At my dad’s place I share a bedroom with both of my stepsisters. One is 15 like me. The other is 11. We have the room sort of divided in thirds, but the younger one gets her stuff everywhere anyway. The older one wants more room because its crowded and wants me to take most of my stuff to my mom’s house because there is more room there and I’m there more. I don’t want to because it means I would have to somehow carry this stuff with me when I come to stay with my dad. Most of the stuff she wants gone is athletic stuff that I only use when with my dad. Also it would be hard to carry this stuff with me on the bus. Also I don’t always know ahead of time what me and my dad want to go and do because we just like to make plans up as we go and this would ruin that. All of this stuff btw does not take up more than my fair share of the room.
AITAH for not carrying my stuff back and forth so my stepsisters can have more room in the room that is supposed to be all of ours?
r/AITAH
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She is trying to claim the room. Hoping to establish dominance when you move that stuff by saying: well you arr are hardly here and have very little to nothing here so just stay away any ways.
Keep your stuff where they are. Pack them in boxes and make sure you dad established boundary lines in the room so your stuff always stays on your side.
Remember if she loses this battle she will mess with your stuff. Just how it goes. NTA. But do not cave.
NAH.
You need to talk to your Dad. The time has come that you and your oldest stepsister are getting old enough that this is going to be an increasingly tough situation. I’m assuming they simply can’t afford a larger place, so since they didn’t wait until one of you were out of the home, which is still a long time including higher ed/trade school, getting your first full-time job and actually being able to save up enough money for your own place, this is going to take real work.
UGH I would just do day visits. That’s too many people in one space. I don’t even share a bedroom with my partner!
Bring your dad and his wife into the equation.
You want to feel at home not visiting.
You want to be able to share your interests and time with your dad.
You want to be able to utilise your 1/3 of the room…
NTA. Your dad needs to invest in some space organizers, maybe under the bed storage. Or maybe there’s some closet space elsewhere in the house that can be used. You shouldn’t have to log things back and forth on a bus. Please let your parents know what’s happening
NAH. It’s crappy for her and for you. Is there someway to compromise? Have you asked your dad for help to store stuff in a way to make the room less cluttered?
NAH. I get her frustration, but that’s too much for you to carry back and forth. She’s making you the problem when the problem is actually her Mom and your Dad deciding to get married when they can’t afford housing with room for all of their children.
Possessions being treated as territory markers. Shut that down
NTA
She is basically trying to make you be a guest in your own home.
This is your home also, you are entitle to your space.
If she keeps pushing, maybe inform your dad what is going on. Make sure he understands that she is basically stating that you truly don’t live there since your belongings cannot reside in your room.
NTA. She’s trying to expand her territory. Do you have your own bed or do you sleep on the couch?
I would tell your dad you get your own space and room or you will move all your stuff to moms and not come back.
NTA
How long have they been married? Do you otherwise get along with your stepmom and -sisters? Are you hopeful the marriage will last?
Explain the problem to your dad, and see if he can find a place somewhere else in the home to store your athletic stuff.
I would take everything to mom’s house and then stayed there. Dad can suck lemons.
NTA.
Don’t pack up anything. If you do. She will put it in the garage or attic, to take your space.
Talk to dad and step mom about what is happening, and how you feel. Asking them to help you by clearly reviewing the room is shared 3 ways with the other two, and ask dad and stepmom to maybe put blue painters tape lines on the floor, and inform both stepsisters that they are to keep thier stuff within thier spaces, stop pushing you out and neither of them is to try any more games to push you out!.
Hope step mom is willing to listen.
Tell her life is not fair but it’s easier to deal with the sooner you learn to cope with it.
Also since you’re minors you can legally do this without the person being audio recorded consent, record her saying this stuff and play it for the parents. Let them know what’s going on and how you plan to deal with it and if they have any suggestions to improve on your thoughts. Recording is necessary so you don’t come off as a liar trying to make your step sister look bad which would probably be easy for the step sister to do pending how loyal the 11 year old is
NTA.
Why the hell are 3 teens sharing a room??? Your dad needs a bigger place!! But on this subject, tell your dad what she is asking and tell him to either shut her down or come up with a better rooming situation.
NTA! It’s YOUR room too. I’d talk to your dad about this. Lugging stuff back and forth on the bus isn’t right.
You three should not be sharing a room that small if no one has enough space.