They sent me a post from 4 years ago where they posted it, but if I’m being honest I comment on a lot of peoples posts but don’t necessarily remember what it is. If i’m wrong I’m accepting that. I truthfully didn’t go to my tattoo artist and pull up their instagram and ask for that, plus I’d let them know that I placed it there due to having a plan for the surrounding area. AITAH for not apologizing?

Also how would you guys respond to a message like that lol

Comments

  1. LottieBellas Avatar

    NTA. The tattoo is pretty common, and you clearly didn’t intend to copy her. Just explain it was for your own meaning and not about her.

  2. NegativeExit6314 Avatar

    NTA. If you genuinely didn’t copy her and got the tattoo for your own personal reasons, then I don’t see why an apology is necessary. Many people in this world will have matching tattoos coincidentally. It’s not that big a deal, especially since you didn’t remember she had the same one.

  3. BigConfidence1563 Avatar

    NTA
    Will you friend try to police every single person with same tattoo?

  4. sparkleslovee Avatar

    Generic manga tattoos aren’t like some super unique thing, especially if it’s a character a lot of people like. It’s not like you copied their handwriting or something personal. If you didn’t even remember they had it, and just wanted it for yourself, I don’t really see what you should apologize for.

  5. kvetchup Avatar

    NTA. This literally sounds like the equivalent of getting the Joestar birthmark as a tattoo and then getting mad other people did too.

  6. Fancy-Ad-5669 Avatar

    If they’re mad now, wait until they realize hundreds of other people probably have the exact same tattoo in the exact same place. it’s just a popular design.

  7. cantescape-throwaway Avatar

    I don’t think you need to apologize if you didn’t copy them on purpose

  8. MaryEFriendly Avatar

    Hate to break it to your friend, but chances are there are a lot of people with that same tattoo. Unless she’s paying for a unique design, she’s using someone flash. She needs to get over it.