So me and two friends (A and B) decided to rent an Airbnb and the whole cost was $600.00 (I’m rounding it up to make it easier). Friend A was the one who made the reservation and paid in full so that me and friend B would give A our share ($200.00 each) later. not to long after our trip i decided to not go anymore for personal and safety reasons, but the rental Host would only give 50% refund if we cancelled and both friend A and friend B still wanted to go. I said if they still wanted to go I would give my share ($200.00) since I took the responsibility of being part of it before and they could go without me.
friend A said that I should pay $300.00 because I was the one who didn’t want to go, not them, and if they were to cancel it that would be the total loss. I didn’t agree with it, because why would I pay for half of the trip when is not even canceled yet? Friend A says they would ask another person if they wanted to go, but if they didn’t then they expected me to pay $300.00. I, once again said that wouldn’t be fair and that I would pay my share only.
the next day friend A sends a message informing me that the other person they invited did not want to go and that they had cancelled the house, a picture was sent with proof of refund. Now they expected that I paid the full amount of $300.00 because I backed out first, even though they also chose to cancel it, and also said they did not want to ask for person‘s B share because they too wanted to go. I told them that if they ask for person‘s B share or not is not my problem, my only responsibility now is paying my part.
But now that the refund was made I believe that the correct amount for each person to pay is of $100.00 and I still think it should be split equally since they opted out of going as well, I never forced them to not go but actually said I would still pay MY part in full and they chose not to go. Once again the said I was being unfair and should take all the loss. I refused and sent $105.00 for my share and told them that was my share and that it would be all I was going to pay.
so AITAH for not paying for the whole thing?
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Give them 100 or nothing
NTA. You did everything right. I can’t understand their “logic” of asking for more than $200 if they went, or $100 if they didn’t
NTA you guys made a prior agreement to split the pay three ways and they both decided to cancel so it should still be split three ways evenly. you’re not responsible for them not going since you would’ve paid your share
NTA. You offered to pay your full share even though you weren’t going, which was already generous. They chose to cancel instead of going without you, so that’s on them. It’s not fair to push the full loss on you when the decision to cancel was mutual. You didn’t back out and say “good luck,” you literally tried to make it work for them. Splitting the loss equally after the refund makes the most sense. They’re just mad because you didn’t let them guilt you into paying more.
NTA. You backed out, yes but you offered to pay your full $200 so they could still go. They chose to cancel. That’s on them.
Friend A can’t shift the entire loss onto you just because you were the first to drop out. If they wanted to go, they should’ve gone you weren’t stopping them. The fair thing was to split the lost 50% refund ($300) three ways = $100 each. You even paid a little extra.
Honestly, they’re being manipulative. You handled it like an adult.
NTA. You did not cancel the trip. You simply chose not to go. You even offered to pay your full share so they could still go without you, which was the responsible thing to do. They made the decision to cancel, and that is on them. Friend A is just trying to shift the blame and cost onto you. You handled this fairly and with maturity.
Nope.
You were obliged to pay back only the $200 that was your share.
That means they could have still gone ahead and suffered absolutely no loss.
And they also suffered no loss when they chose to cancel (which they had absolutely no financial need to do).
NTA
NTA, you offered to pay your full share even though you weren’t going. They chose to cancel the whole trip, that was their decision tho. Asking you to pay $300 just caused you backed out first?? They’re crazy!!
thank you guys for the comments. I thought it was simple logic but they kept going at it as if I was just being dumb and cheap, I was starting to believe I was going crazy. Burnt my last brain cells with that one not gonna lie.
YTA
You let someone enter a binding agreement on your and friends behalf. So they already stuck their neck out and they trusted you. Then you cancel, effectively breaking the contract you would have made, but friend A implicitly trusted you and signed for all of you. Then you try to get out without consequences to you but have friendxA bear the burden. Effectively: so long! This is a you problem.
Financially: 600 three ways is 200 each. However, you and friend c want out while friend A still wants to go. Friend b and c are the cause of the cancellation since they “broke” the contract. Hence they should indemnify (make whole) friend A who is now out 200 for trusting friend b and c.
Legally, friend A signed and B and C dint owe anything except for whatever agreements they made between then separately.
Yta because you let a friend enter a legal contract on your behalf, then broke it. Then tried to let him bear the financial burden of your decision. The fact you don’t realise makes yta
The ‘friend’ suggesting you should pay for everything is not really your friend…. But they are the AH.
Pay 150….