I (19F) recently posted a pic on my Instagram – nothing crazy, it was just me at the beach in one of those high-waisted swimsuits, with a loose shirt on top. it was from a trip with my friends and I really liked how I looked in it.
My boyfriend (20M) saw it and was cool with it, even liked it. but a day later, one of his friends apparently sent it in their group chat and said something like “she’s really posting that for everyone huh?”
My boyfriend told me about it and asked nicely if I could take it down to avoid “drama” with his friends. I was honestly confused. the picture wasn’t even revealing and I wasn’t posting it for anyone. I told him it made me feel confident and I wasn’t gonna delete something just cause his friend was weird about it.
He said I was being stubborn and now there’s tension. I get not wanting drama, but I don’t think I should let someone else’s insecurity decide what I post. plus it’s not like I post anything that wild — you can literally see the vibe yourself.
AITAH?
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NTA, pretty telling that your boyfriend’s response was asking you to make a change instead of telling his friend to mind his own business.
NTA – boyfriend should be on your side, not his friends
God forbid your boyfriend asks to you be modest. I hate whores
Why are bitches always seeking external validation?
NTA.
Your boyfriend’s friend is the one creating drama. You did nothing wrong.
This is a red flag in my opinion. I suggest you really look at your relationship with your boyfriend and really see if there are more red flags.
There are red flags he’s been giving and you haven’t been paying attention to them.
This is controlling behaviour and sexism. You’re being sexualised and then blamed for it.
Your boyfriend and his friend are both bullies trying to tell you how to live, and you’d do better without either of them.
NTA
NTA – do you really wanna be dating a little boy whose easily swayed by (and sides with) his friends on things that don’t concern them?
NTA. Bf needs to learn to deal with peer pressure. He’d rather control you and shame you then tell his friend to eff off, or laugh in his face, which is the correct actions.
NTA. Stupid of your boyfriend to be cool with it one minute and then pissed off the next, just because his friend doesn’t like it? Your boyfriend should be more concerned as to why his friend is talking about your posts like that.
Your friend’s insecurity doesn’t entitle them to control your social media—your page, your rules.
Thank you for being honest about your confusion. I mean, you could have lied and said that you weren’t confused about it, but instead you chose to be honest. Thank you.
Your boyfriend is wrong. Period. You can post what ever you want of yourself